Do you think they might adopt me?

Question

i'm 15 and my story is this: born in 1993. Abused by both parents starting when i was 3. Taken away from parents and put in foster care when i was 9. Shuffled around between 17 different families until Feb this year when placed with a family that i really liked (already a somewhat large family, but i get along with most of the kids). i transferred out early March, but then they fought to get me back. i go back in a couple weeks. they are going to have me in long term care. do u think they might adopt me too? they have other foster kids, along with their bio, and i think, like, 5/6 of their kids are adopted. (but don't worry, both parents are lawyers, they can afford it).

Answer 1

for your sake I hope they do.  Good luck

Answer 2

I hope for the best. It sounds like they're taking it into consideration by giving you long term care.

Prove to them you're a good kid and why they should adopt you, then you'll get adopted!

Answer 3

Dear Lucas,

I think it shows that your Foster parents really care about you if they fought to have you back in their home. This is a good sign. If you are afraid to ask them about adoption, you could ask your case worker. She might have some answers for you and she will probably tell you Foster parents that you were asking.

Best of luck to you. You sound like a well adjusted young man.

AND BTW, he is in Foster care, not on the flippen Moon... Even Foster Homes have computers!

Answer 4

um i hope they do cause thats a  sad life story but tell me this. if you are in an adoption place.... how do you have a computer?

Answer 5

Hopefully they will. It sounds like they enjoy having you as a kid or they would not have fought to keep you. I hope everything is where you can be adopted and they decide to do so. If you are worried about it you may just talk to them about what they plan to do. If they have adopted 5 kids then they are people you can trust and they want you to be able to talk to them I am sure. So maybe you should open up to them about how you feel.I hope it works out.

Answer 6

Hiya Lucas,

I guess - really - you need to ask them.

If they have adopted most of the long term foster kids - you may be in with a chance - but ultimately you're going to have to ask them.

Perhaps you can write them a note - if it's too hard to say out loud.

You know - just say - that you were wondering if they might adopt you - as you really liked their family - and you were hoping to stay.

Tell them that you are just so scared to be moved around again.

Hard to ask - I know - but just giving you some ideas.

I do hope you get to stay there for good.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 7

I would say to go ahead and ask. If you find it too difficult to do on your own, do it with a note, or through the social worker.

At least, when you go back to them, share with them how you feel about living with them and the family. There may be reasons that they feel they cannot adopt any more children, but if that is the case, please don't take it as rejection of you. If they fought to get you back, they do care about you.

Answer 8

It looks like it but even if they dont, im sure you will find a loving family be it this one or your own in years to come :)

Answer 9

I have been lead to believe they don't move foster kids around like that any more. Also, after 15 months of being in foster care and reunification not being worked on by parent then child becomes availible to adopt. Talk to your foster parents, tell them you want permanency and would like to be adopted by them. Also, adopting thru foster care costs just about nothing.

Answer 10

what you described seem like a nice and caring family, they've adopted be4 it is most likely it will happen again :P

Answer 11

Ask them. Tell them you want them to.

Answer 12

It sounds like your chances are good.  If this family has fought on your behalf, they may very well adopt you.  If not, it sounds like they are willing to at least provide a stable home for you until you are an adult.

I'm sorry you were shuffled around.  I can relate bc my bioligical parents divorced when I was three and did not parent well.  I was shuffled around too and had to deal with my father's manipulative, conniving wife.  About parents/adults, you really can't always expect a lot from them.  They are only human and are not without flaw.  In this world, you are lucky if you have a roof over your head, clothes, food and the bare minimum level of safety. (Of course thats not how it should be, thats how it is.)

About you: Try to cope as best you can with whatever life throws at you.  Nurture your spirit so that you can take care of yourself.  

I hope you are adopted and that you have a stable home in which to finish high school.  You will be an adult at 18 and you should begin preparing yourself for that now.