Do you think my ex-college professor is not interested anymore.....[more!]?

Question

I'm 18, got my GED at age 16, I attended a small medical community college and met a teacher ,whom is 26, whom was for sure interested [flirting, he asked me to be his girlfriend but only AFTER I graduate or no longer attend the same college, since it is unethical, I TOTALLY UNDERSTOOD THAT & RESPECTED IT ]..

I was known as a social butterfly, EVERYONE knew me, since I supposedly was known as the "pretty funny girl" [not in a conceited way, don't misunderstand me ! ]

well, i withdrew from the college last month [career interest changed], I gave my professor my number [ he asked for it]

on my last day, and this was on September 17, he hasn't called since.

His personality traits: shy, withdrawn, introverted

do you think he changed interest because he KNOWS i have friends that still attend the small college, and would feel uncomfortable knowing that ?!

because girls really do gossip alot nowadays, or what do you think about this ?

Answer 1

Maybe he's only interested in college grads?

Answer 2

Well the relationship is mutual only if he wants to commit himself to you like he seemed to.  Otherwise stay true to yourself and your values.  And one day you will meet the right person., should that teacher decide not to contact you.

By the way you are young.  You have your whole life in front of you.  So take care of yourself first.  

Good luck.

Answer 3

hmmm... ur interested in a 26 year old?! well um... i guess u should just wai... i mean u cant do anything if he hasn't called u yet. im sure he just busy. Im sure u r a beautiful person and he will call u soon Good luck with ur love life^^

Answer 4

Call him.  It's the only way to find out.

Answer 5

I think your professor was never going to come out and let everybody know about his relationship with you. Obviously, from his secretive behavior, he is either married or just does not want the rest of the faculty to know he is dating a student. These are not good signs, and I see red flags everywhere. Also, he put conditions on the relationship, such as you go to this school, blah, blah. If someone really cherishes you and cares about your feelings, they do not do things like this. Your professor is very self serving and has too many reservations about you. Please find a real boyfriend who loves you and shouts it to the whole world.

Answer 6

I dont doubt there was an attraction there but the age difference is surely a factor with him AND so is the teacher-student thing. This guy is a loser and the faster you run, the better off youll be. It made hin clearly uncomfortable in front of other people-wanted to keep everything betweeen the both of you like a secret and I beleive he asked you for your phone number just to pacify his secret cravings for you and isnt even man enough to call. Forget him and move on!

Answer 7

Hi dear...

As in your question i can make out that you are pretty good gal.Plz wait.This is life.Ideally one should try to be with a man who has gut feeling without which nothing can work these days.I can understand that you both being in same college and being in the relationship would cause a problem.But you have left the college then what is the problem?We are in a world where society has given us freedom ofcourse can be objected if crossed limits.But i do not see anysuch thing here.He does not have such gut and also courage to handle a relationship dear...As and when the life goes we face many challenges and person with this kind of personality will never fit in..Do not take any hasty decision.Take time.you will definitely get a good chap.Person who is always overcautious about things around cannot make you happy,during the course of time you will understand this.So do not take any risk with this kind of person.

Answer 8

He's a pooh

and he's just not that into you

and you deserve better!

If he was interested, he would have called by now, that night, and the next day, and the next day, etc.

If he was interested he would have done whatever it took to get to you, It's interesting and revealing, that now that his big reason for not actively pursuing you (the ethical bs) is no longer an issue (or excuse) that suddenly he is *poof*.

He's a jerk.

If he ever does actually GET AROUND to calling, tell him to lose your number... BEFORE he has the chance to give you the inevitable SLEW of excuses for why he didn't call for 3 weeks (or however long).

Answer 9

I've always wanted to bang a professor.

Go for it.

God bless.