Do you think most people base their self-image on how the opposite s*x thinks of them?

Question

Basically, you try to make you'rself "acceptable" to the opposite gender.

What do you think about that? Do you think only insecure people do that? Or is it just normal human behavior?

Answer 1

We can't help but to submit to what people want, it is subconscious so yes women will put on the short, tight clothing and spiked heels even if they are uncomfortable and cold and men will shave and wear a suit even though it irritates them

I wish men would shave the rest of their hair though like legs chest and back  that would be a great day   For them   wink wink

Answer 2

When you are younger you want to impress everyone in your age group. When you get married you want to please your spouse. When the honeymoon is over, you want to please yourself. When you get older (like me) you want to please yourself and don't care what anyone else thinks.

Answer 3

I do not think most people think so. It is based on general opinion by both s*x people based on your behavier and social approch.

Answer 4

Not everyone has the same motivations so not everyone bases a hefty portion of their self-esteem on their looks or the attraction level of the opposite s*x.

I think it is much more common among young teenagers to invest heavily in outside opinion (of peers) when one calculates one's own worth but as we age, our focus tends to shift onto other aspects of ourselves such as parenting or establishing oneself in the workforce.

I do know two women (from my family) that base their self-esteem on their attractiveness and both of them actually do have a lot of insecurity issues about their bodies.

Answer 5

I think it's normal especially when your young. For me I feel insecure around girls my age because a lot of them are very bitchy and i feel nervous around guys too. It's like am i acting normal, am i keeping my cool, or am i acting like a total dork. ahahaha

Answer 6

Not for me.  I'm a L*****n.  

I think women in "the tribe" are more apt to accept another women for exactly what she is. ;)

Answer 7

human nature, my best friend is the girl that every guy likes and she still feels the need to impress more guys!!! it pisses me off!!!

Answer 8

To me if the opposite s*x thinks I am a b*tch whatever. At least I don't try to be a different person just for someone to like me. Your first impression of me will always be right about me. What you see is what you get. =3

People that try to be something there not for the opposite s*x is insecure about themselves.

(Like Mike T, he Hates me with a capital H. He totally thinks I am a b*tch.)

Answer 9

i think its pretty normal.

Answer 10

yes i think many people do that.  men and woman.

Answer 11

Its funny, my self-image is the exact opposite of what men tell me. Guys have always said that i have a beutiful face and a great body, but i've never felt like i was anything more than a 5....   but of corse i want to be "acceptable" to the opposite s*x, it's not so much an insceurity as it is the want to have physical connections and face it, i don't want to be the gotta have a few drinks kind of girl

Answer 12

Hmm.. I don't think that's the case. My appearance obviously appeals to men, that's a given. It isn't that hard to impress a man  looks-wise as long as you take care of yourself and dress well. For me, I base it off of what other females will think. I often feel like I don't measure up to some standard of 'femininity'. I know, it sounds awful, but it's subconscious for me.

Answer 13

Yes, people need something from which to build; in other words fuel to impress. Impressing is both good and bad; some impress for the sake of impressing; while others impress to love, share and grow.

Also I have been told throughout my life not to give a d**n what other people think.  Therefore; I don't.