Do you think my mom's being childish

Question

when my mom gets mad at us, she'll say really hurtful things and never think before she says it. just the other day she called us 'retarded children'. she'll slam the door at my face. or sometimes when i get home from classes, she'll make sure she didnt cook enough for me. or she'll just throw away the food so ill have nothing to eat. when i called her just now, halfway talking, she hung up on me.

she always thinks she's right. when i stand up for myself, she'll fight back and call me ungrateful. it's just that sometimes she thinks we're so wrong this and that. when the house seems untidy, she'll blame us and say 'no one want to help me with housework. all my children are so lazy'. she can never stop putting us down. im always doing things around the house. when i clean up the house or did something with the garden or did laundry or whatever, she doesnt acknowledge it. i find that she just loves looking for our flaws. she's really good at complaining that she's been saying things about us to her friends.

im a teenage daughter. yes, i know being a parent of a teenage daughter isnt easy. but im not difficult. like most girls, of course you feel like parents do embarassing things. sometimes i show i dont like it and she'll blast at me. i dont know if she's a mother at all. although im not a parent, but i know all these arent good parenting skills.

what do you think i should do? bear with her til i move out? should i say something? cos i did and like i mentioned, she thinks im being ungrateful. dont bother asking me to talk to my dad.

Answer 1

First of all I'd have to get your mother's side to make my statement accurate but since I can't have that...I'll just advise you based on yours....First of all, all mothers go a little crazy (well actually a lot) but that doesn't mean they dont love you.....maybe your mom is stressed about work, bills, or something.....try to find out what is going on with her....when she is most calm try saying "mom,you really hurt me when you yell at me and even when you hang up on me mid-sentence and I was just wondering what I did that made you so angry...." (but be sure to stay calm cool and collected so as not to heat up the situation into an argument)......when she responds think before reacting....if she comes out with whats bothering her then feel free to open up with your feelings and take the oppurtunity as a bonding moment.....if she responds with yelling or any other negative response remain calm and try in a few days.....in the end if she doesn't tell you whats bothering her try talking to an aunt, uncle, or grandparent who might give you some better insight...if a family member is not available to help try talking to a school counseler....I hope everything works out .....

PS I dont think your mom would purposely throw away food to keep you from eating it...she might not have paid attention to what she was doing due to something stressful that may be on her mind.....

PPS.my mom also hangs up on me and accuses me of stuff that doesn't make sense but there is always a reason behind her attitude towards me

PPPS. TRY TO HEAL THIS THE BROKEN BOND WITH YOUR MOM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE OR YOU MIGHT REGRET IT LATER IN LIFE....good luck!!!

Answer 2

stop doing the things you do around the house, so maybe she will notice.

don't listen to her putting you down, parents don't know as much as they think they do, stand up for yourself and your siblings, but do be careful with what you say.

Answer 3

You have to say something to her. If your mom doesn't know how badly it is affecting you already, she needs to be told.  And if you can't get through to your mom, then talk to someone she trusts and tell them and ask them if they will talk to her. You only have one mother and if your problems aren't worked out, they will only get worse.  Good luck  =)

Answer 4

Just don't get too mad and say stuff because i have done that all my life and everybody in my family is afraid of what i am going to say to them and talks behind my back

Answer 5

it seems like your mother is blaming you for something that your really had no control over : maybe having kids young or didn't want kids- but  i don't know the situation. Yeh, i know that must suck because you can't really do anything about it. You can always talk about it with her, but be sure to NEVER put the blame on her because she seems like she would be upset about that.

When talking to her, always make it so that what you say doesn't make her feel attacked. If you don't talk to her, just stay out of her way- you seem to know that no MATTER what you do, you will never be thanked for it. Keep doing that chores that you do so she has nothing to B***** at you for and just stay out of her way. Maybe getting a job or something will keep you away from the house longer, which will give you time to breath.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

If it stayed at her just being obnoxious to you I would say try and put up with it but the fact that she sometimes doesn't feed you; well that's not childish... that's child abuse. I feel you should tell some AND SOON! Before this really gets out of hand.

A neighbor, the NSPCC, your school?

Tell anyone you feel can help. That's all I can say.

Answer 7

just dont listen to her

Answer 8

your mother sounds mentally ill. you should talk to a counselor at school. you'll be doing her a favor, she needs help.

Answer 9

yeah that's stinks but just kind of stick it out until you move out or find a relative or friend she would let you stay with for a little bit until maybe things get better.

you never know, she might have just too much stress and take it out on her kids.  

Answer 10

I think she is being childish. I don't know what her problem is but it has to be deeper if she's doing these things out of pure spite. Try talking to her calmly about these things and if she starts yelling or being irrational refuse to continue the conversation until she calms down. Ask her why she does the things she does to you and don't let down until you have gotten a real answer out of her. But don't disrespect her.