Do you think men should have a say in abortion? (men/femal)?

Question

Alot believe when women are pregnant and are considering having an abortion the father should always have a say in the matter as the baby is half of him also, you both made the baby therefore the father should decide to.

What do you think?

Im of the opinion of if an abortion is to occur both parents should have a say but I do think abortion is wrong.

Do you agree with abortion?

Answer 1

I do believe in abortion as a collection of cells is NOT a human being, and if it is feeding off of my body in order for it to survive, I should have full control of the situation.

It is also for that reason that I think the woman should seek the father's advice and take heed of it, but it is ultimately her decision.

To that I must add that I will NEVER EVER have an abortion for any other reason besides rape or medical reasons.  That is my choice and I've made it, but I refuse to make another woman's choice for her.

Answer 2

I don't actually agree with abortion but do think that if you are making such a big decision it should be done as a couple, after all you made the baby together!

Answer 3

Why should it be any of his business?  Unless you are married to the father and you are in a position of not being able to answer for yourself, there is no reason to give up your rights.  A fetus is not a baby, there is no comparison.  A woman is not merely a womb, and the sperm donor lost his right to say a thing once he ejaculates inside your body (he could have kept it in his pants or taken steps to prevent pregnancy himself).

Once you give up your right to chose, you also give up the right to chose not to get pregnant, the right to decide your medical fate (c-section because it's scaring your doctor), your right to drink (you might be pregnant and it would cause FAS!), your right to decide how and what you eat (good health is important for healthy babies!)......  

Of you think abortion is wrong, don't have one.  Don't think the rest of us will put up for one minute your desire to limit our choices!

Answer 4

I believe both men and women should have a say on whether or not to abort the baby! Just as I believe that men should be responsible for a child that is born into the world and always have to pay child support if he is not an active fulltime parent. I'm a women studies major and spend the vast majority of my day with a wide range of opinionated feminists and have heard both sides of the spectrum. That fact is, though, maybe the woman isn't ready to be a mother and doesn't want responsibility of the child but the man would absolutely love to be a parent to his unborn child. It isn't fair to not give him a chance at fatherhood.

Many women say it is her body- her choice but it isn't just her child- it took 2 people to create that Life within her and both people should have a say in the outcome of that life (with the exception of rape)

Answer 5

no i dont agree with abortions but i do understand what your saying because at the end of the day it takes two to make the baby i think they should both be in on the choice to end it too but like i say i think there wrong unless abortion is the only option due to medical reasons x

Answer 6

There was a case just over 20 years ago when a woman wanted a termination but her partner wanted her not to have it.  He went to the Old Bailey and lost in the end.  She had the termination.

I have a feeling that he was being manipulated by the anti choice organisations at the time. I'll end with this - every child born on this earth should be wanted, not forced upon a woman.

Edit - j.wells - Why should you have to bow down to a man? What if 8 months into the pregnancy he gets bored and runs off with someone else?

Answer 7

I think they should have a say.  No-one should ideally have parenthood imposed on them but ultimately it is a woman's body and a woman should never be forced to abort.  

I was in this position - we both decided to keep the baby - he was actually the one to talk me into the positives.  Then at 20 weeks he decided then he wanted me to abort.  

In the end I kept my beautiful daughter but asked said loser for absolutely nothing - not a 1p.  Any decent bloke would have been there for his daughter without me having to so it is not our loss.

Answer 8

well i think if the women is 100% sure she doenst want the baby then no the guy doesnt need to have a say in what happens as its not him having the baby. but if the women is only unsure then the guy should defo have a say. he might be able to help the women to make a true decision.

Answer 9

wow brave question first i think if 2 produce a child both shud pay and none shud use a abortion as a contraceptive  and i dont see why they would want to kill a child anyway

but it would not be a choice i wood think any one would go into lightly

Answer 10

i dont necessarly agree or disagree with it. i disagree with it being used as a means of birthcontrol. the only time i consider it acceptable is for medical reasons or rape but at the same time i am not one to judge if someone gets one. i defiantly think its discusting though when women have had like multiple abortions. they need to learn proper methods of birth control.

as far as the father thing goes. when i first told my boyfriend i was pregnant he was defiantly thinking abortion but he said it was completely my choice and hed support whatever i chose. of course i took into consideration what he had to say...but in the end i really didnt listen becuase i just knew his reasons wernt good enough to get rid of my child. now hes sooo excited. he goes around telling everyone and its the cutest thing ever.

