I lost my grandmother late last year to an illness. I did not take it well. I was very close to her. When I was younger, my grandmother took care of me for awhile. You can kind of say she was like my mother during that time. Out of all her grandchildren, I was the only one who lived with her during those years and was the closest to her.
When she died, I was 25 years old. I obviously had my own place and my own life.
So, about a month ago, I was talking to my friend. I casually mentioned my grandmother (just conversation). She said that she don't see why I was affected so badly because it's not like I currently live in the house that she lived in. She said, if anyone should be grieving, it's my mother (because my mother was taking care of her to the end, living in the house, and stll does). She also brought up her friend our age who lost her father recently. She went as far as to say that her friend is holding up just fine yet that was her father and she still lives in his house, dealing with the memories.
Basically, she made it seem like I have no right to still be sad about my loss because other people's situations are supposedly worse. She claims I have distance and this should not have affected me like it did. What do you think of this?
I rarely even talk about my grandmother to her and she made this comment because of one mention of her. What are your thoughts on this? I'm doubting her friendship (for this and other reasons) but those statements bothered me. Do some people have more right to grieve than others?
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