Do you think the father should have a choice?

Question

I was just reading a question about pro-choice. and it got me thinking, who believes in the fathers right. i mean what if the mother doesn't want the baby but the father does so she aborts even though he was willing to raise it on his own? the mother can keep the baby even if the father doesn't want it. i mean after all it is part of the man too. the women didn't get her self pregnant. just a random question but i just want to see every-ones opinion

Answer 1

Well that would be ideal, however, that goes against the entire "women's choice" plan. Not to mention, at that point, we would also be telling women what to do with their own bodies. So, no.

While in a perfect situation the woman would consider the man's choice- she should not be forced by law. Then you opening up a whole new can of worms. Can we also tell the woman who did not want the child - not to drink during pregnancy? not to smoke? What about if she is in on medication? Where do we draw the line?

Answer 2

i think ur rite but a point that could and is made is the mother has to put up with all the kicking and poking and pushing and unwanted advice and weight gain. when all the father does is all little poke poke and he's done until that kid pops out. so the father can voice his opinion.

Answer 3

The father has a right to say how he feels but a choice in the matter?  No.  It's not his body.

Answer 4

I agree with both sides.

However, a woman has to right to decide that she does not want to carry a baby and then give it away and know it is out there somewhere.

A man also has a right to choose to raise his child alone as opposed to aborting it.

Unfortunately there is no fair way to judge these things though because both sides are in essence within their rights.

It sucks but it's life.

Answer 5

that is a tough question but in the end... it is the woman's body. The man can't make a women go through pregnancy if she doesn't want too. I know for myself personally that pregnancy is terrible... I have to go on medication for the moods and I get rage attacks and I get VERY low iron. I sleep 13 hours a day minumin and I am unable to work due to dizzy spells and weakness. I also get irrational and over emotional.

Many women get diabetes, have high risk pregnancies (I had one where my blood went bad from being toxic and my liver shut down and I almost had a stroke).

What I am saying is that not all women have happy pregnancies and both parents tecnically have a say... but the women can't be made to go through a bad pregnancy for the man's rights. I just can't see that ever happening. That is not equal for the mother to have to endure a horrible pregnancy for his rights.. that is not equal for her.

When it comes to pregnancy... all nine months... there is no such thing as equality. Like it or not... it is all on the women. That is the way of nature

Answer 6

He had a choice in using condoms but didn't so if the woman wants an abortion then that is her decision after all it is HER BODY NOT HIS

Answer 7

I think the father should definately have a choice, if he is willing to raise the child himself. If that is the case, then the father should have the right to stop her from having an abortion, but sign documentation that he is going to have sole custody of that child. By the time the father gets to that stage, then it will be pretty obvious that he is genuine about the future of that child.

As for someone saying that it's the mother that has the choice, because she is the one who has to put up with the poking, proding and stretch marks ~ is it worth the life of a child for that sort of selfishness and vanity????

There is no 'black and white' with abortion ~ much as i'd like to say I am pro-life, some situations call for abortion (i.e.-birth defects).

It is about time the fathers of this world had more say!!!

Answer 8

I just asked this question the other day. I do believe that fathers should have rights because it is half his child. Men cannot choose to carry a baby, but without them there would be no baby, so the woman could act as a surrogate mother and I don't think she should be the only person responsible for the decision of keeping the child.  

Answer 9

I think fathers should have rights as well. Like it or not, it's their child too, so they should have a say in the decision that will either take a life or give it. I think that it should be decided this way: both parties must agree, so if the mother wants to abort and the father doesn't they shouldn't be allowed, and vice versa. If he is willing to raise the child on his own, then he should be allowed to do so. Yes, I know it's her body that is incubating a child for nine months, but she wasn't just lying there and taking it.

ஐ♥Julian... must have skipped s*x ed. Neglecting condom use is not the only way people can get pregnant. They aren't fool proof. there have been people who've gotten pregnant while using the pill AND condoms.

Where does the child's choice come in? That's always been my question.

Answer 10

Well, while I see your point, it IS the womans body that has to go through all the pain, weight gain, kicking, uncomfortable nights, sleepless nights etc. which is a good argument for the woman in question. However, I am VERY pro-life so maybe if the father in question did have a choice in the matter there would be less abortions? It's really one of those subjects where everyone will have a different opinion.

Answer 11

i think a man should have a choice if hes a good man if hes abusive theres no way id give him a child but in most cases i think if hes willing and able why not we wouldnt have our kids if it wasnt for the men its a bit like custody why would you want to do it on your own it theres a just as good dad around

Answer 12

I think the right sits with the person who wants to keep the baby. I'm pro choice, but I definitely think both people have to agree. If the mother wants to keep it but the father doesn't, then the mother should keep it regardless. Same goes with the opposite scenario, if the father wants to keep it but the mother doesn't, then she shouldn't be allowed to abort it as there is somebody who is willing to raise the child.

I'm not sure what would actually happen in this situation, but that's what I think *should* happen :)

Answer 13

He doesn't have to go through the labor on one hand and I would think a girl would consult the father before going through with an abortion. But, a guy has every right to be a father just as the mother does. So yes, give them the choice.  

Answer 14

Absolutely Not! It is HER body that the baby is to be carried in.

These are my thoughts on abortion:

In my opinion, I think that a human life is created at the moment of conception. I will not argue that point. I am however, pro-choice. ( I AM ALSO VERY MUCH ANTI-ADOPTION, but that is another discussion for another time). The way I look at it is lets say that a person with a rare blood disorder also has a very rare blood type, and they need to be hooked up to someone for 9 months. After 9 months they will be cured forever. The only person with a compatible blood type in the world is you. So in the middle of the night the sick persons family comes and kidnaps you. I don't think that it is your responsibility to save this person by giving your body to them. I think it is WONDERFUL if you do, but you should not be made to, or looked down upon if you choose not to.