Do you think this behavior was crazy? DO you think what I said was ok??

Question

DO you think what I said caused a shock?

We have a manager here at my office that has the same postiion as I do but in a different dept. I really like her personally, but have witnessed this behavior at any given time...

She will just get up and leave during meetings, her shift or what not.. usually it attributed to an allergic reaction, asthma or her back going out on her. It's odd behavior.. and I honestly don't know if she has been spoken to or not. This morning she snapped at me when and told me I don't understand her situation at work and she is thinking of leaving.

Today.. we were in a 3 hour power meeting with our senior management and this lady got up and was in a huff. Our senior manager asked her if she was having an allergic reaction and she said.. "No, I have had enough of all of you" and left the room shutting the door behind her.

The room was uncomfortably quiet. I finally said "you know we all have stressfull work here, but that was really rude and unnacceptable!"

4 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.

Additional Details

4 hours ago

I also said that I am personally tired of her dramatic exits from our meetings.. and I know if I said that to you ( meaning my manager) you would of already of been in my office having a talk to me about my behavior!

I then took a deep breath and said" I didn't mean to say that out loud" and I then apologized to everyone, but I think that they heard my message loud and clear!

Answer 1

Sounds like she is a prima-donna (princess wanna be) and you called her on it. I don't blame you. I would be tired of her c**p too. You are right.

Answer 2

You were frustrated but maybe you went a little too far. You have to watch your tongue.

Answer 3

I think you should look at your own behaviour. Why did you feel the need to comment on someone else, on your own level and not working for you or directly with you? Do you not think that your senior manager could form his own opinion, or ask others for their opinion if he really wanted to know how the other person's behaviour is affecting the rest of management.

I think a really courageous and gracious person would go to the lady who stormed out and apologise to her for the comment made.

Answer 4

I believe it was acceptable behaviour on your side.. as she didn't give an explanation that was satisfactory.. if she had said.. ''I have an asthma attack coming on '' and you had made that remark then.. it would have been out of place.. Maybe this lady is on medication that makes her react this way.. try to talk to her again when you can catch her on her own.. maybe she really doesn't like the atmosphere at work.. maybe some other manager said something to her.. maybe she had an altogether bad day and something happened at home and she vented at work which is no excuse but we are all human.. and this could happen.. so I would find out why.. if someone at home is sick.. if she had a disagreement with another manager. if she had a disagreement with her partner.. I know that is unprofessional to act like this at work.. b ut maybe the general atmosphere at work there is not too good and if she has private problems on top of that it could cause a nervous breakdown.. so I would talk to her.. you are not happy at your job either as you wrote several times that things are not going that well and that you have an interview and you yourself want to leave this job.. so maybe it's just a lousy company... xx

Answer 5

You handled it perfectly! If you could hear me clap, I'd be doing it right now. This woman is an adult and she needs to start acting that way. How is she contributing to the wellbeing of your workplace by acting in this completely wacko manner? If she believes that such childish behavior is acceptable, then someone needs to step up and be the babysitter.

I honestly think she might have a touch of bipolar disorder, or she has an emotional problem where she feels she needs to create attention (good or bad!) for people to notice her.

Bravo. Don't question your actions any more- that was absolutely perfect.

Answer 6

you have no idea what might be going on with her.  she may have just been diagnosed with cancer, or maybe someone in her family died, or her husband is cheating on her.  if the job is already stressful, things like that can make it 10 times worse.

even if she's just a rude person with no good reason, you were out of line.  what you did was unprofessional, and it probably sounded like a petty rant to everyone else there.   weather you realize it or not, it also comes off as trying to tell the boss how to do his or her job.  

also, the boss probably already knows if there are extenuating circumstances, and if there are, you may have sounded like an unfeeling jerk, especially if most of the office knows what's going on and assumes that you know too.

mainly though, it's unprofessional to talk about someone in that way during a meeting.  if you have issues, discuss them with the appropriate person (your boss first, then move up if the problem isn't resolved) in private.  don't air your frustrations in an outburst.  that sort of thing is just as bad as her behavior.

Answer 7

Maybe shes bipolar or has schizophrenia?

Answer 8

i detect a little jealousy toward this woman. stop being a whinny baby

Answer 9

I think what you said is fine. In fact how many people were thankful for you breaking the silence?!? Although, I would have made a joke about the situation. (that is just my personality)

It should have been said a long time ago. If she has that many problems, she needs to go to the doctor instead of leaving in the middle of something. She isn't getting all the information that every one else is. And why is she so special? I mean, I have back problems (then again who doesn't. LOL) It's always going out!!! But not once have I lacked at my job!!! I know a lot of other people who have bad backs to do their share as well. There is only ONCE i left my job because of an allergic reaction....That was only because  the ambulance took me away. My boss fed me clams.

I think her behavior is off, and the boss needs to look at it. Maybe she needs a different position where she is able to leave when ever she wants. (or own her own business and hire lots of people to do the work for her)

All I can say, If the boss calls you into the office for what you said, She needs to be in there before you!!! Other wise, you know who the favorites are.....