Do you think marriage or a committed relationship is sort of like an ownership?

Question

From a man AND woman's perspective.

Answer 1

Since I know quite a few men who totally subordinate their own needs to the needs of their car, I've got to say yes.  

Answer 2

No, it should be like a partnership.  Two people who want to commit to each other and work for the betterment of their family.  That isn't ownership in anyone's book.  

Answer 3

No, because what are you owning? We have been together 18 years, and neither of own the other. We are a partnership he has his strengths I have mine, we also know each others weaknesses and cover each other for those weaknesses.

The minute you start thinking ownership you are implying that one is subservient to the other and although that may have been acceptable 60+ years ago it is no longer the case.

Answer 4

It's a legal contract stating your with each other and have rights to each other's possessions(marriage)

Answer 5

Well....yes. My Husband and I always joke that we are not "renting to own" each other anymore, that we paid each other off with high intrest. :)  

Answer 6

Man's Perspective:



To be honest, it is in a way, but not in the sense I'm thinking you're implying.

I've had a lot of relationships in my time and they've been all types, from one sided love on my part and theirs to unabandoned lust and perversion. I've been faithful and I've cheated. I've been dominant and I've been submissive.

In all those relationships I was pretty selfish with my emotions and my time. I never truly gave myself up to someone whole heartedly until...I finally got together with one of my closest friends and we even had a child together. He's almost 2. The first year of our relationship was harsh and volatile at times. Even now, because we both have very intense personalities, when we argue it can still get explosive, but for the most part, it warms me that I've given my body, mind and soul up to her. I have given her my pink slip and the only reason that I was able to do that is because I know in my heart of hearts that she's done the same with me. I have no doubt that we belong to each other.

Now if there was any bit of doubt in my mind, I think i might be questioning things the same you are.

The key to our relationship I think is getting past the godawful amounts of pride that get in the way of being able to say you were wrong or you're sorry. In other words, being able to admit your faults. Her as well as you. Don't give in at times when you truly feel you're right about something, but also don't let little things get in the way of your relationship. Sometimes the two of you need to agree to disagree. Pick your battles and pick them wisely, because if you want this to be the long haul, you don't want to spend too much time arguing about why you didn't wash the dishes last night or why she can never take out the trash.

The other key to our relationship is bargaining. I'll clean the bedroom if you take out the trash for the next week. You do the laundry and I'll clean the bathroom. That sort of thing. There is so much more to it, but those are some starting points for you.

All in all, you just have to ask yourself, is this a person i can spend years and years with? Do they turn me on in the pants and in the head? Do they make me laugh like no one else and would I ever be able to find someone like this ever again and do I want to risk my happiness on that?

Good luck with your conundrum of love.

PS- Don't be afraid to argue, but unless you really don't want to commit to the realtionship, never say the unforgivable things. You know what they are, they're always lurking in your mind. They are the seeds of destruction for a relationship.  

Answer 7

No, more like a partnership!

Answer 8

A womans perspective: No..  

Answer 9

if i thought he was going to be an obsessive controlling a$$ i wouldn't have married him.