Do you think my friend is trying to ruin my relationship?

Question

My bf and I have been together 3mos. and it's going great, but one of the main reasons we got together was because we're both busy and don't have a lot to time to spend together and we both mainly stay home when we're not working, so we see each once a week and go out on Saturday. He works 2 jobs and goes to school, I have two kids and a 2 on line stores. Well lately my friend wants me to go out with her during the week and almost every weekend and drink, now I think it's making my bf sad because I've been going out a lot and drinking with her. Last night I finally told her that I can only go out once a month because I don't want to keep leaving my kids and I don't want to lose my bf, she said I was whipped and stupid for staying home over a man. Wtf I'm over that stage I like to stay home and chill now, how rude is that.

Answer 1

You're friend is being selfish because she wants someone to go out with. She doesn't care about your happiness. You can bet your life if she got a fella she'd drop you without a thought.

You should please yourself and go out as often with her as suits you. Maybe once a month is a bit infrequent but then several times a week is too often - perhaps you could go out with her once a week or fornight on an evening when you dont see your boyfriend.

If she complains tell her that your childrens welfare is paramount to you.

Answer 2

Tell her to get the heck over it! You have a life  

Answer 3

You and your friend are on different maturity levels. This will happen more and more frequently as you continue to mature and grow and those around you stagnate and stay in their little worlds of partying and doing the same old thing day after day.

Get over it.  

Answer 4

if she is doing that,she isnt a real friend

Answer 5

thats not a friend

Answer 6

HI ..  This happens often, at times a good friend can feel hurt or LEFT OUT when their good/best friend spends alot of time with a new guy.  Your friend honestly wants to spend time with you and felt angry that you pushed her aside for a man. She could have worded it differently and asked how flexible your schedule is - to work together with you.  Putting a man first is wrong.  In the end your friends, sisters and family will stand by you forever - you cherish them.  I learned this from a friend who told me this years ago.  Make your b/f important and feel special, of course, but having time and hobbies etc without your b/f is also important.  This will actually help your relationship in the end by keeping it fresh and having many topics to discuss and share.  Tell your friend that you do want to see her - make her feel special and set aside time - as you stated to see her.  Explain that she is important (as her reaction tells me that she feels rejected or hurt) - then go out and make sure you do spend times with her and other friends too - keep yourself well-rounded. !! Good luck !!