Do you think that you have the right to look through your spouses cell phone ?

Question

do you let the other go through your phone, emails, texts, etc.

if not why.

Answer 1

Nope, not now, not ever.  We both respect and trust each other... he does not go near my purse/cellphone... nothing.  I in turn, do not go through his wallet/cell phone.  I have no need too.

Answer 2

Well, my husband and I share an e-mail address.  There's really no reason for us to need separate ones.

As far as cell phones, we look in each other's occasionally -- it's not like we're doing it to check up on one another or snoop, it just happens.  We trust one another, and if you have nothing to hide it really shouldn't be a big deal.

My husband and I do not believe in "privacy" in a marriage -- you're married for Pete's Sake -- I'll take a chapter from Val. "The only privacy you should have when married is bathroom privacy." :)

Answer 3

My other half can go through anything of mine he wants - trust is essential and I really dont care if he looks through my phone or emails because I have nothing to hide!  So yes technically it would be ok for you to look through the phone but I guess you would only want to if you thought there was something interesting to find!  

Answer 4

I am a man and I say it should be fine because as a couple you are suppose to share everything and should be nothing to hide.

Answer 5

I think they have the right, but I don't see why there would be a need.

My husband and I both have our own cellphones and emails, and I don't feel a need or desire to look through his cellphone or email.

If I felt a need to do this, it would indicate a lack of trust, which means there is something fundamentally wrong in the relationship.

Answer 6

My wife carries my cell sometimes and I hers. No big deal if you have nothing to hide. Not a question of trust, just a question of having a completely clear conscience.

Answer 7

I think u have every right to do so as long as it mutual and your spouse can look through your cell, e-mail & etc. Ask yourself why would u look in the first place? Trust should always be the foundation of a marraige

Answer 8

Yes and Yes.

Answer 9

My partner can go through anything that I have and if he needs the password to something all he has to do is ask... I have nothing to hide!!! and I have nothing that might imply something that would be disrespectful to him or our relationship...

If I feel my partner is doing something he isn't suppose to you bet I will check up on him and if he takes that as defensive or snooping then he had something to hide to start with...

Answer 10

No, you should trust your spouse and it should be mutual

Answer 11

I have no desire to look through my wife's cell phone history, why would I care.  If you have trust in the marriage you do not have any needs to check on your spouse.

Answer 12

Of course. Everything we have/do is open to the other - phone, passwords, email, etc.

Answer 13

Never. It's only an issue if there is lack of trust, and lack of trust in your relationship could be a killer.

Edited to add: we borrow each others phones at times, because one breaks down and the other needs it, but I never bother to look through it and don't feel the need.  Don't know if he does, but why bother - nothing there.

Answer 14

I don't know how he feels about the subject. I don't think I have the right to do that because it's his, and married or not, I believe everyone has the right to some personal privacy. I have no interest in looking through his stuff, and he has no interest in looking in mine. It has never really come up. It's caled trust.

Answer 15

an easier, less sneaky way is to review the monthly statement

Answer 16

No, definitely not....... It's a violation of his privacy plus it would make him think I didn't trust him, not exactly beneficial for the relationship.  

Answer 17

It is just fine for him to look in my cell phone.  I look in his.  I do it in front of him.  There are no reasons to hide anything from your spouse.  If this bothers you, then apparently you have something to hide.

Answer 18

yes i do and the way i see it they shouldn't care either unless they had something to hide

Answer 19

If you have nothing to hide I don't see the problem. My husband and I both know each other's passwords to everything.

Answer 20

Absolutely not... invasion of privacy. Indicates lack of trust. And it will destroy the relationship over the long run. It's a trust issue. Better to be hurt than be the "hurter".  

Answer 21

Since I don't have anything to hide, I wouldn't mind her going through my phone. However, I don't think you should do it because it shows a lack of trust of your partner. How would you feel if your bf went through your purse or Email? If you can't trust each other, then the relationship is doomed.