Do you think it's harder being a single parent or a single dad?

Question

And i'm not talking about the dad has costody. . .i'm talking about he's just involved be it a court order to pay chid support or he's supporting it himself out of his own moral values.

Which do you think is harder? Not just finacially but socially, mentally. . .

Answer 1

If the single dad or mom is just writing checks, then yes it must be hard to not be there. But, it is the dad or moms choice so I will choose that is is harder for the parent actually parenting!

I thought this was going to be about single moms vs single dads, and I think being a single dad is harder because there is less help out there and not much support for a man who parents his children on his own.  

Answer 2

I have a 20 yr old and a 6 yr old. Two totally different situations with the Dads.

My 20 yr olds Dad wanted nothing to do with her and did not want to pay support. He even quit jobs to avoid it, for 20 yrs now!

I felt heart broken for her and tried to never mention him.

My son is 6 and his Dad is very involved. He actually handles him better than I do. They have a bond that my son and I do not have. I do think it is harder on him to be away from my son, than it is on me. They seem to truly have a bond.

I think men with custody have it easiler than women, be cause everyone acts like they are heros and trips over themselves to give "free, unlimited" help to this "poor" father. However, I do see how hard being apart is for both of them, even though Daniel was less than 1yr old when his Dad and I divorced. He can't possibly "miss" being a family, but somehow he brings it up constantly.

He has even told me that he wants to be a baby again so that we can be a family. I hear the 1-2 hour conversations that he has with his Dad on the phone and it can be heart wrenching to hear his voice full of pain.

Answer 3

Its a lot easier to write a check than it is to look in the eyes of a disappointed child explaining why daddy didnt come today.

Answer 4

Being a single dad is being a single parent... Unless the dad is just paying support and not being a part of the childs life.

Being a parent is hard, no matter what.  No matter if you have the support of many or the support of no one.  

Answer 5

That depends on the dad. It has got to be heartbreaking for a loving, caring father to not be able to be with his children everyday.  

Answer 6

huh? a single parent or a single dad?? are dad's not parents? ok, actually, i know a few that shouldnt really call themselves that.

Answer 7

It's much harder to be a single parent than it is to pay child support. Anyone can write a check, not everyone can be a mommy or a daddy.