Do you think that there is more to a marriage or relationship then s*x.?

Question

l have been married for 4 years now in the beginning the s*x was great but now l am lucky if l get it 1 a week. does anybody else that's married have this problem or is it just my marriage. what is a good way to rekindle my relationship to make it like it was in the beginning .

Answer 1

Relationships have their ups and downs, it is not abnormal for sexual activity to increase and decrease from time to time.if he is working alot of hours and has alot on his plate this may have something to do with it.doesn't make you like it any better though, try spicing things up a bit get a s**y nighty or some pretty lingerie, candles you know this sort of thing.and try talking to him about it but not in a way that will make him feel inadequate tell him you love the s*x you do have you just wish there was more of it.maybe you could initiate it sometimes as well good luck to you

Answer 2

marriage is a full time job and the fact that i have been married to my second husband for over 17 years we know it's not all about the s*x it's about the little things that you both can do for each.don't make it about s*x, make it about romance.

Answer 3

It's a physiological change. Your body no longer responds with the same chemical reaction that you did when you initially met. It's perfectly normal and every marriage goes through this. But as humans we need to maintain an intimate relationship with our spouse or it will eventually fade away to nothing. You can't go back to the way it was in the beginning but you can make it good now. Enjoy each other, do new exciting things together, try new things in bed, lingerie, p**n, how to books, ...date and have fun. Flirt with each other during the day, send s**y emails, leave messages where he can find them. Don't be too hard on yourself. If you love each other you'll find a way to make it work.  

Answer 4

you marriage is typical of many

this is not to say that it is good that you only have s*x once a week

it's not

and it a symptom of a lack of intimacy in both the physical and the emotional level

how young were you when you got married?

those who marry to young often go through the very same thing

only for one of the two to cheat and eventually divorce

as at a very young age when you get married you cannot see far down the life road, and so you do not plan accordingly

you simply live for the moment

and for most if not all, that means s*x....

but eventually you tire of you partner

since you realize you can get s*x anywhere and from anyone

pretty soon the thinking is why did i even marry?

what was the benefit...

and so it goes with one starts to look for other options ( cheating )

all the while keeping up the marriage front by having s*x once in a while to keep the other off balance

then one day you come home  to a dear jane/ john letter and him / her gone

as timing is everything when someone cheats then leaves

they will st aside money, set aside time and find a new place

and when those 3 factorsare in place, they leave

Answer 5

i think making your partner feel loved is important i think small acts of kindness are the way to go eg cooking his favourite meal,organizing a suprise date etc

Answer 6

There certainly is more to a marriage than s*x! The husband must take out the garbage and fix the truck, and the wife must cook and clean.

Answer 7

It's easy to re-kindle the heat of the romance Lilly! Our s*x life was starting to slow down, then one time when we went out to the clubs to dance, I was asked to dance by another man when my husband was absent to the restroom. He got back shortly after I had started the dance. It was a slow one, and he watched me being pulled against this very tall, dark man. It made my husband so hot, that after that dance, he took me home, and we made love half the night. Now we do that on a somewhat regular basis. Although now, I'll usually make him sit and watch me dance for several hours before we go home. It also works for me. I get quite excited when I can feel the other man when he holds me close.

Answer 8

to make it was like it was in the beginning,you answer your own question,what you did to get your love one thin,it does take those same things to keep them.

Answer 9

That's the same as asking if gas important to a car. It's important, without it you can't enjoy a powerful engine, air conditioning, stereo, rims, or anything else....

Answer 10

sometimes it just gets harder through the years your both working hard to get the things you want and forget each other just remind him of the time you used to have together and see what he says  

Answer 11

That's good if you have a husband who knows s*x isn't everything and is more focused on caring for your emotions. . And it will never be like in the beginning. In the beginning it's so great because it's new and you're discovering eachother's bodies. Now you know what eachother like and you've developed a patern. Whether you have s*x in the park or in your mom's bed, it's never going to be as great because he's always going to try to get into a postion he KNOWS will pleasure you, because their is no more discovering. Or it could mean he's cheating on you.My ex had a mistress for 3 years until he got caught.

Answer 12

Marriage is the blending of two lives, sharing all the good and yes the bad. s*x is a part of this sharing, sharing things that feel good, sound goo and smell good. My wife and I were marries 20 years when she died and we were having s*x at least 2 times a day. Romance, love and sharing feelings..

Rekindling should involve a desire to do so by both of you. If it's one sided, it just won't work.

if he's lost interest by now, he just might be getting it on the side.

Answer 13

Yes, there is more to a relationship/marriage than s*x.  In fact it is the break down in the other things that often leads to less s*x.  When other parts of the marriage aren't working then s*x becomes the fall back and because it is forced then it gradually suffers as well.  The key to a good marriage is communication and all the little things that go into making a relationship work and making each other feel special and wanted on a daily basis.  So much of making things work is about being happy with your life together.  The little things like saying you love each other, how great you think the other looks, being supportive of each other, and little things like flirting, holding hands, and kissing.  

Answer 14

Everyone's s*x drive is different and it sounds like your husband's is about once a week.  However, if you can find out what his fantasies are and if you are into those fantasies, you may just find that your s*x life improves rapidly.

PS - EVERYONE, has a fantasy, some people will lie and say they don't, but the fact is, everyone has some kind of fantasy about s*x they wish was fulfilled.  You may find that your husband has a particular s*x fantasy that will really turn him into a s*x fanatic, if you are open to it.

Answer 15

take the initiative

Answer 16

Romance is the #1 thing in a relationship, and everything else will get better when that's kindled.