Do you think it is right for a parent to pick their sons major in college?

Question

I am currently going into 9th grade and i get the question a lot form my dad asking me what i want to be when i grow up. Im still unsure of what i want to do. I really enjoy to play video games and i like to do sports.

My dad always wanted me to be a software engineer like him or a doctor like my mom... i want to me in the gaming industry. I want to be part of the team to make new games together. I dont have enough courage to tell him.

Also when I looked at all of the high school clubs my dad told me to pick one. It is not required for me to be in one, but he told me to choose one. I saw there was an athletic club and a gaming club. I asked my dad for those 2 and he said "NO YOU PLAY GAMES TO MUCH!" Now i am really scared to tell him what i want to be when i grow up. I still take all the adv classes offered. I am taking adv math, english and science.

Do you think its right for my dad to pick what clubs and what to major in in college.

thanks for the help...

Answer 1

This is your life, live it. Your dad may not like your decisions, but you need to remind him that they are your decisions. Sit your dad down and explain to him why exactly you want to go into the clubs/major you want to go into. If he isn't the type to sit down and talk things out, just gather up the courage and tell him. He may end up respecting you for it, although, I really don't know your dad.

Do what makes you happy. I wish you all the best.

Answer 2

No

Answer 3

no, it isn't right.

if they do that then later on down the road

your never going to be really happy with what your doing.

Answer 4

Nope. You should be able to choose your own path.

Don't allow your parents to live through you.

Answer 5

Tell Him that if You can't choose your Own Interests, then you're not interested in doing ANY. As for College, you've still got a few Years to go before you need to worry about THAT. And Alot WILL happen between now & then, -so I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just keep on doing the BEST You can in School (for your OWN Best Interests), and let the "Game"- play itself out... Hang in there, & good luck!  :)  

Answer 6

"Do you think its right for my dad to pick what clubs and what to major in in college?"

With all due respect to your successful and highly educated and no doubt well-meaning parents, No!

Clubs are for you, for your interests, and an addition to your studies, but not something oppressive and not fun.

Your major will be your choice, but that's 4 years away! But, you must do the work in college or trade school, wherever you go.  The motivation must be yours, and therefore it must be your choice and desires that guide you.

I would suggest you do some research on qualifications for a gaming industry heavy-weight.  If possible, talk to or have an email or IM conversation with one or more, to find out what the actual work is like.  Do go into it blind, just because you like gaming.

Also, you have plenty of time to become sure of your choices.  I wouldn't confront your parents about it now; it would only upset them and motivate them to argue with you about it.

Answer 7

It's your life, you are your own person and you are the only one who should have the final say in what you do and don't do.  

To me, it sounds like your father somewhat regrets his youth, and is trying to live through you.  It's not a fair thing to do at all, so please, don't let him manipulate you into doing something you do not want to do!  It might take him some time, but he will come around in the end.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

I am sure your dad wants the best for you. Explain to him where your heart is and you need his support. There is nothing wrong with liking games as long as you don't forget about your education. You are still young to decide what you want to do with your life but I can tell you by experience, follow your heart and whatever you do, do it right and with passion.  

Answer 9

While your parents may make suggestions to you regarding your future or might actually want to control your life; once you're 18, you're on your own. Your life, your choices and decisions, and the consequences that arise from them, are strictly your responsibility; which includes where you go to school and what your major will be.

good luck

Answer 10

FOLLOW YOUR BLISS