Do you think it's right for people to assume if someone disagrees with them they are all the same people?

Question

I'm so frustrated. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop giving me advice on how to handle In Cognito. That's so my bad for even mentioning her because it's so NOT THE POINT of this post. The thing that really sets me off is that I HATE Oldfashionedmom!!! She is a racist and I've actually called her out on it on many post. She is everything I NEVER want to be in life. So, for me to be accused of being her just makes me sick to my stomach. All I want people to get out of this post is that I am not Oldfashionedmom, I'm straight up Cowboyfan!!!

Answer 1

You so crazy!!

Are you single?

i live with my mom.

really tho i feel ya. i had 2 make my new account today cuz i too had probs with a raceist.

Answer 2

I think that you guys need to work your personal differences off yahoo answers. You guys are freaking me out here. The last couple days you've been really going at eachothers throats, you don't even know eachother. Everyone just take a deep breath.

I had to take a minor break from yahoo cause I felt cornered and have re-focused my agenda here and am feeling alot better. Maybe just take a break and don't get so worked up about someone emailing you or take the ability for others to email you off of your profile for a bit to keep focused on your reasons for being here. What you may find odd, may be comfortable for others. I don't  mind people emailing me, and I speak on the phone to a couple people I've known online for years.

Nobody is ever going to find an end or peace at this if you both keep calling each other out like this.

Answer 3

I don't know what to think, really

C'mon ladies, sort it out

Answer 4

I don't think its appropriate to pick on people on here. Were all entitled to our opinions and in fact I gave one earlier that ticked a lot of people off. This should be for fun and helping others and not taken so seriously so lighten up people!! If there is someone stalking people or sending incessant emails they have some obvious issues or no life at all you choose. The people who are doing these things are just small minded so ignore them.

Answer 5

Regardless of what you think or don't think about me, I stand by my beliefs (none of which include racism incidentally) and also have the decency to not write questions as a thin veil to insult other users.  Did you not mention in the long, albeit rude, email you sent me that you are a Christian?  Yet you HATE a person based on information misinterpreted by you on the internet?

I don't honestly know what to think, most of this forum appears to be filled with people just hurling childish insults at each other, reminiscent of toddlers in a playground.

I don't know what your trouble is about, but could you be protesting too much?

God bless.

EDIT:  Well Cowboy Fan, I will explain to you once again, as I did in my email back to you (which you conveniently forget to mention).  Racism can be defined as believing you are superior to or better than another person based purely on ethnicity.  It could also allude to making a generalisation about an entire minority group, or false assumptions on a minority group based on ethnicity.

My reasons for COSIDERING the adoption of a caucasian child only is that I believe, given the rest of family heritage lost, that a CHILD has a RIGHT to be raised in a family that has similar cultural practices to him or her.  I aknowledge that I would be unable to adequately provide for, say, an african-american child, I do not know enough of their heritage, and although willing to learn, I fear I would fail that child.

For the same reasons, I feel that inter-racial marriages should only be entered to after very careful thought in regards to producing children.  That however is just my opinion, not fact.

Perhaps if you are going to slander someone based purely on one statement that you appear unable and unwilling to understand, it would be prudent to gather all the facts first?  Just a thought, take care Cowboy Fan.

Dave F:  I answered 2 of your questions.  It hardly took me all morning, I suspect the 3 emails you sent me were actually more time consuming.

And if by 'hurling insults' you are referring to giving my opinion as part of a very honest answer, once again, do you have something to hide?

Answer 6

you know..all this c**p gets frustrating..the t*t for tats...the insults etc..it really is unnecessary..I can understand her point and speaking her mind as well..when I first came in here...I was also attacked because I was agreeing with Shelly...some people have taken the insults way to far...we all should have an opinion and not be attacked for it...

OLDFas....my husband is Hispanic...my 3 kids are mixed as well..and I'm very proud to say it..my kids have not suffered from this in any way...and if people have a problem with that...that is their issue..I could careless what others think...that's it guys..have a good one...just don't understand why we can't just learn from one another and respect the views of others

Answer 7

What's this?  Stalking?  Multiple accounds?  Harrassing?

Noodles is that you?? lol  Oh yeah, you haven't pulled out the "n**i" card, I guess it isn't.  

Carry on. (snarkety snark)

(I'm just joking around...)

Answer 8

why do you CARE?????????

Answer 9

I think since this is a serious forum, that perhaps the smart remarks and the poking fun at should be not be used here and we should always value other peoples opinion even if we don't agree. Being a birthmom, my opinion is bound to be different that someone elses. I hate to see everyone attacking people just because their opinion differs. That's just silly.

I have learned alot in this forum and I hope to learn more. So thanks everyone.

Answer 10

Take 10 deep deep DEEP breaths

Answer 11

I honestly believe that when it all gets to a point where you are feeling that upset and frustrated that you need to take a breather for a day or so.

Some people are just ignorant and you need to side step them

Answer 12

I'm not familiar with what took place but I will offer this advice:

Take a break now and then. We all have different adoption experiences and it takes time to sort out what meaningful information we each have to offer. Figure out what your goal and purpose is on this site and stick to it. Otherwise you get caught up in too much drama. Who needs that?



Refuse to answer questions that ruffle your feathers and focus on answering only the questions that will most benefit from your own experience.

Answer 13

Can't we all just get along?

Answer 14

Um, maybe you guys better work this out outside of Yahoo.

I do agree with you on oldfashion...she really needs to search deep in her heart as to why she wants to adopt. Because I was raised by two white parents, and i never felt i missed out on anything, nor did i resent them because i didn't know my hertiage. When i got older, i searched for myself. So her agruements about why she wants a white baby falls on deaf ears.

Answer 15

I totally feel you Cowboy Fan. I'm new to this portion of YA but appears I need to keep an eye out for this In Cognito. I wouldn't want to be called a racist either. That's just so crossing the line. Especially if your son is Black!

Oh my gosh, I've been checking out some open questions on this forum. I found the infamous In Cogntito so I thought I would check her out. You wouldn't believe it. Dude, I'm already blocked. I feel so special. My first blocking. I haven't even answered a question except for this one and I'm already blocked.

Answer 16

Meh.

Just meh.

For the most part I couldn't care less who you are, or who half the people here are. There are a few I talk to outside of Y!A but beyond them I just haven't the time or energy to care.

I do however hate racists.

I have talked to Florida Gal outside of Y!A and to be honest I didn't think she was trying to do anything other than engage me in a normal conversation, or was I engaging her? I forget LOL.  I am a pretty friendly person, d**n adoptee issues and the need to please. Our conversations have always been friendly and I haven't experienced anything like what you describe. Neither have I had any issues with you beyond the occasional post of yours that has me questioning your sanity, I question everyone's sanity though... including my own.