Do you think the new guy will help me getting over the married man?

Question

I was friends with a married man. At first I just saw him as someone to just chat with and ask for advice. He is44 and I am 23.I saw him as father figure since my own father doesn't even bother with me. I got attached to him and I felt like he was my own father. We have been friends for over 2 years. We became closer and I started to fall for him. So one day when were talking, I ended up going down on him and he also sucked b***s. He hasn't called me ever since that day and I have been a mess. It’s been 2 weeks and I am still crying over him. It’s really difficult because I was so close to him. He meant more than just someone to chat with.

I am even seeing another single guy but I don’t feel the same way about him as I did to the married man. I am hoping that I might develop some feelings for him so that way I will forget about the married man. This guy is 24 years.I am still in denial and i find myself holding on to my cell phone just in case he calls me.I hope he call me because i want him to tell the reason why he is distancing himself from me.That way it might give me closure .

Do you think he will help me getting over him?

Answer 1

It is hard to get over it but it is possible if you will really try to do that.

First of all don't forget about yourself. I bet you are very cute gal who looks for a happiness. Married guy is not your shot! You still can find someone older than you( if you feel more comfi with older guys) BUT let it be a SINGLE man. You need to build your own futur with a single person.

Gals who looks for a man much older just looking for a "daddy".And this is great. Older man can give you love,support,stability and comfort.

But please don't waist your time with married men. You can lose your titime and youth!

Answer 2

Well, the guy you're seeing may help you get over the married guy, if you end up caring more for him.

But whether or not things work out with the single guy - stay away from the married one, no matter what.  I know it will be hard if he calls and wants to see you again but stay strong and do not have anything more to do with him. He is bad news.  He is a liar and a cheat.

Maybe he felt guilty and that's why is distancing himself.  Maybe he realized he does not want to jeopardize his marriage (even though he already did).  You have no possible future with the married guy.  It may take a long time but your feelings will fade, and one day you'll fall for someone else who is truly available to love you.