Do you think more teens with "happy" childhoods want to grow up to become parents, have a family, adopt...?

Question

as opposed to more teens with "unhappy" childhoods not want to be parents, have a family, adopt?

Answer 1

I think when we are ready to have a family we know what we don't want to do. My parnets were always busy working and had other priorites or so I felt. I was an only child and hated it. This is why my husband thinks I'm making up for it now. I have a 4,3, and 2 year old. My oldest is adopted because we couldn't have kids we tried for several years so we adopted. Shortly after got preganant two years in a row. God has a interesting sense of humor. Hoping to adopt one more in a few years.

  I had an okay childhood good times and bad times mostly bad. I think people who had bad childhood want to have a family. Like I stated above I truly belive that hteir childhood good or bad affects what they want to become as a mom or dad. Doesn't it affect us all??

Answer 2

No, I don't.

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I think that teens from all walks of life want to be parents. They have a chance to break the cycle ( if it was bad ) or repeat the cycle ( if it was "good") I think adoption lies somewhere in the middle, if the media or happy adoptive family has gotten to them somewhere in their life. Its hard for any teen to understand the big picture of adoption imo.

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Answer 3

Not necessarily.  Each individual has a unique situation & based on how one handles their 'life' depends on how they will perceive the future.  Some people with ****** up lives will want children to prove to themselves that they won't repeat history, while others start the terrible abuse cycle.

What I would be more worried about are those that aren't ready to have children (whether they stem from a 'good or bad' childhood) and ensure that those new parents are provided with the proper resources and information to raise their children 'properly'.

Answer 4

I had a happy childhood, but i still don't want kids or i should say they are not my number one priority. I enjoy being an auntie! I think i'm too selfish to be a parent. Maybe in the future i will change my mind. If i do decide to have kids, i would like to have my own. If i can't then i may adopt, i don't know.  

Answer 5

idk but i wud want to adopt and i have a pretty ruff child hood

Answer 6

It has been my experience that most people with unhappy childhoods have a greater inner need to create their own families to find familial happiness. Whether that has to do with adopting or not is up to the individual. My childhood was no bed of roses, and perhaps , that has helped me to have a better understanding of how my adopted children might feel.

Answer 7

In my case it is opposite, I didn't have a very happy childhood and however I dreamt of having my children and that them could be happy, that  is the reason because I work.

Answer 8

I think what helps a teen grow up to be a good parent is to have had good role models (parents, teachers, mentors) as well as having compassion and understanding of those less fortunate. Many teens that had unhappy childhoods that can step back and look at the big picture and learn/heal from it make better parents then the June Cleaver types because they know whats up and will call their kids on it before it becomes a problem. I think insight is lacking with a lot of parents today and communication suffers because many parents force their limited beliefs onto them and they rebel.

I know a woman that had everything that a child could want without a worry in the world. She had involved stable parents, a pony, 5million dollar trust fund, rainbows, and butterfly kisses. She had housekeepers, part time nannies, never worked a day in her life and has 3 kids.   She is one of the worst parents I know. Its all about her feelings and having kids at an early age. She's a pity party of 1.  All 3 of her sons do not respect her or other women for the matter, 1 almost went to prison for life, the other 2 suffer from depression. They all have had 2 divorces each and have trouble with relationships.   Her childrens saving grace was the grandparents and outside influences.

I don't think its all about completely happy childhoods that makes great parents but more so teaching a child about the realities of life and supporting their individuality and respecting them as a person as well as "showing" them how to respect and have compassion for other people now matter what their circumstance.

Answer 9

My husband had a rough childhood, but he really wanted to have children, and we wound up adopting 2.

Answer 10

Psychologically, children who experienced neglect and abuse are going to have a more difficult time in relationships and trust compared with children who did not have abuse or neglect.  This is well documented.

That being said, many foster kids get pregnant to have children to make a family.  While they might not be comfortable in a relationship with a man, they want a child that loves them unconditionally.  They are trying to fill a void by having a baby.

I think there are two issues:  (1) the ability to form a significant relationship in order to have/adopt a child and (2) the ability to have/adopt a child.

Issue #1 is more difficult for "unhappy childhood victims," but #2 is probably more desired because they want their own families.

Answer 11

Yes.