Do you think marriage has any relevance any more

Question

Is marriage reduced to just a legal document which entails one a share in another's property or is it a symbol of life long commitment?

Is it really valid especially today when people hardly spend their entire life with one person....

Answer 1

Instead of concentrating on the 1/3 marriages failing, people should think about the 2/3 marriages that are still going strong. I think each person sees marriage differently, i personally see it as a long term,life long commitment and one day i hope to find the right person for me.

I have seen peoples marriages fall apart infront of my eyes but i think people need to stick to thier vowels and try to go through the difficult times together and not give up, obviously there are exceptions. I think alot of celebrities are showing young people that marriage should only last a few months until you get bored etc!

Answer 2

I certainly hope so

Answer 3

Yes, marriage is relevant. I believe that there are more cases of failed marriages in the media than are good wholesome examples. The views of those that have yet to experience a 'relevant' marriage has been tainted by those images in the media. Marriage was ordained by God and is a bond between two imperfect beings. You have to be willing to work on coming into one mind. This is not an easy thing to do but can be done, if the love and understanding is there. It will become what 'YOU' make it.

I recommend not having your attention set on others but on your mate. Know that person inside and out and you will understand what the word means by becoming one in Christ.

Answer 4

I don't think people take it seriously enough. Maybe it should be harder for people to get married.  If there were certain requirements that allowed the couple time to get to know each other and really think through their decision maybe more marriages would last. Instead of making it harder for people to get divorced maybe it should be harder for people to get married. What if a couple had to go to some sort of couple counciling or preparation course?  Of course the cost would have to be pretty minimal so as not to discriminate against the poor.

I don't know.  It would be important to me because I am a L*****n and not allowed to marry in my state. Even if I went somewhere that it was legal it wouldn't be recognized at home. It would mean so much more than a peice of paper to me if I were allowed to do it. We couldn't even buy a house together, she had to put it in her name and when I fill out paper work for something I have to list myself as a renter. We can't be on each other's taxes.  Lord forbid something happen to one of us, there is no protection for the one left behind and certainly no social security benefits like straight married couples take for granted.

It would mean the world to me and many other people like me. I have been dedicated to my partner for years and legally it means nothing. What would happen if, lord forbid, something happens to me and my mother tries to take OUR kids away?  She would have no legal claim.

It's sad when people take all that for granted.  

Answer 5

Some of them do.

I have been married for nearly 14 years and my wife and I have always found compromises to anything rather than just feel like the standard couple. She's my princess. I do not feel like property nor does she in any way. But we are also equals. It's never a hers or his marriage.

My brother is married and refers to his wife as a trophy wife. I loathe that term. A trophy is meant for a shelf or mounted on a wall next to the head of an animal, not a person. I had a friend get married recently for looks and s*x, another for money. I saw a couple of the news that refused to be married due to economics. They simply couldn't afford to go to the Bahamas. If they truly love one another, the Bahamas can wait.

In marriage there can be no doubt. None at all. Before people know it, they're divorcing over suspicions, cheating, money, and simple disagreements.

The traditional concept of marriage has become more about who has what, who's for show, and who's worth what than any real document could begin to state. It's nearly a losing battle anymore and divorces are more common than usual.

Answer 6

Sometimes it does, not always though.

Yap, it looks that way just from looking around but I think we'll have to give credit for those few who really work for their marriage succes and are committed to it.

It's legally valid, yes. However I see your point in asking this question if we look around us.

But I think marriage will still be around no matter how bad we treat it since it's the very foundation of our society. It's just sad to see that to some it's not as sacred.

Then again, to other's marriage isn't a good thing specially those who suffer inside it. Which just goes to show that nothing is perfect no matter how basic they may be.

Answer 7

Short and Sweet:

It is what you make it; don't base your relationship with a person on what other peoples relationships mean to them.

also: the drastic rise in divorse is partially because women can leave an abusive man and still survive. a hundred years ago a women didn't have rights to her children, and would probably starve if she left her husband.

Answer 8

I'm getting married and I have always thought it was just a legal document but I do love this person and hopefully things will turn out. I don't really know why I'm getting married because I am happy right now; will it all change when we say I do?  I've been dealing with that question myself for years. Hope this helps

Answer 9

marriage is becoming obsolete because of women's recent roles outside of the home

Answer 10

Not at all.

    People often get married for the same reason they buy expensive clothes...to "look" dignified in front of others.

   On the other hand, many people marry because they love each other.  But many people not married love each other just as much.

   We live in a largely capitalistic world.  And that attitude prevails in romance.  If your "husband/wife" is doing a bad job, you "fire" him her.  The sadest case, in my opinion, is when a husband and wife unhappy with each other are semi-abusive and/or often hide feelings and this results in children with mental problems and terrible cases of self-deceit.

   People need to be honest with each other and problems they have with each other so they can solve them.  Unfortunately marriage often gives people an excuse to "stay together for the kids/marriage" rather than solve the problems directly.

   People need to WANT relationships to work and put forth the dedication to keep things together WITHOUT needing legal documentation to hold it together.  Making sure children are taken care of is an obvious issue...but I still by far and large believe it is healthier for a kid to obtain a new, honest parent than be stuck with two old parents who can't be honest with each other or the child.

Answer 11

Yes to me it is...I am married until one of us is dead...