Do you think it is cruel to choose to pierce you childs ears?

Question

I mean I get it, its THEIR right to choose when they get older. BUT, you would think if they decide they like them later don't you save them the pain or remembering it? Besides, piercings close up if they decide to let them. Whats your issue?

Answer 1

I don't think it is right. What if they don't want there ears peirced? And they are not old enough to take care of them.

Answer 2

I had them done at 7 now i dont remember it as much but i had a second hole done at 18 and it was terribly painful and got infected. Because of the earring gun at Claire's/ the Icing. If i could have then done again, i would have them pierced by needle. Ultimately it is the parents choice. I know a lot of people who had their baby girl's ears pierced because otherwise they looked too much like a baby boy.

I wouldn't have a problem with piercing a baby's ears, unless it was a boy!

Answer 3

I don't believe in piercing a baby's ears.  

Aside from earrings being a possible choking hazard and the risk of infection from a not-quite mature immune system, I disagree with it on principle.

They aren't the parent's ears, they belong to the child.  The infant doesn't care if they are wearing earrings or not.  It's about the parent wanting the baby to look cute.

You know, they have these adorable little stickers that look just like little heart or star earrings.  And guess what, they aren't permanent.

I believe in waiting until the child is old enough to make up his/her own mind.

Answer 4

I think a child should decide for themselves if they want a piercing or not...it's a lifetime thing and the holes are there to stay (at least in the ears.)

Answer 5

I can see where it'd be an issue w/ some people. Personally, I would pierce my daughter's ears, as long as she wasn't too young. I hate seeing little babies w/ their ears pierced...that'd be terribly uncomfortable, for as much as they sleep! I would not pierce a boy's ears though. It's not done much anymore, but I think you'd be more likely to run into a problem when they're older b/c it's not as common for boys to pierce their ears as it is for a girl. I'd say 9 out of 10 girls/women have at least one piercing in each ear, so I don't think it'd be such a contraversy when they get older.

Answer 6

no.  its just the ears.

it doesnt even hurt! its just a lil pinch.  a shot hurts more.

Answer 7

I will pierce my children's ears. I'm glad my parents pierced mine, if they wouldn't maybe I would not have the courage to do it till very late

Answer 8

I think getting a childs ears pierced when they are very young helps them not to remember the pain.  But some people like to let their children choose when they get older.  I got mine pierced when i was 8 years old and i still remember the pain.  I pierced my daughter's ears when she was 1 year old, so i doubt she will have a memory of the pain.

Answer 9

No,  i believe it's best to pierce them when they're young. It's something that can be undone, like you said. It's definitely not cruel.

Answer 10

Even though I think babies look so incredibly cute with earrings, I would never pierce my baby's ears.  I do believe it should her decision but more than that I would be concerned with infection or her pulling at them.

Answer 11

I do not think it is cruel to pierce childs ears.  If it's a girl of course.  I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 months old.  I would have gotten them sooner but she was really tiny at birth and the doctor wouldn't do them because of the size of her ears.  I think earlier they won't remember it, and it is a lot more sanitized if done by a doctor.  If they choose later on to not want their ears pierced they can always take them out and let them close.  Not a big deal.

Answer 12

No, i got  mine done when I was really young..

Answer 13

I don't think it's cruel. As a baby they won't remember the little pinch of pain it causes anyway, so long as you make sure to keep them clean so they don't get infected.

Just don't be hypocritical when, at age 12 or 14, they decide they'd like another piercing - cartilage, one of those little nose studs, or whatever - don't say they're not OLD enough to get pierced or to decide to get pierced. Remember that the same arguments apply - if you decide you don't like it, or the look is keeping you from getting a job or something, you can always take those out and let them close up, too.

Answer 14

If you ask the kid if they want their ears pierced then do it. If they say that they DON'T want to get their ears pierced then don't simple.

If they say not they can choose to do it later on. If they say yes they can let them close in if they no longer want it later on.

Answer 15

agree. If they don't like it later, they can let them grow back, but normally when girls grow up they want peirced ears, and i'm sure they wont want to.

Answer 16

i dont think its cruel. Earings are cute. and most girls get them done or want them done anyways. Plus when your really young your parents make your decisions. and If they dont want them later on it life they can just takem out.

Answer 17

i think it s OK not to young tho but girls yes their pretty with them on.

Answer 18

Nah. It doesn't hurt that bad anyway! And I don't think a child would object to have had their ears pierced as a baby. You just have to make sure to clean them so they don't get infected. :)

Answer 19

its cruel

Answer 20

your right it would be their decision, and you would be saving the the memories of the pain. i think you should, i mean eventually at some point of there lives there going to want one, especially if you tell them they can't have one. but yeah why go through the arguments and trouble. nothing really bad can happen, if you pierce there ears and they decide they like them they'll keep'em if not they can always stop wear earings and eventually the piercings will close up as they grow up.

Answer 21

Yes, it is...

Answer 22

I do not agree with piercing babies ears. Babies do not understand the pain or what's happeing. I want my child to atleast be old enough to ask for pierced ears and then they atleast know the pain is coming. The pain is not unbearable, but I don't see any sense in putting a little baby through it against their will. I had to wait til I was 8 to get mine pierced. My niece had hers done at 3 months and by the time she was one, she was taking them out herself and losing them. She's 2 1/2 and they've already closed up, so it seems pretty pointless to me.

And by the way, I don't see the point of using the excuse "i want to do it early, so they won't remember the pain". like i said, i was 8 when i got mine done. the pain is not unbearable and i'm not traumatized from it. i even got 2 more piercings in each ear and a cartilidge piercing when i was 16, so the pain obviously wasn't an issue.

Answer 23

I got my daughter's ears pierced, Some 99% of people have pierced ears and if she doesn't like them when she is older she can take them out. I had mine pierced for 7 years and I don't wear earring anymore and you can't even tell I have a hole in them. they are cute. I got it done when she was three months and she didn't even cry.

Answer 24

The holes are so tiny.... I have never met anyone who complained about having their ears pierced as a baby or toddler (before they could agree or say they wanted it done). My children all got their ears pierced at an early age.

2 of my children did not cry when they got them done.

Answer 25

I think it is very cruel.... it's something that people should get to choose themselves.. and why would you intentionally want to inflict that much pain on a child who may or may not want it in the future...

Answer 26

I had my ears pierced when I was 6 months old. My Mom said I didn't scream or cry at all. My Aunt was 8 and got hers pierced the same day... She bawled the whole way home.

If the child has SUCH a problem with the piercing when they are older, they can just take them out. I am actually grateful that my ears were pierced when I was so young. I hardly ever wear earrings now, but because they have been open so long, they won't close.

To the people saying "what if the child doesn't want their ears pierced"... Do you really think that the child is that concerned about what is in their ears? Most kids I see with pierced ears are perfectly happy.

Answer 27

I think it's really funny when a parent chooses NOT to circumcize their boys, because the pain is too great, and they might be traumatized (in spite of the fact that it is proven to avoid certain infections in babies, and avoid everything up to Cancer in men), yet they argue that it's okay to pierce their daughter's ears when they are infants, because they won't remember the pain, and the only reason for doing so is adornment.

Hmmmm.  whose pain is more important?