Do you think it would be a good idea for me to have an 18th Birthday Party?

Question

I have always wanted to have a birthday with all my family and friends together as it would be like a dream come true ..However .. I have lived with my gran ever since i was 2 because my mum is addicted to drugs , as for my dad he hasnt been in contact with me since January and said If i want him I am to contact him. I use to see my dads side of the family often when i was little and I love them lots ..however ..my dad and his family dont get on with eachother and I havnt seen any of them in six years and they havnt contacted me , as for my mums side of the family they all hate one another because of the drug abuse and no one likes my oldest aunt as she has back stabbed the family. I would really have liked it if they just all managed to get on for one night for my birthday ..my gran says I would be making a big mistake inviting my family as there would be an atmosphere and the fact that they couldnt care less about me ..which is harsh but she believes is true ..otherwise they would have contacted me by now. What do yous think would be the best thing to do? I really want something I can look back on and remember

Answer 1

Go for it.

Why is this in the Celebrities section?

Answer 2

Of course! 18th should be one to remember its one of "those birthday's"

Answer 3

"I really want something I can look back on and remember"

Even if these memories arent happy ones?

I say have a party, invite everyone that you love, care about and enjoy spending time with....

if this includes members of your familys then invite them

if it doesnt....just have fun! youre 18!!!!!

good luck

x

Answer 4

No, I think you should make every effort to die before you reach the age of eighteen. Then instead you could have an eighteenth funeral, and they could all come and have a weep, and a good p**s up over your coffin.

Answer 5

i wouldnt hve thought so, but hey, thats my opinion

i would spend it with my friends and just try to make the most of it, you can wait til your 21 and see then

Answer 6

Yes go for it and have a party. I'm afraid your Gran as a point about the bad vibes that could happen if you have them all there at the party.!!!

So my advice is have a party with your close friends and your Gran and when you are older you can approach your family and sort out the problems that you have in the family.!!!

Good luck as I feel for people that have those problems, after all family should be your refuge against the world.!!

GOD bless.!!!

Answer 7

That sucks.

But you're thinking of this just like the "chick ideal" of a huge marriage.

And that ideal is bogus and busted to the core. And there's been more than a few comedies on the subject.

In your own words the family sounds pretty busted. The way you wrote this says you know as much.

Think about that and what you're wishing for and then you'll know what to do.

Happy b-day.

Answer 8

it's your birthday, if your family really loved you, they would behave.

Answer 9

my moms drug addictit dad no contact im only 13 i live with my grandma and i wow leave mom n dad out unless no drugs in mom and jus invite friends hav a great b-day and happy b-day whenever