Do you think people who used VERY hard drugs for a long time can be good parents.....?

Question

even if they are not ashamed of or shy about their past drug use? Keep in mind,Ii said PAST hard drug use, such as cocaine, meth, ecstasy, mushrooms, acid, peyote, heroin etc.

I absolutely think they can, seeing as I am one, curious what others thinks about the subject. I am also a recreational pot smoker still, and NOT ashamed of it one bit, but I am prepared to hear what a rotten momma I must be!

With my first pregnancy I came clean about all the drugs I had used in the past two years, I had stopped 6 months before getting pregnant. That was 11 years ago and I haven't touched anything but the green since.

Answer 1

I can't think of a single benefit to either your life or your child's life that could come from your past or current drug use.  The fact that you were involved with hard drugs for 2 years tells me that you, of all people, should know that getting off of them and staying that way for 11 years is a big exception to the rule.  Good luck with your continued almost-sobriety

Answer 2

Well.... my dear...

There's  ALWAYS a chance to..."rehabilitate" & start all over again !  Congratulations that you've found your way out of the "vicious" cycle that (hard) drug use brings about!!! My respect !!!

So why shouldn't you be a : good parent??? Sure, you can !!! Everybody deserves an opportunity to switch their life into more prosperous..."avenue's"...I'm proud of you !! (I#ve been down "that road" myself & went through long-term-therapy & I'm clean now & doing great !!! Raised 2 kid's meanwhile & I have a fabulous relationship with my children ! Facit: it  C A N  be done !!

The advantage on your... "past" is... that (once your kid is going through adolescence) , you'll know "the signs"...of "danger", just in case your child get's ..."off the track".... At least, you can't be "fooled" by a teeny..."experimenting" with a particular..."drug".. in case this may occur in the future. You get my point???

However, I wish you all the best for the future & stay strong ! Greetings from Germany...& lots of love.... Annette***

Answer 3

I was a daily meth user and dealer for two years when I was in my early 20's...I also occasionally used weed and cocaine...

I partied like a rockstar.

I'm now 35 and the responsible working mother of a beautiful almost 2 year old boy.

I don't use any drugs anymore, personally I believe that there is a line...you either ARE a drug user or you ARE NOT...it's like being pregnant....there's no middle ground...but that's just what works for me...

My husband smokes weed occassionally and while I don't understand it...that's his deal and it doesn't keep him from being a responsible loving father and husband.

I don't have any regrets...infact I think because of my past, I am WAY more equipped to detect drug usage in my son when and if that time comes.

What hasn't yet killed me has made me stronger and better armed to deal with whatever comes my way tomorrow.

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OH YA and I forgot...I know plenty of self rightous wind bags that are as pure as the driven snow that don't know their butt from a hole in the ground when it comes to parenting...

I think "good parenting" and any other thing that's worth doing well...requires brains...

Whether someone has done drugs or not...may not be as damaging as being an idiot in the first place....you know what I mean??  

We may have abused the good sense we have...but at least we've got that good sense to begin with....alot of people don't.

Answer 4

i think your dirty and have a crackbaby.

its not okay to be a mommy and smoke a blunt.

im 16 and pregnant and im not lighting up weed.

Answer 5

Wow....  this is a great issue to bring up.  Personally, I think anybody can be a good parent if they really want to.  If somebody wants to seriously quit and bring their child up right and not have it around drugs they can.  Having a child changes everything I think.  Your outlook on life pretty much.  When a person is clean for lets say 9 months they feel good and their frame of mind is so much clearer.  Personally, I would never go back to drug use because I feel great sober and wouldn't change that feeling for anything.  Plus, I have a little one to be concerned about and spending time with her is something I wouldn't jeopardize.  I'm a great mom and everything I do is for her.  So yea, I think past drug users could be great parents if they are really serious about it.  The advantage to past drug use would be to keep your kid as far away from it as possible because you know the outcome.  You're not a rotten momma for smoking pot.  Be responsible though when you do.  Don't go over board and be completely out of your mind when around your baby.

