Do you think parents are to blame if a child failed kindergarten or 1st grade?

Question

do you think parents does not take the time with kids or the kid is just doom?

Answer 1

I guess we were lucky because my mom only worked part time when we were little and was always helping us with reading, writing, telling time (before we even went to kindergarten).  We were way ahead even of the kids that went to preschool (which we didn't).  I think parents should help their kids more, and that it's too bad some parents have to spend so many hours at work.

Answer 2

it all depends on the reason the child is failing. if it is a problem provoked by a family role model or a problem in the family, it is the parents' fault.

however, if it is something caused by a neighbor, friend, other influential person, or a behavioral problem like being bipolar, it isnt the parents' fault and is considered an outside problem.

Answer 3

Is your child in one of those classes were they bring in special ed. kids so that the special need kids can interact with normal children? I know some schools do that.

At 7 or 8, I would have to say the kids' must have some severe learning disability or something that's holding them back.  I used to work in a special ed class and I was always shocked that the school would move children up into another grade when they really really needed to stay in the same grade.

That's not to say that parents can't be partially responsible.  When parents expect kids just to teach themselves and know to take care of their homework, that's when a kid that's already struggling is really going to have problems.

I generally don't think kids are doomed - they just need the right support system and the will power to work. And that's hard to get when you've been in Kindergarden for 2 years.

Answer 4

So you are saying that parents are to blame if a child has special needs??  How sweet of you.  

So if a child maybe has dyslexia, a learning disability, etc it's all the parents fault.    You know there was a time back in the 60's and 70's when it was thought that it was the mother's fault that kid's had autism.   Those of us with kids that have special needs don't need any more condemnation thanks.

Answer 5

Not always, but it helps to have a strong helping parent, they need a good start, an idea of how a classroom is organized and not chaotic.   How to sit quietly and focus on what a teacher says.  So parents can help but it's not always their fault. Teachers and parents work together to pass this student, if no communication and working together, it is HARD for a student to strive in school.

Answer 6

Absolutely...

Answer 7

It totaly is not the child's fault. It is the teacher's faulkt because the teacher is not teaching the kid correctly. When you are seven you hit the age that you have to do everything by your self. If you fail a grade or so then that was your resposnibility becasue you had to concentrate in class and not fool around and not pay attention to the teacher.

Hope that helps!

Answer 8

some kids have disabilities that they can't help. Some kids are slower learners for some reason or another. It doesn't mean their parents didn't work with them.

my son didn't stay back but he does have a learning disability. He's in second grade but way behind everyone else. I didn't do anything different with him than I did with my older three boys and my older three are honor and high honor students in middle school. So all kids are different and just because a child is behind doesn't mean the parent didn't do anything with them. My son has had a full evaluation and has an IEP. I've done all I can to help him and I will continue to as well.

Answer 9

Yes unless the child has a learning disability. If a parent is active in their child's education, then their kids should have not failed. But I thought it was impossible to fail kindergarten. There's a problem if a child fails kindergarten.

Answer 10

i think that parents and techers should be able to see a problem and work with the parents and the students to try to prevent him/her from being held back. if that doesn't happen then the parents and the teachers are the dumb ones not the students!

Answer 11

I think when it comes to those ages, it is neccesary to ask 1st : is there something wrong with the child?

If you know there isn't either the parents or teachers aren't doing something right. And my bet would be the parents. My son is in kindergarten, and he is well pass some kids on certain things and right on with other subjects. All kids learn at his/her own pace, but the parent has to guide the child. HOMEWORK!! Whether my son has anything from school or not, he at least has to write 10 sight words 3x each. Repetition is the key to learning everything. You just have to make it fub for your child. My son is already reading, and doing addition and telling time!! What a genius!!

Answer 12

they can if they miss too many days of school is major some teachers just don think the kid is ready but some kids dont care and don listen so fail

Answer 13

I don't think you can judge everyone at the one time. The child may have a learning disability that hasn't yet been picked up by the teacher or parents. My brother's dyslexia wasn't diagnosed til he was 10 years old, my father always accused him of not working hard enough and slacking off, and my mother used to spend hours with him helping him with his homework and reading with him.

Don't think of it as 'failing' kindergarten or first grade, more being held back so they can get the best possible learning experience.

Answer 14

some parents may have wanted their child to be held back. some kids need it. but it is their fault if theyre not helping with learning things, like writing letters and numbers. also colors and what not

Answer 15

With my niece mom yes. Because she let her stay awake till one in the morning and she was falling sleep in class. I don't know why she let her do that. This my brother ex anyways. She had to go through kindergarten again in the morning and 1 grade in the afternoon. Then they found out that she had ADHD. My six year old is going through his first year of kindergarten and he going all day since he has learning disability and they pull him out for speech and he has ADHD has well. But I am working with him everyday on reading and his homework and anything that he needs to know. And he in bed by 9. He knows more then my other niece does.

Answer 16

It definately depends on the situation.  Younger grades are actually the best time to have a kid repeat and make it a successful experience.  Most schools do not like to hold kids back beyond first or second grade because the effects can be more detrimental than helpful.

One of the most common reasons a child repeats an early grade is because that child is not mature enough yet.  Also, young children develop at such different rates that it is very possible a child who is a bit behind at this age can catch up by repeating kindergarten.  This is not as likely once kids are 8 or 10 years old because development has slowed by this age.  There are, of course, children whose parents have not done anything but give birth to them and, when those children are behind, I do find some fault with the parents.

Answer 17

I would have to say its the parents fault. I'm not bragging this is just an example, but I have a 3 yr old, and I spend time playing with her but at the same time I teach her things.  She can tell you her address, count to 10 in English and Spanish, she knows her alphabet, and she can spell her name, she knows her colors.  Like I said I'm not bragging but if the parents aren't spending time with their kids and teaching them things, then they aren't going to know things.  And if the parent does teach their kids things then I think they should have the kid checked by a professional to see if there are bigger problems or learning disabilities.

Answer 18

if the parent doesnt teach the child as much as they can then yes, but other than that no I dont think it is the parents fault on how fast a child learns....

on another point I got put up 2 classes in school but my brother has got dysexia he can read n write now but had really bad trouble in school also my other brother had to go to speech therapy coz he studdered alot...but they are both brainy now they are both mechanical egineers....

Answer 19

yes,  children are a blank slate and can be molded into many things.  I held our son back due to his lack of attention, but he is a great problem solver.  Other kids may not have the same planning done for them by their parents and may be put in a more difficult position.  But, the teacher those kids had for their first years is their partents.

Answer 20

Not always.  Some kids just mature slower than others.  Some can handle kindergarten at 4 years old and some need to wait until 6.

Answer 21

No.

Answer 22

I don't think you can blame parents too much. yes, we are to help educate them, but what do they go to school for?

Answer 23

it is not the parents fault its most likely not because the kid did not try it is usually because they are not developing as fast as the other kids...i personally failed kindergarten and it had nothing to do with my parents it was because i had a speech problem, i could not make the sound of the letter "s" it always came out as the sound of the  "h"

Answer 24

Well I actually know many kids who have been held back a grade or even two. One entire family of 3 kids were held back, and my husband's sisters 3 kids were all held back. In these cases and ALL of the others I know the parents don't consider education important or a priority; and they never help their children with school projects, homework, or play an active role in their education. So I would say YES, I do think parents are responsible.