Do you think this dr knows what he is doing or would this visit make you nervous too? Serious help please!?

Question

Sorry this is so long but I don't think my doctor knows what he is doing and I'm a little nervous about how my appointment went. Thanks to anyone who sticks around and reads this!

My period is 23 days late! I have never been that late before, my period is regular down to the hour. I have taken a few pregnancy tests and they came out negative. But I have been having some pregnancy symptoms. So on wednesday I went to the gynecologists office and got a urine test done there, it was negative. So I decided I wanted to figure out what was wrong and wanted to schedule a visit. They told me they could get me in the next day (yesterday) but it was with a new doctor. I don't have a regular gynecologist so I scheduled the appointment.

I went in for my appointment, the nurse took me into the room took my blood pressure and weight, all the usual and then asked my what my symptoms were so I told her: Sore nipples, headaches, heartburn, cramping in my lower abdomen and back (different from pms cramping) and more frequent urination.

The doctor came in a minute later and asked me when my last period was, I told him on july 23. He said (and I quote) "okay that's good that rules out pregnancy!" How does that rule out pregnancy? Anyway, then he told me I had a UTI. Other than having to use the bathroom more often (but not constantly) I have no symptoms of a UTI none, zero, zip, nada! He gave me a sulfur based medication that I *might* be allergic to!

THEN, he asked me if I was on b/c. I'm not because it messed with my hormones to much and people around me feared for their lives while I was on it. I told the dr. that I have been off it for a year and a half. He said that the fact I have been off b/c for so long and I'm not pregnant concerns him and I have a problem with fertility!!! Let me also note that my husband and I have NOT been trying for a baby (not that we would be sad if I got pregnant, we'd be happy) but, I even told the dr that we were NOT trying.

The doctor decided he wants to start me on clomid so that I can get pregnant within three months AND he wants my husband to do a seaman analaysis! I know this sounds stupid but my husband (who doesn't know yet becuase he is out of town) is going to be very upset when he finds out, he told me he never wanted to do that because if he ever found out he was sterile he wouldn't be a man anymore. I know it's stupid but that's how he feels.

So the dr didn't even talk about my peroid being gone--I still don't know why. He didn't order any urine or blood tests, he didn't do any sort of exam. All he did was pick out one of my symptoms and tell me I had a UTI and that I have fertility problems!!! What should I do! I don't know if I should start clomid, and I don't know how to tell my husband that he has to do a seaman analaysis! I'm a little bit nervous about this! What do you guys think?

Answer 1

I would strongly suggest that you get a second oppinion.  some doctors are clueless and sadly many times the once that don't know anything are the once that like to act like they know everything and they come to a quick conclution and give you a "diagnosis" in less than 10 minutes.  I have had many bad experiences with different doctors and I swear they all act the same but the good doctors are SO SO different in everyway.  Anyway if I were you I would find a different doctor and get a second oppinion. good luck !!  

Answer 2

I think your doctor rode the short bus to work! Find a new doc

Answer 3

He sounds like he got wrapped up in another issue other than what you went there for.  I'd go to another dr and get a second opinion.  Dr's seem like they want an easy fix and just say you have a problem, then get you out of the office.  

You do have a few symptoms of pregnancy, but not necessarily the early symptoms of it.  

Definately go get a 2nd opinion. Just because you havent gotten pregnant, does not mean you are infertile, you may have been trying on the wrong days.  As far as birth control, the pills made me the same way but I got onto a different one (Yazmin) which doesn't make me run around like a crazy woman.  

You could have a UTI (look on webmd for what the symptoms are), but get a 2nd opinion before taking any medications.  

Answer 4

My opinion: Get a second opinion. This guy sounds like he has some validity but not much... He could have found that you had a UTI by the urine sample he took to test for pregnancy. I think he should have done a quantitative blood test to be sure you weren't pregnant though... not a urine one... And while he was taking a blood samle he  should have had them test your hormones to make sure you don't have PCOS... or another imbalance.

By the way... Dr.s only make suggestions... You certainly don't need to have your husband's sperm checked especially if he is so against it. And same for you. You don't have to start chlomid just because he suggests it. I never heard you say anything about being ready for a baby and wanting one. Also.... I just missed a period last month. My dr. did a quantitative blood test to be sure I wasn't pregnant and checked my thyroid and hormones. Then she perscribed me progesterone to start my period again and she said if that didn't help regulate me then she would start me on chlomid... BUT I AM TRYING TO CONCEIVE.

Also ... I think you should deff. find a regular OBGYN... It's so important to have a Dr. that you trust and can work with and not constantly feel like they aren't listening to you or your body. Especially when you get pregnant. Talk to your friends and see if they know anyone... and deff. get a 2nd opinion.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

To start with, if your last period was on July 23, you are not late.  It is only August 15.  Second, I would cancel any and all visits with this quack and find a new gynecologist!  Sounds like he is either not listening to you or is trying to squeeze more money out of you, either way, find a new one and get a second opinion.

Answer 6

I know this is a short answer but it's kinda simple: See another Dr & get a second opinion. Also, if your not looking to get pregnant you don't have to do anything about the clomid.Good luck with everything!

Answer 7

WOW! Yeah I think I would find a different doctor if I were you, he sounds like a quack.

DO NOT TAKE CLOMID UNLESS YOU WANT TO BE PREGNANT! You think you feared for everyone's life being on birth control... god have mercy on their souls if you start clomid!

Apparently he does not listen because you said that you are NOT trying. Missing your period could be due to ALOT of things, not just infertility issues. PLUS that is reckless of him to just throw you on clomid because you are late! There is no way for him to know that you have a UTI with out taking urine either.

