Do you think parents spoil their children too much? What about label them too easily?

Question

I work with children from K-6th grade and have been noticing over the past year that these parents seem to spoil their children very much. Their child gets what their child wants. No questions asked. Even if the request is not particularly good for the child's health, safety or personality. They expect this behavior from me also. I give them as much respect as possible but they don't return the favor. They have no respect for authority and blatantly ignore the simplest tasks asked of them. Also, if I tell the parent their child was misbehaving repeatedly, the parents use the excuse that their child has some sort of "learning disability" and that hinders their "listening ears". I believe there are truly learning disabilities out there, but that doesn't explain bad behavior. These kids are becoming outright naughty and overly spoiled. I do not want to eventually live in a world run by adults like this. What do you think about the situation?

Answer 1

sorry but it's too late there will be some properly raised children but so many are not taught manners or respect.  my children 21-26 are actually thanking me now for a proper upbringing.  it has made them responsible adults.

Answer 2

i think the parents are pathetic, and they're children will be also.  to use the excuse of learning disability when there is none is horrible.   when that supposed "learning disability" is entered into the school record, it will follow that child throughout his/her school career and the parents will wonder why their child is in special needs classes. for you that have children with learning disabilities, i apologize to you for the insensitive morons that use "learnig disability" to dismiss their child's rude, disrespectful behavior.

this is how children grow up with the warped/incorrect sense of entitlement; their parents are too stupid to say no, and mean no when jr or jr-ette constantly gets the gimmes (gimme this, gimme that) with the usual temper tantrum.  they have no sense of parenting, discipline, guidance...nothing. these parents infuriate me and because they make excuses for their children, they expect others to play along so jr/jr-ette won't feel bad. listening ears my a**, the child is hard-headed, disrespectful and needs reprimanding! some of these parents have the audacity to blame everyone, move from place to place to keep their kids from the "bad" elements.. always in denial that they're raising the bad element!  i do not understand these parents....since when did parenting include being your child's friend?!!!  i don't need my child as a friend...that was not my role, and as a grandmother it is not my role.  since when did parenting include constantly making excuses for your child's poor behavior instead of not tolerating it?  that giving into the temper tantrum is where this nonsense gets its start.  kids are very smart, and as with all of us, do what works.  as parents, its up to us to lay the foundation of tolerance guidelines and rules.  it is proven that when children know their boundaries, they know how far they can push and when to back off.  they learn consequences.  this doesn't mean they won't try to step outside the boundaries (and some do) but for most they know the cost and they don't want to pay it too often.

these parents are doing all of us a disservice with their hellions.  they're raising a bunch of societal misfits.  why do i have to tolerate the bad a**, hard-headed, voice screeching "i hate you" kid when i will not tolerate that in mine?

i think old school parenting and punishment are l-o-n-g          o-v-e-r-d-u-e!!!!!!!  spanking is not against the law..abuse is.  there is a difference.  "time out" is a joke.  if you think it works, the jails are full of kids on "time out".

did i say that this new breed of (ineffective) parents infuriates me?

Answer 3

my daughter is one, but i do not want her to be spoiled or bratty by any means. she will and is being taught to respect adults and do as she is told unless it is something that she clearly knows is wrong. but in the same token i do some what give my daughter what she wants because i believe if you have good well mannered kids then they should recieve things that they want as a reward. as long as my daughter and son who is on the way stays out of troble and respects me and there father they will get what they want that's why i work! and i dont see anything wrong with that

Answer 4

my child actually does have a learning disability but it's not used as an excuse for bad behavior etc, as it is her behavior is fine, She copes well with her learning problems and finds her own way of learning certain things. Some stuff she'll do in a slightly different way to other kids.

A lot of the time parents will label their kids as having ADHD when they have never been assessed just it's easier for them to say that or say they are hyperactive.

of course many children do have these conditions, but often i think it's bad parenting which is not fair on the parents or kids who do have genuine problems

Answer 5

I think this is somewhat true and somewhat of an overgeneralization.

Rude behavior is increasing, and some parents seem to have given up on correcting it.  Rudeness and informality appear more and more in kids' cartoons and sitcoms and it's portrayed as cool or funny.  I worry about that a lot and wonder what it will do to social and business relationships in the next generation.  For example, I can already see employers treating their young employees with disrespect, and the employees seem to accept it.   I have been treated rudely by employees of stores, banks and clinics, and they don't have a clue that they are being impolite.  I see rude behavior on the roads all the time, and it causes accidents and deaths.

I'm not so sure about kids being overly spoiled.  Some are, but the majority of parents really and truly can't afford to give their kids everything they ask for.  And what's the worst will happen if they do?  The kids could possibly grow up with a sense of entitlement and could expect to get their way, but I think they will be cured of this rather quickly when they're on their own in the real world.  It may be difficult for them, so their parents haven't done them any favors.  But in general, I think spoiling is less of a problem than tolerating bad behavior.

Just my thoughts.