Do you think it's unneeded torture or just human nature?

Question

When you loose a loved one for whatever reason (child going back to school all day, good friend moves away, break up w/ boyfriend, etc) when you see something that remind you of them it makes you cry? Like a favorite movie of theirs, or restaurant, etc. My husband claims that I just torture myself thinking like that, but I think it's just human nature. What are your thoughts? It's not obsessive or all the time thoughts, just more so in the beginning and then less as time passes.

Answer 1

ask your husband if he has the family photo in his wallet, and if he does, when was the last time he took a good look at it.

i doubt he understnds how you feel.

some people have a strong sense of caring for children friends etc and most really don't care.

Answer 2

Uh...no..I think it's unneeded torture/ or extreme sensitivity..

Answer 3

It's very normal and like you say, it gets better as time passes.

Answer 4

I think it's torture to be honest, I think most people do think that way, but doesn't make it human nature?  I personally don't think so. The way we think comes from upbringing etc and that;s no more human nature that speaking english or japanese, just depends where you where raised.

I have a website that deals with this you might  find interesting.  Some good links to

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com/relat...

The article is about this sort of thing in relationships but you can apply the principle to anything really.

best of luck

Answer 5

Its natural to some, some of us cant completely let go,which is ok. Perhaps your life now isnt a good as when you were with that person and you want it back. Or maybe its just our way of dealing with loss and never wanting to forget.

Answer 6

That's a thought anyone has when there has been a loss..even with that of an animal who was loved and part of the family.. Why do we set ourselves up for this pain? I guess in the long run, it's worth the risk. The good outweighs the bad...