Do you think it is ok for girls to go to the doctor and the doctor keep the findings away from the parent?

Question

IF your teenage daughter went to the doctor and she found out something that she didn't want you to know about like being pregnant or having std's they would not tell you. they would even tell her as long as she has any person over 18 with her she can get rid of the baby anyone over 18 like a friend she knows so your child can go to the find out she is pregnant and end the pregnancy without you knowing anything about it. I think this is wrong what do you think?

Answer 1

I don't think it's wrong as such, it's better that they can trust their doctors otherwise they may not seek help for these things which would be worse. However that said, as a parent it is something you want to know about so you can support her through it. I guess the best a mother or father could do is work hard at a good open relationship so your daughter knows she can come to you with these things and then pray like mad that she does. If these options weren't open to young girls wanting to have an abortion they would be turning to other methods, which can be very dangerous.  

Answer 2

I don't think its wrong, but having the doctor tell your parents can help so you don't have to. As far as terminating a pregnancy, i'm pretty sure you don't need parental consent.

Answer 3

As long as this person is living in their parents home, they have the right to know what is going on, especially if the parents are still paying the way for their child.

Answer 4

No, I don't think it is wrong.  There are many situations where the parents are abusive and she needs confidence in her doctor.  Do you think it would be better that girls were afraid to go to the doctor because they were afraid of their parents being told?  A doctor will counsel young girls to talk to their parents anyway.  

Also I have a friend who is now in her 40s.  When she was 16 she got pregnant and her parents FORCED her to have an abortion.  She had no say in the matter whatsoever.  She hasn't spoken to her parents since she turned 18.  Now she is a mother of 8. Don't you think that is wrong?  I believe it should be up to the girl whether or not her parents are in the loop.

Answer 5

I would hope my daughters could be open with me.

I think its okay that the doctors keep things private between them.

I'm happy to know that my daughters are trying to take care of themselves.  

Answer 6

as for doctors and stds i think its good that these girls can go alone and get treated and counseled otherwise they probably wouldnt go at all or untill it was too late you know waiting for the right time to tell a parent and be embarrassed

as for the abortion i think that they should have a parent or legal guardian present because of risks and complications never mind the fact that they only get abortions to hide their activities from their parents its a split second decision one which they most likely didnt take a second to think over which in the end the regret  

Answer 7

If the girl is a minor,

AND

If I as the parent am still supporting her and legally obligated to pay her bills,

AND

If this medical condition could have any affect on her physical or mental or emotional well-being in the future,

Then yes, as the parent, I am entitled to know ahead of time and I am entitled to be part of the decision-making process.  I'm the one who has to live with the consequences, I'm the one who has to take care of my daughter while she goes through whatever it is .... That gives me the privilege of knowing what's going on.

Answer 8

i dont think its wrong. it should be up to the child if she wants to tell her parents or not. if she doesn't want you to know then she wants to hide it from you and she probably would keep other secrets from you too. unless the child's parents would make her get an abortion like the other girls friend had to then she could tell you. are you worried she might be pregnant? just ask her. communication can help so much in your relationship with a child. i should know since i still am a teenager. but i tell my mom pretty much everything. we have a great relationship, but sometimes you just really need to give her space. so if your daughter is mad at you and went and got pregnant to prove to you she is mature and an adult(which wouldn't prove anything but she might think so) then its her own life and she grows up. her choices.  you need to let her have freedom and trust her.

i hope i helped you.