Answer 6

The fact that you still smoke pot is saddening. It just shows immaturaty to me. At least your clean of everything else however, you should be somewhat dissapointed in your past?? Your proud that you did those drugs? Is that what you will teach your child? You can be a good parent until your child finds out that you still do drugs and dont care. They will assume it is ok for them, especially when they get to an older age where they will most likely start trying things there gonna tell there friends my moms cool she smokes weed, she dont care if I smoke...are you kidding my mom used to be into hardcore drugs....it is at that point that it is damaging, when your child thinks it is ok. The same for having an alcoholic as a parent a child might think its cool to drink with mom or dad.

They may assume you are cool with it and find out later your not ok with them doing the things you do...then you look like a hipocrit.

Answer 7

Well.. I think they are capapable of even if they don't want to. but it all depends,if they want to be good parents.. && hopefully u don't do that again.

Answer 8

Overcoming something like drug use is a good thing and being open about your past is also good; it shows not just that you yourself have fortitude and can accomplish something so monumentally challenging, but that it is something that SHOULD be overcome, not continued.  Kudos to you for no longer living that lifestyle.  However, unless you want your child to become a marijuana user, then I'd stop that as well.  The message is "this is okay" even if you verbally say otherwise, you are still giving permission to be a user.  And teens (most likely when your child would start using marijuana) lack the brain development to keep them from going from the soft stuff to harder stuff.  Then they will be where you once were--having to kick some very bad habits, and maybe not able to as you were.

Answer 9

dont ever let your child know that you did that and No your not a bad parent cause thats all in the past.

Answer 10

I just had to show more appreciation that just a 'thumbs up' for silly girl when she said:

"Whether someone has done drugs or not...may not be as damaging as being an idiot in the first place....you know what I mean?? "

That is one of the most brilliant things I've read in a long time!  :applause:

Answer 11

with meth there can be brain damage... so I guess it depends on how heavy a drug user a person was and the damage it left....

I really believe it depends on the person...we have all made mistakes in the past and if we learn from them that makes us good parents.

I use to drink alot before I had my son...now it is only on occasion.

I don't think smoking pot once in awhile is all that bad either... as long as it is not around the kids and it is not everyday. there will be some people on here that might like to give you a hard time about it... those are some of the same ones who think we should all be Mrs. Cleaver and stay home and bake cookies all day.

Answer 12

i think you can still be a good parent, i mean i dont think you should tell your child about the serious drugs but, then again .. since you experienced them you could tell them why they shoudnt and you no what they can do and stuff.. and about smoking weed that doesnt mean your a bad parent either.. i dont think theres anything wrong with it haha.. i do it... just as long as your not smoking when its just you and the baby or doing it around the baby then its all gooooood

Answer 13

I do see what you are saying that you are better equipped to detect drug usage by your children and that certainly makes sense.

Although, I do think that people who used hardcore drugs for extensive periods of time are different than they were before.  And that they will never be the same.  This may be positive or negative.

I have great admiration for you and your ability to overcome drug addiction and be a good mother.

Answer 14

Yes they can if they have given it up,while drugs can mess with your brain,if your not using them anymore then why cant you be a good parent,

we all do things that could make us bad parents but all that matters is your a good mum and your past on drugs is in the past .

a bit of green does no harm as long as you don't smoke round the kids i bet you will get a lot of negative answers but as if any of the answers her are going to admit they have ever done drugs,~I am honest enough to say i do smoke weed on an odd occasion

Answer 15

its really not just the drug, it depends on the person. some people cant stop those addictions and i think they are bad parents. ive known many girls that continued while pregnant and kept going after the baby, and thats not fair. i used to smoke weed every day and after my daughter, ive tried it, but its not the same for me, i dont like it. but ur u and as long as ur kids are safe and taken care during the time that u are high, cant judge u. i wouldnt do it anymore, but thats me, not u. for the hardcore drugs i never have and never will, but i do think, like all things it depends on the situation and the person in it. some people can over come those issues and still have productive lives, while others cant.