Do you think it's right to bring my daughter to the gym.?

Question

My daughter is 12 years old and she weighs 137 lbs.!I am taking her to the gym i know it might be embarrassing to bring her to the gym with all the adults.But it is for her own good.She hates me.Should i stop taking her

Answer 1

Make it a mother daughter thing, like you both work out and have fun! I think its great your trying to help her before its to late (weight wise)

I think you should keep taken her. Work out together then have a health shake or something after

Answer 2

How tall is she? It might be better for her to join a sport she enjoys that way she is getting exercise, but not getting embarrassed.

Answer 3

You should just start her eating healthy and get her on a maintained diet. Don't take her to a gym until she gets her confidence up.

Answer 4

Well, ask her dauther how she feels about her SIZE. i mean if she happy that is good, but eplain to her the health factor in it. It will scare the guts out of her and she'll go. So i go to the gym with adults there its fine. She shouldnt hate u from trying to make u healthy. I would recommed not having her join a sport, she will just be a bench warmer. Maybe get a tredmill so she can work out at home. But running only wont burn off the fat, get rid of junk food have have small protion meals. Dont alow  much snacking.

Answer 5

Well when I was younger my dad took me to the gym i hated it!But after a while I started to lose so much weight.In the end your daughter will be happy.The only thing I could say is to take her to a kid gym so she won't feel so embarrassed.also going to the gym wont always help if she doesn't try.

Answer 6

It's for her own good. She is extremly over weigt and not trying to make her lose weight can increase her chances in getting:asthma,dieabetes,cancer,highbloo... pressure and.(WELL I COULD JUST GO FOR EVER) My son was over weight I took him to the gym and he was'nt embrassed. Now he's thanking me for making him lose weight, which made him make so many friends at school.

Answer 7

That's a tough one. You want her to know that you respect her enough  to  not embarrass her. But,  you want to stress that  you  are concerned about her  health and  well being.  Have HER come up with some ideas.  Put  some  of the responsibility on her  to  find  something that  she would like to do  that  will make  her  healthy  and  get her into shape.  After all,  if she doesn't  want to do it,  even if you  force  her,  she  won't maintain  it.   Here are some suggestions  that 12 year old girls  might  like:  a dance  class (there are lots of hip hop/urban dance  classes  that  are  really good, if  she's into that), bike riding, hiking, swimming.  She's  probably  very body conscious,  so  maybe  you can  find  something that doesn't  involve skimpy outfits.  Good  luck!

Answer 8

Actually there is a new craze of gyms for kids going up all over the place.  I forget the name of them but there is one up the street from me.

I would say, being 12 she is still probably under your rule as far as food at the house.  Manage that first.  Try to get the bad stuff out and the good stuff in.  Maybe if you encourage her by helping her with the food in the house she will begin to make better choices outside of the house.

Sit down with her and talk to her.  I know I hate going to the gym for many reasons.  Maybe if you can make a deal with her, visit the gym 3 times a week she can go to a movie or pick out a cool piece of jewelry?  Something to get her more motivated.  Once she gets more into it and sees results you can probably back off of that.

You do not want to force her to go and turn her off completely.  It is a very delicate situation.  

Maybe you can offer exercising with her outside - when the weather is nice, or a personal trainer for a few sessions when you are not there?

It is a hard place to be but you have to stay involved for her health.

Answer 9

if she doesn't want to go to the gym (and it will be something that causes her to just hate exercising even more), why not get a few exercise videos she can do in your house? or take her swimming, or for walks or jogs, or take her skating or skiing or sledding, or sign her up for team sports if she's interested? or play fun music and let her dance for a half hour, or even try something like dance dance revolution that might keep her moving? there are lots of ways to get in shape that don't involve the gym.

Answer 10

STOP.

You will only give her an excuse to eat more and exercise less if you make this a battle between the two of you.

Serve healthy food. Keep junk out of the house, teach her by example to eat well and exercise. Find something physical that she enjoys and encourage her to do it. You are not her enemy so don't make her feel like you are.

Answer 11

This is how parents contribute to their children having eating disorders. Your supposed to teach her to love her herself, not to be ashamed of her body. You are taking the totally wrong approach to this situation.

Answer 12

of course you should stop taking her. What good do you think you are doing her by embarrassing her? You will only hurt her self esteem and make her feel bad about herself.

make it a family issue and get the whole family moving. Go for bike rides or fast walks together. exercise together andmake it fun. Make sure you serve healthy foods.

how overweight she is also depends on how tall she is. I am only 5'1 and I weigh 120lbs which is not overweight.