I say, absolutely do not take the clomid unless you both are ready and want to pregnant first off. Blow off the s***n analysis, he doesn't know wtf he is talking about. There is no need to test your husband for something that is not even a problem right at this second, right? Or test YOU for that matter. He didnt draw blood or even do a UA... that is a simple test and they can easily tell if there is a *potential* problem with YOU.

But the fact still stands you are not there to get help getting pregnant and if you were, I would not deal with a regular ob/gyn with fertility treatments anyways. If you and your hubby start trying and dont get pregnant when you are actively trying, ask for a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist and go from there. Find a different Ob/Gyn...

Answer 8

If your last period was July 23rd how on earth are you 23 days late??

I'd not take the meds he gave you and find a different Dr asap to see what's really going on.

Answer 9

I would DEFINITELY get a second opinion before taking any drugs or doing any s***n tests, he doesn't sound like he is listening to you at all.  I would go to another doctor, insist on a blood pregnancy test first, then I would discuss why else your period is doing that.  I had to insist with a doctor three times that I did have a UTI, because it did not show up on the immediate culture test, so I insisted she send it off for an extensive culture test where they grow it for a week to see if there is bacteria in it, and sure enough I was right, my doctor actually apologized to me for not listening to my symptoms.  Sometimes you have to tell your doctor what is going on with you and insist they do something about it, unfortunately that is just how the health care system works.  best of luck!  

Answer 10

if I were you i wouldn't do anything he told me to do until i got a second opinion!

Answer 11

Okay if you had a period on July 23rd then you are not due to have another one til August 23rd right? So you are not late....let me know if Im wrong but thats what I am getting from this.

Okay if you told him that you were not trying to have a baby then why does he want you to go on a medication that helps you get pregnant?

If you dont want to take it them dont, try to have one on your own when you are ready.

Then if something is wrong after trying then go back to get on it. Plus then you can talk to your husband about it before hand. If you have a UTI then they should have given you a prescription to get filled for that.

You kinda do have pregnancy symptoms: sore nipples, urinating frequently, cramping in lower abdomen. But if they all say nefative I dont know what it could be. Maybe try and take one if you dont start your period by next weekend, do it in the morning.

And if they did a urine test on you it takes up to 2 weeks to get the results back to see if its a UTI anyways, he shouldnt just go by what you say.

If this continues I would call and ask for a diff dr next time, maybe ask around the waiting room and see who they have and if they like them.

Im sorry Im not too much help but some things do sound weird.

Good Luck.

Answer 12

You need to go to another doctor this one sound a little messed in the head.  Get a second opinion. when my period was late my doctor did blood work to check my hormone levels and my thyroid.

Answer 13

That's weird that he didn't even address your main concern for the visit. I would call around and see if you can get in at another doctor's office for a second opinion. I wouldn't worry about fertility issues until they have figured out why your period suddenly stopped. It wouldn't be as strange if you had irregular periods. I would definitely tell your husband what happened with the doctor and then go get a second opinion. Never settle for what they tell you if it doesn't feel right.......doctors are smart but not correct 100% of the time!!

Answer 14

your period isnt late if you last had one on july 23rd,it isnt due till august 23rd at least,that is why he ruled out pregnancy

Answer 15

I took clomid for my 1st two pregnancies but I had a reproductive endocrinologist do numerous blood tests and ultrasounds of my ovaries to finally diagnose me with a fertility problem.  Clomid is a drug that can increase your lifetime risk of ovarian cancer, especially if not dosed right and if taken too many times.  Any doctor with a head on his shoulders would know that clomid should be used for those TRYING to get pregnant for more than 6 months, who have a hormonal problem documented through blood tests.  Clomid is specifically for women who do not ovulate on their own...not just something to try when you want to rush things along.  Additionally, I would never take the drug under the supervision of a regular OB/GYN.  A reproductive endocrinologist knows how to use the drug best.

For many reasons, I would go see a different doctor if I were you.  This guy sounds ridiculous and shouldn't have told you that you have a UTI without looking at your urine.  SOOO ridiculous on so many levels.  BTW, I have my PhD in public health and my husband's a doctor, so I have lots of exposure in this field.  If you feel uncomfortable with a visit, there's usually a good reason.

Answer 16

i would get another doc. but if your last period was july 23 its only august 15, how are you late?

Answer 17

ok, I'm no doctor but if i was you i would definitely go to another doctor. he sounds wacky! how can he tell you, you have UTI and a fertility problem without doing any tests? idk. yea id say go to another doctor. good luck!

Answer 18

I think you must have had some type of mis-communication with this doctor.  If you inadvertently said your last period was July 23 to him like you did here, than he is basing all of his diagnosis on that.  In addition, if he asked about birth control pills and you simply said you'd been off them for 1 1/2 years that likely led him to believe you weren't using any other method.  Did you say something like, "I used to take birth control pills but I didn't like them so now we use condoms."?  Also, headaches and pain in lower abdomen and back are actually symptoms of UTI.  Unless you have been trying to get pregnant and haven't then I suggest you don't take the clomid, it isn't necessary.  Your best course of action is to call and talk to this doctor.  Say you think there was some mis-communication at your appointment and you want him to know that yes, you haven't been taking bc pills for 1 1/2 years, but not because you've been trying to get pregnant, but because you didn't like them.  He may assumed that you weren't trying to get pregnant at the moment, but having come off the pills so long ago he may think you had been trying in the past.  If your period still hasn't arrived, you may want to call a different gynecologists office and go in for a second opinion.  It's hard to remember everything you want to say when you are in the office so write down some things you want to ask before you go to the appointment.  For now, don't take the clomid and don't give your husband a panic attack by mentioning a s***n analysis.  If he isn't the kind of guy that could hear the story of your visit and chuckle over the mis-communication then just tell him you went to the doctor but you didn't like him much so you are going to another one.

Answer 19

I think you should see another doctor. That sounds insane.