Do you think that cheating on your spouse has become more accepted?

Question

Since this happened to me, it seems I am hearing about it from every corner. It causes so much pain and changes not just the immediate party, but an extended circle of relatives and friends. People make up lame excuses about not loving themselves or childhood needs not being met, but basically, lying to someone who loves you and trusts you is pure selfishness, and I wonder, how did so many people get so selfish?

Answer 1

i sure as h**l hope not.why would you even consider it?ive been married to my lovely wife for over 11 years,the thought hasnt crossed my mind

Answer 2

I went through the same thing. The amazing thing is the excuses are the same no matter who you talk to. I think the real reason is that people lost the meaning of the word "committed" and the phrase "better or worse".

Answer 3

i cant really say how people became so selffish. i do agree that people are becoming more accepted to it which i do not agree with. i believe it has to do with the media a little bit. you see that famous people and people we look up to are cheating on there spouses and they say sorry and are on there way with there lives.  

Answer 4

Cheating is wrong. I am remarried and although my husband was divorced from his former wife and I had trust issues just knowing about it.  I was not the other woman and I know he is faithful because I am almoxt 20 years younger and he knows that I will end the relationship if it happens. I guess our age difference and my energy level keeps him home.

Answer 5

It's more the idea that this is the way people are, so we can;t help ourselves (pretty pathetic)

Answer 6

more people are doing it doesnt mean its more accepted i am against this cruel and unfriendly nature so i say no its not becoming more accepted, just more common

Answer 7

Its not acceptable to me or anyone else on the receiving end of a cheater.  

Answer 8

i am sorry for your hurt, not all men are bad

good luck

Answer 9

People make a big deal about it in hollywood, it's still a big deal there, I think they are right to make it a big deal. It's a sin. It has sadly been more accepted, and we should un-accept it.

Answer 10

it's only accepted by people with no morals or self-control

Answer 11

No, no, no.

Answer 12

For Sissy,

Who are you to judge what happens in another person's marriage?  YES, we all know that cheating is deprave, morally unacceptable, hurtful, and disgusting.  It is wrong.  But there is sometimes forgiveness.  If Hillary was able to get past that tremendous pain, and forgive Bill of his infidelity, who are you to say she shouldn't? I mean whether a spouse leaves or reconciles, it's their decision and is unique to their circumstances and relationship.  If your boys were asking what adultery is, it's not Hillary's job to parent them.  Adultery is a common word, one of the 10 commandments if you are religious. She didn't ask for it to be public, it just comes with the territory.  Shame on you for writing her a letter when she was the bigger person.  She could've left him, but she searched her heart and made HER decision.  Jeez, everybody is a critic!

Answer 13

People are raised now to get instant gratification. They get rewarded whether they deserve it or not. We live in a disposable society, if you don't like it throw it away. Children are also being raised with no morals. Mom and Dad do what ever they want to and the children see this and emulate the actions. There is no excuse for not having morals other than the individuals choose not to.

Answer 14

i dont think its more excepted but i think alot more people do it but dont want it happening to them so there hypocrites i personally would NEVER cheat i thinks its stupid

Answer 15

it is not more accepted, its just there are WAY more s***s these days

Answer 16

Cheating may be more out in the open then it was in the past, but that does not make it any more acceptable.  It is just as wrong and just as hurtful to everyone involved.  Cheating is selfish and shows a complete lack of respect for your partner.  There is no excuse for it.  If you have a problem with your spouse, discuss it with them--but don't go running around behind his or her back.  I have never cheated on my wife, and I know that I could not live with the guilt if I ever betrayed her.

Answer 17

It not accepted, there are just WAY more pigs these days.

Answer 18

Cheating more acceptable? Not to the spouses who get cheated on.

Answer 19

Yes I do. I wrote Hillary Clinton a letter when My 3 boys were young and asked me everyday after reading the newspaper" Mommy, what's adultrey?" I was so angry at her for tolerating this behavior from her husband. She set an example for all of our sons and daughters who will some day become husbands and wives that it is ok. Shameful. And my heart goes out to you. God Bless you and stay strong. It will pass.

Answer 20

Cheating in every form has become more accepted - whether it's cheating on an exam, cheating on your taxes, or cheating on your spouse. Because people accept it & tolerate it at the earliest ages, for many there is no real reason  not to cheat any more. Parents don't care if Johnny cheats on a test as long as he gets the grades that get him into the right school. Politicians, athletes, celebrities of all kinds cheat so often that those who could be our best role models are often the ones displaying the worst behavior & morals. Fewer children & families attend any kind of religious services & most public schools are so overburdened with already difficult curricula & are actually forbidden to teach morals of any kind! All cheating is an extreme form of selfishness - a way to get what you want when you want & how you want it without regard for the effect on others (frequent & harsh) or the possible consequences (rare) to oneself. Our society teaches that you need to get what you want instantly, before someone else gets what you want.

What is the solution to all this? It begins one person at a time making the right decision when it would be so much easier or so much more fun to do the wrong thing - one more - then one more..... but maybe I'm just dreaming again!