Do you think putting children up for adoption is right?

Question

Do you think putting children up for adoption is right?

Answer 1

I think that putting children up for adoption is a wonderful thing if you know you can't handle or afford a child ...there are many reasons people do it but for someone who cannot have children, adoption is a God send

Answer 2

If you are unable to care for a child---it is the absolutely BEST and most HONORABLE thing you can do for that baby AND its future parents.

Answer 3

Children are not "put up" or "given up" for adoption.  Biological parents make or create an "adoption plan" for them.  And yes, I do feel that it is a positive thing.  Why wouldn't it be?  

Placing a child in a loving home....what would be wrong with that?

Answer 4

Yes.  

Any girl who has a baby before the age of 18 3/4 should have their baby immediately removed from them.  

Any child that is in an unsafe home should be placed with someone who can care for them.

Answer 5

Adoption is a blessing.  I have two adopted sons and cherish them with all of my soul.  I prayed and prayed to have my own child, and when that did not happen.....I was more than ready, willing and able to adopt.  The children would have had really hard lives.  The mothers were unable to care for them and had no financial means to give the children good lives.  It's a loving, caring...miraculous thing to do when one loves a baby enough to put the child into adoptive homes where the parents want the baby more than anything in the world.

Answer 6

It's definitely better than abortion and better than raising the child yourself if you know you'd be an unfit or unloving parent!  Better to give the child a chance with a couple that really wants children!

Answer 7

Yes if the parent/parents are NOT able to PROPERLY care for the child.

What I THINK is wrong is ALL these kids HERE in the US that NEED home and people are going to OTHER countries to adopt!  I feel sorry for all the little kids here see that famous people went OVER SEAS again and adopted a little kid and didn't want to adopt HERE in the US!!!!!  And of course all these people on a waiting list to adopt an INFANT and won't even CONSIDER the other kids that need homes!  They would rather sit on a waiting list for YEARS for a baby then give their love to a CHILD that needs them NOW!

If we had the money and the room to adopt a  child I would, but my fiance doesn't want to adopt because he has two kids from a previous marrage and one with me and I am possibly pregnant again.  Two kids is the limit for us he says, but I hope to change his mind in the future and adopt a CHILD that needs a home!!!!

Answer 8

Right is a relative word.  What's right (and loving) is for a parent to provide properly for their children -- however they are able.  Be that through the decision of day to day parenting, foster care, adoption or relative placement -- that decision is what it truly means to be a parent.

Answer 9

Its honestly depends on the reason you are doing it. if you must know there are thousands of children in the system waiting to be adopted. some are placed from foster homes to foster homes theyre whole life because they never found a family that adopted them. it also depends on their age, the older the child the harder it is to adopt him or her. mainly because ppl who are adopting want young infants to adopt. on the contrary of it, if the person cant provide for the child then it would be a choice to ensure a better future. but then again why would you have a child and be careless if you know you cant support it. its sad but true, many ppl just bring children into this world and dont care for them properly.

Answer 10

I think that the option can be used in a positive way, despite it being such a sad option.

Now, if you asked if women being put into a position of having to choose if this is the better option, that is not right.  We should be doing more to make parenting plausible in a positive way for men and women in crisis pregnancies.  We should not be sweet talking them out of their children when their circumstances are temporary.

Answer 11

Yes I dont see anything at all wrong with adoption. Its better than the alternatives..abortion...or raising a child that for whatever reason you cant raise. and so much better than the parents that abandon or kill their children. the way i see it millions of babies are born every day and who knows how many loving couples ( or singles as the case may be) are out there that cant have children. why abort/abandon/hurt/resent a child that can have a loving home?

Answer 12

Yes, if the parent/parents aren't able to be their for the child then yes. The only reason putting a kid up for adoption would be bad is iff the parents just simply decided they didn 't want children any more. Of course that would be great for the kid because if a parent decides that then the kid would have been in danger.....

Answer 13

I'm adopted, so yeah, I think it's right. Why wouldn't it be?

Answer 14

I was adopted at birth, and I have never had any wish that I wasn't.  My family has always been wonderful, and I can't imagine life without them.  

I do believe adoption is a better choice in most situations than letting an unfit family care for a child.

I think adopted kids tend to feel more wanted then kids who are in biological families and find out they were a "surprise".  I know my mom planned for me and fought for me and worked a lot to be able to adopt me.  Adopted kids are certainly not unwanted.  Or else they wouldn't be adopted!

Answer 15

I think it's better than abortion, and with so many family's out

there that can't concieve, wanting to adopt a child is a good

blessing for many.

I am old and grew up in an orphanage and would have loved

to have parents. Now there are no orphanages, Thank God.

Answer 16

I think that it depends upon the situation. A young (teenaged) unwed mother whose boyfriend is not going to be around to help raise the baby? Absolutely! A widow? Not so much. But generally I think that children are better off being raised in a loving, stable, two-parent (male and female--I do not agree with same-s*x couples adopting) home.

