Do you think that men should pay the bill?

Question

I'm living with my man for a few months and i hate that i have to pay the bill for everything. i feel like hes my kid that every where we go i end up paying because i make more money. so what am i to him ?houseclean, cook, mommy and .......

Answer 1

Well, it's true.. he should have the decency to pay every once in awhile.  But it's not written in stone that men should pay the bill, so it's not that they SHOULD or HAVE TO, however.. that would give great impressions and make them seem gentleman-like and definitely would help you in your situation.  Perhaps you should just sit him down and talk with him about it, maybe set something up where one day you pay, the other he does.  Or have it easier for him (I think) and say you'll pay but when low on money, he has to.  It's true, he has to take his place as the man and do his share.

Answer 2

You know how "femininst" we are, but still! a guy's responsibility is always going to be the house, i mean, that's what a man is for, women help, but it is THEIR JOB. Yes, you could split 50 50, but still. Or else he is your b...

I'm also gonna tell you what my dad told me, go to school get a career, marry/leave with a man.  Because if you like the man and he is a lazy ***, then work for him, if not, boot him out and get a new one.

Answer 3

yes men should pay the bill

or else he isnt a real man

Answer 4

Talk to him about it :P He may be freeloading, or he may be trying not to offend you by acting like you're incapable of paying.

Answer 5

To the voicer above me:  Why is it that women "help" to pay for the house but it is the man's job.  If this is true why do the women work then?  I'm sure they're not just working because they need to dabble on the side or to play while the man is "doing the real job"?  No, this isn't true, so stop saying this, because if a man said it, everyone would say it sounds disgusting and sexist.

As for paying the bill, it should be 50 / 50 everyone works so everyone has to pay their way.  There are no freeloaders.  Women wanted independence and they got it.  They can't take the parts out that they like and wipe out the parts they hate.  Do you think a man likes going out, oh let's say three times a week meanwhile he is slowly going bankrupt (i.e. gas prices--because the man is supposed to have his own ride right?, the restaurant bill, movie bill, etc.).  Why is it that if a woman and a man both grow up in the same community and both struggle to get jobs why should he still be the only one that pays the bill?  Equal rights, breeds equal opportunities.  Feel free to criticize, disagree and agree with me.  (I'm not mad at women, so don't destroy me for that, I'm mad at those who want equal rights except when they can pretend to be weaker than men or so that men can pay their way.  And yes, I talk about the men too.  Both groups need to grow up and stop this insane power struggle.  We're all human beings and as humans we have the right to be respected.  The next time you jump up to fight for a cat or dog think about the person of the opposite gender that you are hating on and catch yourself.)  

Answer 6

for going out i think the man should pay unless its his b-day or something.  for everything like bills rent food it should be 50/50 you both eat etc... i would talk to him about it and that this situation needs to change. that you not his mommy,cook,house cleaner,bank. good luck

Answer 7

I think he should help, or pitch in, pay once in awhile, otherwise, it's like he's using you for services.. O_o

Answer 8

So talk to him about it. Many women have no issue with men paying the bill all the time, and the guy often earns more money than the gal.

If you think the situation is unbalanced tell him. If he cannot afford to pay for the two of you often, then find other things to do that he can plan and 'host' to help balance that he doesn't pay when you go out.

If you don't want to houseclean, cook, and be "mommy" then why are you? Either require that he assist in the upkeep of the home, or stop sharing a home.

Nobody can take advantage of you, unless you allow it.

Answer 9

It's not fair for you to pay ALL the bill but you can still pitch in and stuff but IF and only IF he keeps this up. DUMP HIM

Answer 10

If you are living together, you should split the bills at least.  If you are paying for everything, get out or kick him out.

Answer 11

He sounds like a bum, dump him, you can do better.