Do you think there should be more done in preventing Sexual abuse in the home?

Question

I am talking about seeing the signs and education on how to handle it if you see sings in someone you love that makes you uncomfortable. I have been working on the prevention aspect of it and I don't see a lot of information out there on how to equip someone that may be seeing the dynamics of the abuser first hand. Since 80% of all sexual abuse happens in the home, why are we not spending more time with prevention. Programs like www.stopitnow.com are having a hard time getting the word out there and that seems so wrong. Does anyone out there feel the same way?

Answer 1

I agree with you 110%. Unfortunately, there is really nothing you can do until something happens first to warrant police involvement.

There was a lady here in Chicago last month who was killed by her ex-boyfriend. She had multiple court junctions for him to stay away from her (restraining orders), and he even went to jail twice for violating that order. However he showed up at her work one afternoon and shot her in the head in the parking lot, then shot himself.

This is a little different than sexual abuse, but it shows that the law does not work.

This is a hard area to debate. But I'd say both parties are at fault. The woman is a fault for marrying/dating someone who is 'questionable', and the man is at fault for his sick need to degrade women.

I think the best way to solve the problem is to educate and protect women. (Men won't want help anyway, they rarely do) I think laws could also use a bit of toughening. Longer sentences, GPS ankle collars and mandatory year-long counseling.

Answer 2

That is a sad situation, and I hate to think of all the children that have to go through that.

Someone said there's nothing you can do about it.  That may be true to a certain extent, BUT, I feel that if they made the laws more strict for child abusers/molesters, maybe, just maybe they would think twice before they do it.

If they know that getting convicted of child sexual abuse AUTOMATICALLY  means death penalty, that may be enough to scare alot of them out of doing it.  Right now, the sad truth is the consequences of getting caught doing that to children are not harsh enough to make them stop.  They are getting slaps on the wrist.

Answer 3

The problem is things like psycho analysis on all kids, mandated interviews by shrinks on kids, and stuff like that infringes on people's rights, rights to privacy, and rights for their children to be free from psych evaluations.

We can't stop all the evil it's just the way it is.  Think of it like this....  What keeps us from a man walking behind us from pulling out a gun and blowing our brains out?   There's just nothing that can be done about it.

In all the history of man kind, a small percent of people have been incredibly sick and demented.  It will remain that way.  I would never submit my kids to evaluations etc.  They don't deserve it they are happy kids with no abuse.  They should not be made to suffer nor me be paranoid that a shrink of some sorts could be a wack job themselves who likes to accuse everybody of abuse.

It's sad.  I wish people could be good.

Answer 4

You obviously are close to this issue and it’s important to you.

As for the majority of the people who don’t have this issue we are not that hyper sensitive to it. When I hear prevention I also hear government in my home.

I myself am not keen on Government in my home, they overstep their boundaries already and asking them to regulate what might happen in the home is asking them to monitor ever household in the nation. Im sure they would be willing to do that but no thanks.

This along with many other things are based in good intentions but the results are bad for all.

Answer 5

Glad that you are out there trying to help. It's a touchy subject and problem because you don't want to take away a society's privacy rights either. I do agree with you and think that there should be some well known program that could be notified of cases of possible abuse. However, we have seen in this country that social services hardly work at all. Maybe we need to try and fix what we already have set up to help.