Do you think it's cowardly for a person in this adoption forum to ask a question on adoption and then?

Question

block people whose answers they disagree with? And then to send that person an email knowing that they cannot respond?

I feel that if people are so defensive, they must have something to hid, in regards to their adoption query. What do you think?

Answer 1

I agree with Sunny on this one.  I've been blocked and "boycotted" by a person and have had answers deleted, numerous thumbs down for telling an experience and not even expressing an opinion, and, the best of all, being accused of being some sort of secret "plant".  I look at it as entertainment.  It's yahoo...no big deal.

Answer 2

Sounds like someone is playing games.

Answer 3

I dont like people that block other users just because they didnt like their answers, as far as them having something to hide if they do that is really their business and no one elses...

Answer 4

We have a prob with U because you KNOW NOTHING about adoption and yet think you are fit to want to adopt, even though you think women should serve men, foster children are dangerous, and mixed races are bad.  You need to wake up and smell the twenty-first century.  Anyone who allows you to adopt should be charged with child endangerment because the way you raise your bio children is UNHEALTHY......

Answer 5

Just my opinion but I don't think its right to block anyone unless they've done more than just "hurt your feelings"

If someone is stalking you, harrassing you than yes block them....but I think to block someone because you dont share the same views is just a little childish, in the few weeks I've been on here even I've had my eyes opened a fair bit.... we all have something to learn from one another

**** I know that its a certain person that your talking about, and to be honest if you have a problem with her, why don't you try contacting her in a nice polite fashion ?

Answer 6

you know what it is like the have something to hid becaudse you  

cant respond so you are thinking in your head is something wrong with them or are they in trouble or what so i agrue with you.

Answer 7

Not really...  Maybe they actually want information and know that certain people won't give them the information they want, so don't want to bother sifting through the answers.  

After all, it's people on both sides of the fence who do.  Some people may not want to hear anything bad about adoption, some people may not want to know they're wife is lying to them, or some people may just be annoyed with others grandstanding.  It's really a matter of personal prefence.  

However, I DO wish yahoo answers wouldn't even DISPLAY questions from people who have blocked you.  It seems sorta stupid to put up a question you can't even read.

Answer 8

I have had a few- however don't worry about it so much- just delete or block them too-  I was about to leave this forum , because some people hated me for having a good adoption experience-  both as an adoptee and as an adoptive parent.  Hang in there-

Answer 9

I think it is more cowardly to post a question such as yours.

I think this question is very defensive and degrading to whomever you are talking about, and it has nothing to do with "Adoption".  It should be deleted.

Answer 10

I believe blocking is a right that yahoo gave us to use however we see fit. What is this great sin /harm in blocking someone? There are arrogant, nasties that I would avoid/ignore out in the real world why can I not have the same privacy where I play. I don't feel I need any dam good reason only because I want to never deal w/ that person again. I owe no apologies or reasons for why I block.  I block for many reasons that are my own.  Now, answering nasty and then run home to close your email is WRONG...if you can dish it out you better beable to take a jab or two.

Answer 11

You and she are both posting questions like this and it's inappropriate.  You are both in the wrong.  This area is for people who want to ask questions about adoptions.  Instead of asking real questions, you two are bickering, and if you keep it up, Yahoo might just shut you both down.

If anyone wants to block you, that's their right.  If they don't like what you say to them, it's their right to not answer your email.  You're both equally defensive.  If someone else has "something to hide" about their adoption, it's actually none of your business anyway, so please stop your bickering.

Answer 12

I think you stand out because many of your views are, well, "old fashioned." Some of your questions I could not even respond to because they were so judgmental and infuriating that I would have gone off and I don't really like to do that. You need to understand that very few people, especially women, are like you. I personally have never met anyone like you except maybe my great grandmother, who was born in the mid 1800's. This is 2008! What works for you, works for you but you should not pass judgment on others for living in the 21st century. It is actually pretty good here. You should come over sometime. Peace.

Answer 13

I think these types of questions don't belong on this forum.

Answer 14

Yes I do think it is cowardly for a person to block people because they don't like the answers--especially if they are calling someone out or asking inflamatory questions.  

I think Kit-E-Kat hit the nail on the head:  "People don't really want actualy answers, but rather affirmation of their own beliefs or opinions."

Answer 15

Yes.  It is.  I have been blocked by some who then ask questions directly of adoptees.  THEN they say that the adoptees aren't answering because they know that person is right.  Now THAT is just plain dirty!  

It happens to everyone and there is not much we can do about it.

Sorry if it happened to you.

Answer 16

I think that blocking people and the reason behind it is best left to each and every one of us. I don't have anyone blocked but I have been blocked by a few. Who cares really? Sure it might be a bit juvenile to block someone just because you don't agree with them or their answers but is it really that big of a deal?

Answer 17

this shouldnt be in this section

Answer 18

I think when Y!Answers starts hurting your feelings, you need to take a break.

Answer 19

I once had a lot of participants blocked because I misunderstood what "blocking" was. I thought it primarily prevented being emailed which was something I was not interested in due to the "mud slinging" I was reading about. I just didn't take the time to do my homework on it.

I learned the hard way (by posing a question directed to adoptees) how wrong I was. I unblocked everyone immediately and posted and apology which was subsequently reported and deleted because it was not a question. Go figure.

Blocking can sometimes be a misunderstanding, as it was in my case. I have nothing to hide nor do I feel like I have to be defensive about my experiences with adoption. As far as I know, I've been blocked by one person because she did not agree with me.

Answer 20

sure. and i also think it cowardly to report someone's question as a violation, simply just because the questioner wrote something one doesn't like; or to post questions with NO relevance to adoption. but it happens everyday, doesn't i? :-/

"we suffer from an empathy deficit."- b. obama

ETA- i totally agree w/ sunny and ghost...

Answer 21

Why do you care?  Just don't have anything to do with them.

Answer 22

That happens a lot all over this site.  You learn that very often people don't want actual answers, but rather affirmation of their own beliefs or opinions.

Which I think is fine, but it seems silly to use a public forum and then weed out only the answers you want!

Personally I would never block someone unless they were stalking and false reporting me.  I've got better things to worry about.