Do you think it's too soon to want to get married?

Question

My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage. I love him soo much and want to marry him more than anything and I would but we have only been together for three months. I told him to wait until we reach our 6 month anniversary but do you think this is still too soon? Our relationship has been absolutely wonderful and I want nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with him.

Answer 1

Way too soon.  3 months isn't enough time to get to know someone.  If things are that great, it won't hurt to wait to get married.  It is stupid to jump into marriage before you know someone.  

Answer 2

If you aren't compatible if will show it self sooner or later so getting married whenever doesn't matter. But if you guys do love each other then it will work out. No matter how late or early the marriage happens, meant or not meant to work, the outcome will always be different. I tried to explain my point as clearly as possible. Lol sorry if it's confusing.

Answer 3

Do NOT get married or you'lle regret it your whole life...and what's more:three months or six months?! Too short time!

Answer 4

In my opinion if you are 21 or older and the feelings are mutual, Get married.

Why shack up and wait years?  Tomorrow is not promised.

If you are 16 or still in high school this does not apply to you.

Answer 5

One of my friends got engaged after 3 months married after 9. 16 years on they are still together

Another friends married after 8 months together Divorced 3 years later.

It depends on who you and what you are and a lot of other things in life. Life gives no guarantees.

Answer 6

At 3 months you hardly know each other. Its still a *puppy* love / honeymoon time. You need to spend at least a year ( if your over 25) 2 years ( if under 25) to see it this is something that can work a lifetime. That time to build this into a lifetime....good Luck

Answer 7

I've been with my man for 15 months and we just started shacking up. I would marry him if he asked. That said, it depends on your age and how much you have in common for the long haul (goals, morals, values, dreams, hobbies, personality traits). I have dated three guys before mine now...one for 7 years, one for 3 years, and one for 15 months. None of them worked out although it seemed they would during the beginning. It'd be best to wait. Ihave noticed that with my man now I am not stressing about marriage because I am so happy with him day to day, no need for us to rush because we both know it will work out and we enjoy each other one day at a time.

Answer 8

If you guys are so in love, you should be able to wait to get married for a little while. As much as you say you are in love, three months isn't long enough to really know someone fully. I would at least wait a year, I know that seems like such a long time, you both will have time to think about your relationship and since you are both in love as you say, you guys will be able to wait. But you know it's your choice, and you aren't going to change your mind, I understand that(:

Okay, now you guys definitally need to wait 1-2 years with that age difference. Don't do something you'll regret, you guys should be able to wait.

Answer 9

No one can answer this question for you. For all we know, you could get married to him and spend the rest of your life with him happily.

Or, you could be making too quick of a decision and setting yourself up for painful years and divorce.

In my opinion, why not wait a while until you get married. You can even tell people you're married and act married if it's so important, but actually wait on the official court papers. If you two are going to be together forever, then it's really not so important to tie the knot immediately since you two have the rest of your lives together.

Congratulations on being in love. It's a great feeling and emotion!

Answer 10

Just go ahead , get married all the best. early you get married , u will get enough time to correct your mistake ( if any ).

Answer 11

I think if you know, you know!! I would marry you lol! obviously this is not the place for answers to REAL questions haha

Answer 12

Of course this is totally up to you, but I don't think you can fully know each other after 3 months. Give it 8 months to a year. And use that time to make sure that you want the same things in life. Do you have the same views on your future, kids, money, etc.? I'm guessing that because your boyfriend is a little older, he wants to settle down and be done with the dating scene, and thats ok, but there's no good reason to rush it. Spend as much time as possible together. Your relationship is so new, I'm sure both of you have overlooked the little flaws that everybody has. In another year, you'll be able to see him and know him more clearly. Right now you're still blinded with young love. Give it a little time, if it was meant to be, than it still will be meant to be in a year.  

Answer 13

It might not be too soon to WANT to get married, but it's definitely too soon to actually get married.

It takes at least a year and a half to two years before you actually know someone well enough to know if you could conceivably spend forever with them. All you have to do is spend a few minutes in the Marriage and Divorce section of Y!A to know that marriage can be difficult enough to maintain without sabotaging yourself by marrying someone that you hardly know.  

Answer 14

Not sure how old you are, which makes a big difference. If you are under 22 then maybe wait a bit because you might grow apart a bit as you get older and get different interests. I got engaged after 8 months, but knew after 3 months that my wife is the one. And I am so happily married and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I know someone that got married after 2 weeks, and now 15 years later he is still very much happily married. If you know, you know

Answer 15

You cannot ask others. If U R confident that nothing will go wrong than go ahead.

Answer 16

do yourself a favour..wait 2 years..and live with him first. You still wanna get married in 2 years..Ill buy you a wedding gift..deal :)

Answer 17

First of all, don't listen to what I say or anyone else on here says. Trust your own instincts. Every relationship is different. My parents got married after only knowing eachother a few weeks and they are still going strong. My husband and I dated for 3 months before we got married(we've been married 7 months). But, not every situation turns out good. I cannot speak for your situation cuz I am not you and I dont know you either. When the time is right, you won't have to seek the opinion of others, you'll just know.

Answer 18

That's your hormones talking there, princess.

Best to wait about two years, once the "newness" wears off, then you will know if he is the one.

Answer 19

Know each other at least a year.  Celebrate all the holidays.  And travel together... yup, wayyyy toooo soon.  You are still in lala land... and as well, wait easily 2 or 3 years before you have children... nothing puts a bigger wedge in a new marriage than a pregnancy... as my mama said, "kids are not bonding they are divisive."

Answer 20

You should wait even longer than 6 months to really get to know the guy and all his little quirks.  6 months is not long enough to know anyone.