Do you think it is normal that your husband do not touch you in a year!? ?

Question

I have only 4 years of marriage and my husband and I almost never have s*x. At the beginning I thought it was because of the hard work he got; now we have much more time together, and no s*x at all. I really feel frustrated, I want to have children, but obviously I do not believe they come by delivery to my door. I am so upset! Today, as I usually am, felt really open, but he, as always, just say:Do you want your breakfast? Yeah! he is that kind of man, the one that cooks, cleans and do "everything" a woman would like to have.. just that small detail that makes me feel like the "least-woman" of the world, the least desirable... he doesn't want to have s*x with me: His wife. We went to a psychologist already, he started talking about he childhood and forgot the main problem... after a lot of money spent... my life is still the same; the only difference is that I cannot hide how upset I am. Probably friends think I am the worst woman in the world... because sometimes I can hide how upset I am... but, do you think it is normal? I am not ugly at all!.. I think I am desirable... I think.

Answer 1

NO, this is not normal. Does he even love you??? You should probably confront him straight up and get everything off of your mind and onto his.

Answer 2

Maybe he is g*y and loves you too much to tell you. Are there any other signs besides him being "the wife"? He def. has issues and he needs to talk to you. You seriously need to sit him down and look him in the face and ask him what his deal is because you have the right to be fulfilled tambien. He needs to be truthful with you. I am sure you can work through anything. Just be open minded and don't freak out no matter what. You have to be gentle because there is an issue and it's not with you being attractive. That has nothing to do with it.

Answer 3

I think you need to spice it up a bit. Maybe he feels uncomfortable about HIS body, not less attracted to you. Try to be more affectionate towards him, do things for him, make him feel really special, then it should come. Tell him you love him more often, call him s**y. I think maybe he's got himself into a rut where he's lost his interest in s*x, just help him regain that interest.  

Answer 4

You need to ask yourself how happy you want to be?  If you are not happy with him and he is not willing to change for you, that what you need to do is get a divorce from him.  You need to be happy as a person with everything you have always wanted from a marriage and if he is not willing to give you that, then you need to just leave and find someone that will.

Answer 5

Yeah that is really weird!  have you spoken about it??? express how you feel...  or set the mood ?

Answer 6

after reading all this answer all i have to say is, or actually would do, put some viagra on his drink and get into some s**y under-wears, and if he still doesn't respond to that, I'm so sorry, he is got to be g*y. you really need to talk to him about why he is not having s*x with you, and about his sexuality.

good luck

Answer 7

men hit "dry spells" on occasion, and so do we. it doesnt mean he doesnt like you anymore, just that he is content enough at the moment just living life with you.

Answer 8

maybe shower an use deodorant. he mabe need good smell to you down at the lady place. i make wife to me do this for us to have the time for good fun.

Answer 9

When you get turned down several times in succession, you tend to give up trying. Since he isn't allowed it when he wants, why should you?

Answer 10

That's not normal, Im married (4 years aswell) and I my husband and I have s*x almost daily. You need to demand answers from him. x

Answer 11

The thing is, don't feel frustrated. it is a little not normal because most men wanna have s*x especially if they are married. so i think maybe you should talk with your husband. there has to be a reason why he doesn't want to do it with you.

Answer 12

Girl I don't know how you have done it! I would have already put a private detective on hi butt and investigated if he had another woman or another man. Have you ever thought he was g*y? Cause I mean this is not normal for a man. Sometimes me and my husband are a week and girl that is the most he will wait. And no matter how much work or how tired you are you are still gonna look for your mate no matter what! I think there is something fishy going on with him I'm sorry but i cant belive a man without s*x for a year. Have you ever thought or doubted  his sexuality?

Answer 13

tell him you'll get it elsewhere!

Answer 14

When you guys DO DO IT does he have his eyes closed and mumbles random male names?

ok after reading the additional stuff i feel bad. Try telling him how you feel and see if he understands i dont think you have much to lose.

Answer 15

im not an adult or anything but if he hasnt touch u in a year thats pretty bad i mean my parents are 53 and the do it once a week i think you should try and turn him on or cheak up on him if hes cheating on but dont take this wat i said so seriusly because im only 14

=)

Answer 16

it may be hard to believe but some men just dont like s*x it could be something that he doesnt like about himself maybe he feels he wont be able to please you try talking to him about it another thing is

did you have s*x a lot before marriage?

Answer 17

you can call a man w***e

Answer 18

get a divorce, find a new man.

Answer 19

he's probably just g*y that's all.  you may have to find some other way to get yourself pleased