Answer 11

I believe that abortion should stay legal and that it should always be the woman's decision. Yes, it takes 2 people to make a baby but only the woman will have to carry that child. I think if she's considering abortion and wants the man's opinion then that's absolutely fine. When it comes to men having an opinion about abortion in general I really don't listen. Until a man can take a pregnancy test and see a little plus sign, they will never understand what it's like. If you can't tell I'm pro-choice, who am I to judge what another person wants to do? I'm not God, and I won't judge a woman for having an abortion, keeping her baby, or giving it up for adoption.

Answer 12

Yes. because if the female keeps the child. she will be going to ask the baby's dad for money and the government will to. but if he doesn't want to he should still be given a chance. It takes two to tango so it should take two to choose whether to keep the child or not

Answer 13

I do not agree with abortion. I do however think the father should always have a say. He helped conceive the baby and he will help raise it if you decide to keep it so why would he not get an equal say on if you should abort or not?

Answer 14

I feel that women should at least ask their male counterpart, and should tell their partner that is being done. However, in the end it is the womans final decision and it would be unethical (and a backward step for women's rights) to require a man's signature. As far as abortion goes, I feel that it is a necessary "evil." I personally can not do it, but I believe in the right for other women to do it legally, because if it were illegal, it would be done anyway and an illegal abortion is a scary thought.

Answer 15

I do think the father has a say yes. When I was 15 and at school many years ago, I wrote an essay against abortion for which I got an "A". However I did eventually have a termination for reasons I will not go into. I still think of what I did and so I decided to get sterilised afterwards. Until someone is in that position, it is hard to comment. I will say that I chose to be sterilised after because I felt that I had taken a life so therefore shouldn't make any further lives.

Answer 16

I think it should be the woman's choice. Sucks for the man, but it's not his body.

I would, however, set the limit ar around 12-15 weeks.

Ethel; get back to the 60s. There's a pair of dungaries and an unused ladyshave with your name on it.

If you believe fathers have no responsibility for a child after conception, I'll wait for you to start your crusade against child support, shall I? Or would you like them to pay, but not have any rights?

Whilst I am a firm believer in a woman having the right to choose, referring to the father as a 'sperm donor' is cold beyond belief.

Answer 17

i dont agree with abortion either, everything happens for a reason so you are pregnant for a reason, its not the babies fault and they shouldnt be punished for their 'parents' mistakes. but i do think men should have a say in the opinion, it would be unfair of the women to get one without first consulting him as its his baby too. but at the end of the day its the womans body she is carrying the baby and giving birth, so even if the father disagrees she can still go ahead and have one if she wanted to. thats why i think people should be more responsible and face up to their actions rather than just be careless then kill the result of their mistake. if you dont want a baby you should use contraception or just dont have s*x if you arent going to be responsible. it makes me angry when people have s*x and ignore the risks of pregnancy then abort their baby when they find theyre pregnant. those are the people who dont deserve kids and by having an abortion it proves that. i have pcos and i was told i couldnt have kids and id wanted them since i was 13, i was very lucky to get pregnant after one month of trying. there is no way i would agree to abortion especially not after being told such a horrible thing like that, so it effects me more where it probably dont to those who take pregnancy for advantage and assume they will get pregnant again when they want to. sorry its got long, its just something that i have a high opinion about.

Answer 18

NOPE!!!! Unless a woman wants to have an abortion and the man doesn't, and he's willing to adopt the child and care for it on his own.

If a man did that, I would bow down to him....

Answer 19

i believe that both people should be involved in this decision, but the man is not the one having a baby. if it is not the right time to have a baby. for example if you are too young. then i say its up to the girl or women. but i also do not agree on abortion unless you are under the age of 16, you've been raped. most people don't agree with abortion unless they are faced with the decision.

but its the womens body. unless the man will stay faithful and care for the baby and the mother.

