Do you think my mother treats me too much like a child?

Question

I'm fourteen... I can't read teen fiction books unless she overreads them. I can't go to the movies with my friends. I can't sleepover. And I can't watch PG-13 films unless it's something like... I don't know, Indiana Jones? I'm so sick of it.

Answer 1

your mother is insane!! no offense, but you can't even read teen books without her approval?? that is so wrong! and that sleepover and movie thing is way to strict!

Answer 2

Yes!!!!! I am fourteen too. You need to respect your mom but it is time to stand up for yourself. You and your mom need to talk.

What's wrong with Indiana Jones?!

Answer 3

Well your mom is in charge of you (and your dad) and you should follow those rules, but some of those are kinda ridiculous. I mean they are called TEEN fiction not ADULT fiction and you are already a teenager! Well, I can understand why you can't go to the movies with your friends if you guys are only 14, there are so many sexual abusers out there looking out for teens and such. Just when you wanna see a movie with your friends, just whoever is inviting you tell them for the parent coming to sit far away from you guys so if there still is an emergency, shes not miles away. And don't worry I can't sleep over either. It's not a big deal you can do the same stuff during the day. Also your mother should let you watch PG-13 movies because you're over 13! You should talk to your mom and if she isn't listening talk to a family member to talk to your mom because she will probably take them more seriously.

Answer 4

yeah man i think ryt now ur goin nowhere wid ur lyf... get ur momma a reality check .. she needs it

Answer 5

Lol yes, that is ridicules

Start to rebel man, that is just embarrassing

Answer 6

Your mum is being protective of you, not just mean. Maybe a little too much, but ask her to listen to your opinion - you are 14 - so probably way overdue the sleepover thing.

You have to ask yourself - can you be trusted?, have you done things in the past to make her limit what you are allowed to do?.

Don't want to grow up so fast!, as adults we have to worry about, work, money, bills  etc - and often wish we were children again, who only worry about school, friends and fashion - none of which can get you in serious financial trouble!

Answer 7

why do you let her treat you like that?

if you want to do something just do it, you're not a kid, you're a teenager!

like the other person said - rebel against her

once you're 16 you should be able to do as you please - i do ! =)

good luck x

Answer 8

Well you're not an adult.  Your mother is responsible for your well being and as long as you live under HER roof you're going to have to abide by HER rules.  When you are 16 you can contact child services and request to become emancipated.   That will mean that you have some sort of gainful employment, a place to live, be able to pay your own bills, buy your own clothing (as well as pay for your own movies)You will have to be able to provide for your own medica/dental care, you will have to be able to provide your own transportation to and from where ever you go, do all of that PLUS maintain a decent grade average in school or get your GED, because your mother will no longer be responsible for it all.

Answer 9

That is ridiculous!!! Seriously I am 13 and I watch NC-17 Movies and X. OMG!!! She is needs to def. lay off u

Answer 10

no don't start 2 rebel !! you are still a child at 14, but i do think your mother is being a little too protective but she is only being concerned she's obviously very worried about things that might happen to you. I would maybe sit down and speak to your mum and tell her what you feel.

Answer 11

I know its hard to see it this way , but be grateful your mom is trying to protect you the way she is.   Try to earn her trust - let her know that you get the whole book and movie thing but if she speaks to the parents - would she budge on the sleepover.  Maybe try to compromise or ask what you need to do to earn her trust.   Have you done anything to make her not trust you at someone's home or are your particular friends maybe questionable?  otherwise, have your friends mom call your mom to invite you over - once she speaks/meets the parents she may eventually feel comfortable with it.   It is so tough these days to let your kids out of your sight - people have guns, alcohol, r-movies etc in their homes  - your mom is just trying to protect you.

Answer 12

wowww im younger then you andi can do all of those things. well except go 2 the movies by mi self. Type a nice well organized letter telling her the things u want to do and give a reason why u want 2 do that and  make sure 2 explain that its safe. WHATEVER YOU DO DONT WHINE!!!! it will make you seem very childish. Good Luck!!

Answer 13

I agree with you, she's not giving you any privacy!

Answer 14

I would gently see if she will stretch the boundaries a bit.

Don't ask her if you can read ALL teen fiction books, ask her if you can read this one, that your English teacher recommends and has loads of great reviews on the back cover.

Don't ask her if you can go to movies with your friends, ask her if you can go to this movie on Saturday with an appropriate rating, with your friends x and y, and x's mum is going to take you and pick you up afterwards.

Sleepovers...hmmm, can you get the mum of the friend to ring and ask your mum, instead of you asking yourself?

I'm a mum myself, I know where your mum is coming from, but at the same time you are fourteen and it's time for her to give you a bit of space to show that you can be responsible. Just don't ask for it all at once. Baby steps :)

(And when she does let you do something, be 100% sure that you don't push the boundaries. If she says "yes but you must be home by 8", be sure to be home by 7:30 :) Show her you can absolutely be trusted, and she'll trust you more.)

Answer 15

when did you get a job and start feeding your family and paying the bills. if you are living under your moms roof then you need to respect her and her rules and when you question them it is showing disrespect so i think you need to stop with the whining and go tell your mom how much you appreciate the things she does for you and how much you love her. or move out and make it on your own.

Answer 16

she just loves you and wants to protect you!

and your at the age when u dont care about tht

so love her back and stop whining.

Answer 17

oy.  Just rebel a little. She needs to relized the tighter grasp she has on you the more you're going to try and wiggle out.

Answer 18

Yes, she is treating you too much like a child. And it would be true even if you were ten years old.