Do you think my ex girlfriend is putting up her guard or is she totally over me though?

Question

Hey me and my ex girlfriend were together for a year and a half and we did everything together and weren't just bf and gf but we were also best friends. We broke up because of an arguemnt we had at our prom I got drunk and we had a huge fight. Anyway she always said if we ever broke up we must stay friends. We broke up (we've broken up before over stupid things) and she said maybe if 'we 'stay friends we could get bk together' well she said she was over me but got angry and envious when she saw a pic of me on facebook talking to another girl and said we'd never get bk together now and she's with somebody else. But after a few days I rang her up and asked her if she wanted to go to lunch and she agreed and later that day she txted me asking me to go shopping and we went shopping and it was fun and she sent me a txt after saying we should thay more often and arranged to go to the pics but the next day she was saying she's too busy and I that I'm being great but she said she can't forget what happened at the prom and a few days after txting and pleading she told me to 'leave her alone' but if she's over me surely she'd want to hang with me we did bounce of each other do you think she's not over me and that the reason she dosen't want to be friends incase she admits she still has feelings for me or is this just wishful thinking. I mean we were together for a year and a half and extremely close

Answer 1

Sorry about your situation.

I'm not sure what to tell you.. It could be anything depending on what your relationship was like.

Was she a jeloud person? If so, she might just be keeping contact with you to make sure you dont get with anyone else, she may or may not even be over you yet. I think shes trying to tease you or hurt you so that maybe if you ever got back together again, she wants to know that you'll never do the things you did at the prom again. She just doesnt know how to deal with it thats all. Shes handling it the wrong way. I think that she isnt over you.. but that she wants to be. that also might be why shes with someone else. To see if she can developre feelings for someone else because she thinks thats the only way that she can get over you...

Answer 2

Ben just find someone else to dover.

Answer 3

shes not over you.

you is confused. give her time and suck up the random emotional attacks lol

Answer 4

It's kind of typical high school drama.  She's playing games of push & pull.  It's not fair.  The fact is that you were broken up when she saw that picture of you "talking to another girl"?  I don't get that.  Anyway it's not like you were in a relationship with her & screwed someone else.  She's incredibly immature & if she can't get over a pic of you that was taken after you broke up then she's going to have a very hard time in this life when REAL S**t happens.  Tell her to c**p or get off the pot.  You're the one who should be pissed, not her.  Don't let her string you along like that.  You're just going to feel stupid later on.

Answer 5

she is over u

Answer 6

this does not need to be in marriage and divorce

you guys aren't even adults yet

Answer 7

i think you both are confused.  slow down and try using some punctuation marks in your story

in my expirience, things that gets said while being drunk are never worth thinking about the day after.  If you said some crazy s#$t to her then make sure she knows that you are sorry for it.  

i think she still cares about you but she may be wanting to date other people now- thats what it seems like to me anyways.

Answer 8

If she says "Leave her alone" then it shouldn't be any worry of yours if she's over you or not.  Give her what she wants and if she's /not/ over your, she'll come back.  But to not leave her alone at her request is stalker-like