Do you think my friend should do this....?

Question

My friend, who has got four-year-old identical triplets, is putting one up for adoption. Names:- Grace, Alice, Lily. Well She adores the littlest one lily, and Alice is so quiet, but Grace is so outgoing and loud and she is the noisy, she’s the one who bullies the other two. Grace will scream for about a hour if she wants a toy.

I think its really wrong, just because she is loud doesn’t mean she has to get rid of little Grace.

They are all identical and she cant stand the fact they are to much to look after, she says that getting rid of one will make things so much easier.

I think this is so wrong, help me how to stop her?

Answer 1

is she right in the head how selfish can you get

Answer 2

i dont think that is a good idea at all she should never do that

Answer 3

Wasn't it YOU who was pregnant with identical triplets and asking what to call them the other day?

Somehow, I don't believe you this time either. Don't you know what the odds of identical triplets are?!

Answer 4

ask your friend if she has ever seen jon and kate plus 8...

they had twins and then sextuplites.  what if they had a bad day do you think they would give up one of their kids...no way.  because they are their kids.  they love them, each as they are.  

your friend has three distinct lil' girls.  she can use that to her advantage if she wanted to.  she could have Grace help her with things that she is doing.  At four she can help sweep, pick up her room, her toys, wipe the table...set the table.

Your friend needs to realize that her three girls are distinct precious gifts, with unique qualities, she just needs to help bring them out.  

(tell your friend I was shy when I was younger, but when I grew up I got louder...)

Answer 5

That's appalling! How could anyone do this! She should have all of them taken off her.

Answer 6

i think she needs to go to the doctor and get some therapy for postpardom depression and some respite care if she is really so stressed out. and then get her tubes tied! legs closed or something!

Answer 7

PERHAPS YOU COULD SIT YOUR FRIEND DOWN & TRY TO EXPLAIN THAT GIVING UP HER DAUGHTER IS SOMETHING SHE MAY REGRET LATER ON, CAN YOU HELP HER IN ANY WAY OR MAYBE HER FAMILY CAN HELP

Answer 8

After reading what That g*y Guy etc wrote about your previous questions you seem to have blocked them.

You must be very bored & very immature to make up something like this.

Answer 9

Oh my goodness, no way.  Social services wouldn't allow that surely?  If she can't cope with the kids she should give them all up or seek help, but you can't take one away!

Answer 10

i think u r right i mean all babies are like that ur friend just will have to live with it for a while until she can teatch grace the right things

Answer 11

omg....that is so wrong...poor grace...she will be tramatized....i really dont kno what you could tell her mom but she should not do it......that is sad....if she were to get rid of her the sisters will miss her and when they are like 5 0r 6 they will hate there mom.....if she were to get rid of her she should have done it when they were first born....even tho it is kinda bad no matter what.....

Answer 12

Please tell me you aren't serious!!!

Answer 13

You've got to be kidding me. She just thinks "Oh, you're too noisy so I don't want you anymore." Put her online and let all of us b*tch her out. That's abso-f*ckin-lutely RIDICULOUS. If she can't handle them she should have kept her goddamn legs closed!

EDIT: You've got 62 points. I looked back through your questions and you claim that you're due with triplets and they will be named Grace, Lily, and Alice. TROLL!

Answer 14

that's awful

how can she split up sisters

could you not get her to talk to a councillor

she will regret this decision xx

Answer 15

No lie, but I'm a triplet, and I would hate it to be seperated from my sisters. I still do, for the last fifteen years.

Tell her that they came together and should stay together, her children that she keeps will probably be resentful towards her when they understand what happened too.

Answer 16

Think u have nothin better to do than make up ridiculous stories!!!

Get a life!!

Answer 17

Sure yeah - tell her to go ahead. Once Social Services see what a pathetic excuse she is for a parent hopefully all three girls will end up in a better home with someone who cares for them all equally and doesn't treat them like some awkward commodity you can send back when you decide your fed up with it.

Answer 18

Oh my. I hope you are joking.

Answer 19

That is extremely wrong!! How would she feel if she was a triplet and found out later on in life that her mum kept her other two sisters and got rid of her!

Being a mum is a handful but she has got through the hard bit, If she could cope when they were babies then she can deffianetly cope now!! I think you should put these points across to her. I am 19 and i have a 1 year old son and it's 10 times easier now then when he was a baby and he's 3 years younger then her kids, I just don't think she is using the right disipline maybe Grace is acting like this for attention as she may notice that she prefers Alice and Lily more.

I think you should advice her to see a councelor or something!

Maybe if it does end up in adoption, Maybe you could adopt grace and then they can all still grow up together! Just a thought. :-) Hope this helped in someway :-)

My own opinion is she doesn't deserve kids at all there are many people out there that would love to be blessed with triplets, I am one of those people.

Answer 20

(OK I'm presuming she's a single parent).i think that your friend needs some help, don't get me wrong I'm sure she does the best for all 3 of the babies but come off it, looking after one baby is hard enough!!!! just stop and think what she's actually going through not one, not two but three crying babies and all at the same time, all three wanting your undivided attention, not to forget all theses sleepless nights.  cause you know once you put one down the other will start setting the other two off again. cause it must be shattering for her. if anything you shouldn't be fighting her on this but supporting her in what ever decisions she makes. be there for her, help by babysitting for her and giving her a brake from the babies, a few hours every day or every other day share the responsibility with your other friends. not only would this make you better friends but you'll also be doing something good something that will make you feel great and it would be purely done to keep the girls together and as a family. good luck hope for you all the best, and remember it's not what you want that matter's, but what your friend needs. just be the caring person you are, and be strong for her cause even if she does go through with it, she'd be giving up her child and it ain't ever easy giving up someone you love, especially if it is your own child. x

Answer 21

Where is the father during all of this?  If she has someone listed as a birth father than I think she needs his consent to do this.  I cant really believe that this is true.