Do you think its wrong to be a teen mum?

Question

hi people,I am 16 and due to have my baby girl Oceana in 9 days and am shocked at how many people are agenst teenages being pregnant! so y is it a bad thing? they can do just as well as an adult parent maby even better...i want to know are u agenst teen pregnancy and why?

Answer 1

Most teens want to do other things and are not focussed on the baby and that leads to abuse and neglect and the child often grows up with a big problem. If you are completely serious and the child will grow up under complete financial security and love I think that is your business but statistically you can't blame others for their concern and disagreement since they realize that there will most likely be a serious financial hardship on a parent or grandparent that could have been avoided, that will most likely lead to a hard life for the kid and instead of going directly to college the kid will waste valuable time trying to justify himself to others. Any teen is able to have a kid very few are able to raise one. Good luck with the hard and rewarding job in front of you and enjoy the new life your bringing into the world.

Answer 2

If the teen has a home of her own, a job, a husband, an income and doesn't need help from the state or other people, then No, I don't have a problem with teen mothers.

People are against teen mothers for many reasons -

lack of maturity

they are not yet grown up

they have very little life experience

not married

still living at home

expects mother to take care of baby

expects the state to kick in when baby needs things

they perceive a girl who has a baby and who doesn't have a husband as someone of low morals

Take your pick from the list above - you may make an excellent mother, but statistics tell us that your chances of establishing yourself in life and getting a good education and a great job with good benefits and great wage, are slim to non-existent.  

Statistically, you will be a lower than average income earner and your child will not fare well in the education department as she too will probably have a child too early and will not be married either - the cycle continues ......

Answer 3

I am not a fan of people having babies who cannot support babies, emotionally, financially, etc, no matter what the age.  Being older often means better educated, experienced in a job, more income, and gives you a better chance at being able to support yourself, and that baby.

Also those who are older - were once younger, and we remember the stupid things we did, and the stupid people we dated.   And really wouldnt want our former selves being parents.

Answer 4

Teens should be teens not mothers im so sick of young girls runnin around thinkin its cute to be pregnant when its not its a shame i think they should be more responsible and think of more important goals to achieve in life then laying on their backs, honestly i think all teens should be FORCED to use birth control and if not jailed cause there are too many aborted babies out there and it isnt fair to take lives that wasnt asked to be here!

Answer 5

i think it is wrong to bring a child into this world that you cannot support.  It is wrong to expect either your parents or the taxpayers to take care of your baby.  Of course you can be a good parent, but you would be an even better parent if you were educated, married and had a good, stable job so you actually had something to offer a child.  

Answer 6

Age plays a factor but only someone who HAS HAD a child can judge someone having a child. I was 19 when I had my son, I might not have been "READY" But who the h**l is? No one is ready! If you can provide LOVE and Safety for your son/daughter then Congrats! It doesn't matter whether you are a teenager or not. Love, time and Health are the outline on a being a great parent. A child is a blessing and the way you show yourself as a mother means whether people can judge you. There is always going to be stereo type about teenage parents but great parents will prove them wrong.

Answer 7

No i'm not agaisnt it at all if it happens, it happens.  Although i do think there are some teenagers out there that think getting pregnant is easy, they think its just gonna be this cute baby- majority of the time it is but the other times i just dont think they are ready for the responsibility.  A girl that i know, doesnt take much responsibility for her baby and always leaves her with other ppl, i think i can count on one hand i have seen her spending time with the baby. So i dont think that is fair either.

I definately think there are some girls out there mature enough to handle the responsibility, and as you say some are probably more so than adult women. but everyone is different and i think they should know what they are getting themselves into- after all it is a life time, not just the baby.

Answer 8

I am, but only because most of the people I live around who are teenage mothers, make their own parents take care of their baby while they go out partying and stuff. And they also don't pay for anything for the baby. But I am a teenage mother, and i'm not like that at all. It just depends on what type of mother you will be. Good Luck and be strong!

Answer 9

I'm against teen pregnancy cases that pawn their kid off to their own mom and dad (or other family members).

I don't care what for (whether it be school, or valuable MySpace time), it seriously irks me, and I don't think anyone who does that can call themselves a parent, because raising a baby in the hours that it suits you does NOT make you a parent!

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Obviously this is not ALL teen pregnancies.

So, I'm not against all teen pregnancies of course, just these cases.

Answer 10

not wrong.not right.just is.

age doesn't defy how good of a parent you are.knowledge and love does.there are 30 year old parents are are clueless and teens that actually know stuff because of parenting classes.all depends.

Answer 11

everyone can make their own choices.  just don't leave them on my lawn.

Answer 12

I think it wrong to name your kid Oceana, not to be a teen mom.

Answer 13

Soon, reality will hit when the baby gets here.  It is very hard to be a parent.  Emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially, it can be difficult.  Right now, you're so young you're just a kid yourself.  Perhpas by loving the baby, and getting up in the night you might be fantastic, but part of the pride of raising a child is also providing for the child.  Welfare, food stamps, and other programs are made to be very temporary, not a way to raise a child.  

I am the mother of a 19 year old, and an 11 month old.  I've never been a bad mom, in fact, I did a lot with my oldest, however, now that I'm 42, and I've had more experience in every aspect of my life, and I'm more settled, more financially stable, and emotionally, I'm very stable, I'm 100 times a better parent now than I was at 22.  

I'm also in the process of becoming a foster parent, and statistically, teen mothers have a much higher rate of their children entering into the foster care system than married couples in their 20-30's, because of the financial, and other reasons I stated before.  

My prayers are with you and Oceana, and I truly hope things work out great for you, but I think you're going to have a lot harder time than you imagine right now.  Kids are 24/7 jobs.