Answer 17

Yes I think its fine some parents are not able to care for a child at that point in their life. Know that they couldn’t offer their child the very best life possible.  After all being a parent is putting your child first, in most cases that’s exactly what parents are doing when they put their child(ren) up for adoption.  

Or if the child is not safe remaining with birthparents. Like that recent story of man who put his baby in the microwave. There are many people who shouldn’t be parents.

Heck even if birthparents that just don't want the kid, better to be raised by ones who truly want you then ones that don't.

FYI - not all adoptees search for their birthparents/ “family”

Answer 18

its a personal decision for birthparents. its sad that no matter what birthparents, esp. unwed young women, do they will always have judegments made about their decision by complete strangers. if they chose to reaise their child, they will be labeled irresponsible and selfsih for raising a child and not having all the resources to do so. if a mother places her child for adoption, she's considered heartless for abadoning her child. yet the people who make these assumptions have never been placed in that kind of a situation.

Answer 19

To a point if the child will be neglicted by her bio parents then YES! and its way better than abortion or if they were raped and didnt want the baby theres always parents that can provide better so it depends but its sad for the babies because when they grow up they always go for the whole search of mommy and daddy.

Answer 20

yes, its there to give a second chance, to give the child a chance at a stable life.

tanya c (above answerer) is very distorted about why a child is given up, its too bad that she cant see the good it gives. not all adoptees are unwanted and live their lives feeling abandoned, most are very grateful for the life they were allowed to live.

Answer 21

It is right when they have no way to care for them, cannot provide them with a good life, it was incest or rape, they don't want or love the baby.

Think of all those couples out there that are desperately trying for many years to have a baby and can't. To have a baby that someone else just can't care for would be such a blessing. it also gives that Mother a chance to start over and learn from the mistakes or others mistakes.

Answer 22

Yes I do, A child is better off being with parents that love and want a child. I just adopted twin girls and one day they will know that they are adopted. Children are a gift from god.

Answer 23

If adoption will give achild a good loving home and prevent the child from a abusive home then yes it is right.However people use adoption and abortion too much to get rid of a baby because they are not ready for a baby or because the baby is mixed.To me that is so wrong and these kind of people needs to have some kind of fine or something put on them.

Answer 24

I was adopted, but I don't think I honestly can say if I think it's right or wrong.  Don't get me wrong I am not a supporter of abortion.  I'm just a strong supporter in birth control and/or abstinence, because there are too many babies and children in orphanages right now and most of them will not even get adopted.  The best thing people can do is take the proper precautions.  If you aren't ready for the responsibility, than please don't bring a child into the world.

Answer 25

It's a wonderful thing.  It helps someone who isn't ready to be a mother give a gift to people who otherwise couldn't be parents.  The child gets to grow up knowing they have two families that love and care for them, and often has a better life than their birth family could provide.

Answer 26

Yes and No! Being adopted may well mean that the child will probably have a better life and parents than if he/she wasn't adopted and if the biological parents aren't coping then its a good thing for the child.  However, adopted children often have a feeling of being unwanted (no matter how caring their adoptive parents) and often carry this with them through their lives and relationships so it can be subcontiously destructive.  I will NEVER regret being adopted but I find it very hard to feel good enough.  Other adopted people I've spoken to have said they feel them same way!

Answer 27

I was adopted as a baby and I know my feelings about it. On one hand, I am very happy and grateful that I was. I had a wonderful childhood and my parents were the most caring, loving people in the world. My adopted dad was a lawyer and my mom could stay at home, although she was also his secretary from home. On the other hand, as a mom/grandmother myself, I can't imagine putting a child up for adoption! And, that part of me hates my "real" mom. I try not to feel that way, but I never wanted to meet her. My father knew the family and was always open to me asking about it, but I never did. Now, that I'm older, I wish I had. That information died when my father did. All I know is that my mom died of lung cancer when I was 16 and she was 40. I know that she is buried in Knightstown but that's about all.

So, yes, I feel it is right under certain circumstances and I do see that it's an unselfish thing to do in some circumstances. I just hope that people understand that it will cause many mixed emotions in those that are adopted and that they try to be understanding of that.

Answer 28

Sometimes it can't be avoided if the mother has been deserted by the childs father and she has nowhere to go or no way of caring and supporting her child what other option does she have for the good of her child.

I understand this and do not judge.

Adopting out your child is the hardest thing a woman can do as she is putting her child before her own feelings and she should never be condemned for it.

Answer 29

yes, for several reasons

If you can't take care of them.

If you hate them.

If you abuse them.

If you think about abusing them.

If you don't know who the father is and you were raped.

Yes

Answer 30

Its a wonderful thing.....I guess the biggest thing to think about is that there are a billion people who are having babies everyday, and at the same time, there are those people who cant concieve, or who want to save a life....so i say why not, if you know you cant provide the life that the baby deserves, the shouldnt it be great to give someone who has been longing to give a child a happy life that gift?!?

Answer 31

Yes, if you can't provide for your child, why deprive it of having a great life with a good family?