Answer 20

i dont agree with abortion

i think you should only be aloud 1 for a medical reason or is the person has been raped and have a police report to prove this

if i did agree with abortion thn i believe its 90% the females descion

Answer 21

Well I'm in the category of wanting the child but, the person that I conceived a child with has a child already and doesn't want another one. I am well off financial and she admitted to me that her first baby's father has made it hard for me. I even told her that she will not even have to work but, that wasn't good enough. I'm going on 20 years old, have money in the banks, going to college, have a decent car, money invested in other things, and about to get my own place... Why won't she have my child???

Answer 22

Personally (and I know this is extreme) but I think if you don't have a uterus, you should NOT express your opinion about abortion.  

Men can HAVE opinions, but they should keep them to themselves. I think any responsible woman would consult her HUSBAND but beyond that, there is no need.

Of course I think abortion is wrong (it's awful) but I am against criminalizing it.  I have no interest in telling other people how to live their lives (I don't want anyone telling me how to live mine either).

I would probably not have an abortion unless the baby would not be expected to survive after birth (severe birth defect) but I've never been in that situation and God willing will not ever be.

If it's a sin, then mom will be punished, I trust God.  If you force someone to do the "right" thing, it loses it's value in being the right thing. I'm also pretty against adoption, I think that is pretty bad, too.



Personally, I like the option where women get enough education and access to birth control so that they don't end up even in that situation.

Answer 23

The only time I would agree with abortion is in the case of a very likely chance that the mom could die while having the baby. Otherwise, it is wrong, especially when there is the option of adoption.

Answer 24

Nope, unless she wants one and he doesn't.  Then he must adopt the baby and care for it on his own.

Theres no way a guy should tell a woman she has to have an abortion if she doesn't want to.

Answer 25

No i dont agree with abortion atall, unless some1 is raped or its a threat 2 there life.

I do think men should have a say cos if the woman wants the baby and the man doesnt then the man has 2 pay for it but what if he doesnt want the baby he has no say really,

Answer 26

I only agree if the mother's life is in danger, and I think that if an abortion is to take place, it should be well before 24 weeks, you should know by then if you want the baby or not, abortion shouldn't be used like contraception. I know ultimately it is the woman's body and she has to carry the baby, but I do think that fathers (those that ARE interested) should have a say. This happened to my friend. His GF of 4 years (they were engaged and getting married) told him she was pregnant and he was like a dog with two tails he was  SO happy. She said they couldn't afford it with the wedding/honeymoon she'd got planned and went an aborted the baby - after telling the docs it was a mistake after a drunken one night stand! My mate told her to marry someone else.

Answer 27

I am prochoice; it is not my place to tell another woman what she can or cannot do with her own body.

Men should have a say IF they are in a relationship with the woman.....but the final choice belongs to the woman alone.  It is her body, her life, and her choice.  When a man can carry the baby, he may have final say in the abortion.  

My fiance lied and told me he wanted the baby......until I was 14 weeks along.  Then he said he had no feelings for it and didn't want it---he abandoned me.  So should he have any say on what I do?  Absolutely not.  I had no say in his abandoning me; it is my choice what to do with this child.  I'm on my own.

Answer 28

I am pro-life.  Although I don't think it is fair that when a woman has an un-planned pregnancy it is so often the case that a man will consider it her problem and take off like it's not his kid too I do think that men have a right to their child and should be able to legally prevent an abortion or stop an adoption if they are a fit parent.

Answer 29

Both parents can never have a say..for the simple reason that it is the womans body..not the mans...this argument has nothing to do with wether abortion is wrong or right but everything to do with the fact that men controlled womens bodies for hundreds..no thousands of years....we didnt even get the vot till the twenties for goodness sake! If we start giving men the right to decide wether a woman has his baby or not we will be right back where we started...it is a ridiculous suggestion and one which will never happen.

Answer 30

I don't believe in abortion. It's murder. Plus, if you're grown up enough to spread those legs, you're grown up enough to take responsiblity.. or give someone else the chance at having a baby.

BUT I can't change the world and everyone in it's views, so if you must, atleast include the father in the decision. Like you said, it IS half his too.

Answer 31

I dont think thast men or women should have any say so in abortions....I think that it should be against the law!

Everyday ppl go to jail for murder, but a women that is pregnant with a baby.......which is a small person, can ans is allowed to have an abortion......But if a women was pregnant and she got hit by a car and her baby in her belly died then the person that hit her would spend time in jail for murder!

Does that make any since! As a mother she can kill her baby....but anyone else its called murder.