Do you think that positive discipline is better then hitting?

Question

Which method do you think is better positive discipline treating them with respect and taking time to talk to them and explain things or just hitting them

Answer 1

Who?  If you are talking about politicians I think just hitting them is most effective.

Wouldn't dream of treating a child like that though.

Answer 2

positive disipline

Answer 3

half and half talking and getting sent to there rooms first then if that doesn't work a slap on the butt.Whatever they do wrong should get taken away from them.When i was 12 i slammed the door in my dads face and he said, oh yeah you want to play like that? fine! he took down my door and put it in the garage and didn't give it back for a monthS! do things like that it works i never in my life slammed a door again

Answer 4

positive discipline for sure and while most people think positive discipline equals no discipline they couldn't be more wrong. I ue positive discipline and I'm a strict parent. Positive discipline just measn you focus more on the positive, praising when they make good choices, focusing on teaching right from wrong and using creative techniques to deal with certain issues. When parents focus on the psoitive and use praise often, their children make good choices because they want to, not because they better or else.

Of course even with positive discipline punishment is sometimes necessesary but I believe when parents use positive discipline, punishment is needed much less. Positive discipine develops in a child the desire to do the right thing, they learn self discipline.

I know it works because I have 4 boys age 13 yr old twins (almost 14), 11 yr old and 8 yr old who are all well behaved boys. They are not controlled with punishments or threats of them, they are controlled by their own conscience which was developed from using positive discipline.

Answer 5

yes hitting doesnt do any good. They dont learn from getting hit, it just makes them get introduced to an aggressive nature, if you hit them they might hit their children! But not all are like that. Being positive and supportive and giving them unconditional love is better, but tough love. Meaning you get them to listen to you. respect you. Ill tell you a personal example. my dad tried to make me into a more respected young women, but when i ddi just one think wrong he hit me. He hit me so much that I ended up moving out and i was almsot homeless. Then my godmum took me in and he gave me severe tough love but loved me unconditionally at the same time, meaning talking to me everyday for 2 hours regarding how may day was. And giving advice about rspect, almost like brainwashing in apositive way but what my dad tried to do in 6 months she did in 3. So positive discipline is the go! And chat with your kids everyday just so they have someto talk to even if you dont feel like listening, they repsect you so much more.

Answer 6

Positive discipline.I have two children(10&3 ) I have never spanked them.I respect them that's why  they respect me.

Answer 7

positive discipline

Answer 8

The youngsters of today get away with murder. The parents can talk till their blue in the face, you may think they listen but I believe they are laughing up their sleeve. There is no discipline at home, in school, in the courts, even in prison. How many times have you seen young children misbehaving in a restaurant, and the parents either ignoring them or even smiling. Makes my blood boil. We are rearing spoilt brats, used with getting everything they want, or just taking it. All the talks and tv adverts warning of smoking, alcohol and drugs does not one jot of good. They will do as they wish, and they do,and don`t think little johnny, who has been treated with respect when he has just hit his baby sister with one of his car`s is going to take a blind bit of notice. My first sentence, by the way I meant literally. Spare the rod and you will surely spoil the child.

Answer 9

don't see anything wrong with a good smack around the head, my mother used to lift me off the ground by my hair and shake me like she was trying to break my neck, probably deserved it.

Answer 10

Absolutely positive discipline! Hitting only teaches that is ok to hit!

Answer 11

Only an idiot would answer "just hit them".  Why do you bother asking questions like this?  Everyone is now putting on their "good parent" mask and saying "positive discipline is definately better" blah blah blah.  Those are the same parents who are going to go spank their kids for touching a cookie in thirty minutes.

Answer 12

It depends on the crime. I would always choose positive discipline first but if it just isn't working or they have done something horrendous then a light slap my be the only thing which get through to them.  

Answer 13

i think positive inforcements are better in the long run... but all children are different.  in my opinion  hitting your children teaches them aggression.  think about all of those kids that hit their parents back or hit other kids more so than normal because they cant relate how they feel with words because their parents havent taught them that!  but its really up to how you were raised.  personally i was smacked for everything and as an adult had to learn what made me upset and how to use words to relate that. making children think about what they re doing will make them more logical.

Answer 14

How is any discipline 'positive'? Do you mean positive reinforcement? Most parents in society slap or swat their kids on occasion, even if they don't consider themselves 'spankers'. Especially when the kids are under 2 and don't understand reward charts or time outs

Answer 15

Absolutely I do.

I use positive discipline by continually praising his good behaviours. On the whole I ignore the bad - Tantrums, assetiveness etc is ignored until he stops, he stops in 30 secs tops for each one.

If he is about to have a tantrum I distract him with something else - a book, a game etc.

If he does need to be told off for doing something then I say "no" firmly, get down on his level and explain. "Mummy doesn't like you touching the dvd stand in case it falls on you, and you might get hurt."

Kids will respect parents if they are respected themselves.

My boys are still only babies, but my eldest is heading towards the "terrible twos" and I have hardly any unnacceptable behaviour, and if I do get some, it is over in seconds.

Answer 16

Yes i do... but, i talk to my kids first and let them know that if they carry on they'll be in trouble, then they get sent to their rooms or on the stairs, then i shout and very rarely have to smack. I dont like to but sometimes i do smack their hand as a last resort.

Answer 17

Should positive discipline be used? YES

Is positive discipline better then spanking? NO, it's like comparing apples to oranges, your talking two different subjects.

Discipline is teaching, you have that part right. Spanking is a consequence/punishment (and a darn good one if you ask me). If you want to compare spanking with other methods, you'd have to they'd be compared with time-out, grounding, taking toys away...  those are comparable because they are other consequences.  

For the MOST EFFECTIVE parenting your need BOTH DISCIPLINE, AND CONSEQUENCES. For example, I spend quite a bit of time teaching (disciplining) my daughters before I follow through with a spanking (consequence) so they know full well what not to do again. That is the main idea right?

To conclude discipline AND consequences WORK together. You don't choose one or the other.

Answer 18

I think the stick and carrot approach is the best. Bad behavior will be punished, good behavior will be rewarded. That works best in my opinion.