Do you think it's best to stop talking to my ex? it's really hard, no matter what i choose do to?

Question

my ex broke up with me about 4 months ago and we have been talking almost everyday since. he says he wants to be friends with me, and i do to, but i still have feelings for him

he's fallen in live with another girl from our college and it really hurts me to know that he thinks about her

maybe i should stop taking to him, even though i love him, for my sake

what will i do when school starts?

i'm really feeling down... i lost him as a boyfriend, i may have to lose him as a friend now too

Answer 1

Oh, sorry to hear that. I know it must be hard but at least his still making the effort to be your friend and i think you will regret it if you stop. You have to accept that his moved on and you will too but until then just try not to think about it because it will be your turn soon :)

Answer 2

remember he left u for her! all he wants is to get some if he can..give urself value dont talk to him forget him move on

Answer 3

out of contact is out of mind....the only solution that works.

Answer 4

You really have to see why you broke up in the beginning. Can it ever work out again between the two of you? If the answer is no then you will always be friends just distance yourself little by little. When you start dating again it will be easier on you in the mean time find something to keep you busy.

Answer 5

I disagree with JayJay.

You just need time for this.

Obviously, if you two were going out, then you'd have feelings for him.

Especially if HE broke up with YOU.

So you should just let time heal you.

Don't give up your connections with him. Maybe you can limit yourself a bit, though. Don't talk every single day. Maybe twice or three times a week.

In time, when you've moved on, you may appreciate your ex as a great friend.  

Answer 6

I had this same problem with a guy i dated a couple of years ago. The best way is to just not talk to him as much and start talking to other guys which will help get your mind off of him.

Answer 7

For you the friendship is not working and it is hurting you.  Take a little down time and tell him you want some room to heal or whatever.  In time you'll feel better about it.  But right now the wound is too fresh to just pretend it doesn't hurt.  If you get around to wanting to be closer in the future, you can, plus you've healed from your break up.  He can't expect you to act like nothing ever happened.