Do you think that young couples should get married?

Question

Me and my girlfriend want to get married. We have been going out for 2 years. I trust her with my life and she trusts me. But everybody says that we should wait. But, what if are we waiting for if we are in love with each other and trust each other. I make enough money to support the both of us while she goes to college in may. We have lived with each other at her parents house but i moved out cause me and her mom didn't get along. We want to move in together without her parents but she is underage. So if we get married then she will be emanicipated. if we wait till she turns eighteen it will be in a year . I just want to get some opinions from anybody.

Answer 1

It depends on the maturity of the couple and what their expectations are.

I agree in general with the notion of getting married young. But far too many people remain in mental-diapers well into their 30s these days.

If you and she feel you are ready to face the unknown that is life, financial stress, burden, hard work, saving money, having kids, maybe some arguments? Then you should marry.

If you feel it will be a walk in the garden or that everything will take care of itself? Then maybe not.

You decide.

Answer 2

So what do you do for a living? Do you have a college degree? As hard as times are right now, it takes two hardworking spouses to sustain a comfortable lifestyle that is receptive to children. If you do not have a college degree or is at least making $50k or more a year, perhaps you should go to college in May with her, continue to date and after graduation marry. There is truly no hurry to sign a marriage license just to say you are married.

You could be married in your hearts and grow together while preparing for your future.

If you love her you will wait until she graduates from college and the both of you are capable of sustaining your love with the proper finances and education. Marriage is difficult and takes more than love. Love is the easy part.

Read some of the questions on this site. See couples who have been married for a year or fifteen of them and learn of the difficulties that creep in when marriage is taken too lightly.

Trust that those asking you to wait do have your best interest at heart and want to see you succeed. If after the two of you graduate from college and the desire to marry is still as strong. Then let nothing stop you!

There is always time. Your life is what you make of it and without marriage you can still share love and marry in your hearts.

Answer 3

If you really love her wait another year.

Answer 4

She is much too young and I'm sure you are too.  If you are in love with each other that love will last.  Her parents should never have let you live with her anyway.  They aren't very good parents to do something like that.

Answer 5

I would wait. If you're truly in love one year will not make the difference. Plus when she goes to college that is when you both will find out if you are meant for each other. You know people change. I've know people to divorce after 25 yrs of marriage because they wake up one morning and say, I don't love this person anymore. Best Wishes....

Answer 6

No dude don't do it. Let her grow up at college and if it is still meant to be then it will happen.

Answer 7

Just wait till she is 18.

I don't think there is anything preventing young couples from getting married.  You just should know that it is a decision that can be made only once in a lifetime and make sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with this girl.  You also should know that, even though you don't get along very well, that mother is going to be your mother-in-law so try to get along.

Answer 8

I would wait, not only till she is 18, but till she graduates from college. People change in college, they find out who they really are. Continue to date, If you are both truly in love, then your love will last and you can marry after college.

Answer 9

i think you should wait the year until she turns eighteen. if you truly love each other, one year isn't going to ruin things. if anything, it will give you more time to see if it is what you really want to do. good luck.

Answer 10

NO!!!!

It may work out but, I will tell you a sob story, and thank god I did not marry young.  I met my first love in college.  She always stuck around through thick and thin.  We had a baby together, well sort of, finding out the results of the paternity test just recently, guess what Maury, I am not the father.  I am so heartbroken, be careful who you trust and whether you can believe them or not.  She even asked me to marry her last November, but something in my heart said no.  So if your heart says yes then go for it.  I am just really jaded, that is me.  They say better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.  I don't know how true that is, because now I feel worse than I have felt in my entire life, I don't know if I can trust anyone other than my family again.

Good Luck, I hope you have found lasting love.

Answer 11

I don't have a problem with young couples getting married, my wife was 21 and I was 20 when we got married, but I defiantly think you should wait a while before you get married, for 1 so you can get to know each other better, and also have more time to develop your relationship with each other.  Don't rush into it.  Marriage is not something you should just jump into.

Answer 12

The reasons you should wait are quite a few. First of all, when you´re younger you can get to do so many things with freedom, like studying, changing jobs without much worry. You can travel and enjoy freedom in a very different way than when married. It doesn´t mean that once you´re married you won´t be able to do anything, but there are limits.

It´s always best if you both can experience more about life to mature enough, so once you you get married you´re fully prepared emotionally for the road ahead, which is for life! I know right now your love is pure and healthy and that´s why you feel the need, but believe me that marriage takes a lot of work, and right now that you´re both so young, you can still enjoy the ups and downs of a relationship. How about you enjoy more your relationship the way it is, because even moving in together is too soon, especially for your gf´s age.

You´ve ever heard this happening to guys, that when they get married they get bored of their wife sometimes and miss flirting and dating other girls...it happens! And it doesn´t only happen to guys, it happens to women also.  Mature couples realize that these feelings are normal and brush it off, and others let the feeling rule and get carried away.

I´m not saying this will happen to you, but if you don´t experience more, it will!

Don´t even get me started once kids arrive, although I hope you´re not thinking about that right now. Having kids right now would defintely put a stop to all your short term goals.

A relationship can be enjoyed through many ways besides living with the person or getting married. You can travel, you can do so many fun stuff without having that attachment just yet. Give it more time. If she´s the one, no one will take her away from you and vice versa.

Answer 13

I think that it will work out.  I married my high school sweetheart at age 21.  We are still going strong.  I would wait the year until she is legal, than go for it.  In the mean time you dont have to be married to live together.