Do you think this is a bad age gap?

Question

im 14 and he is nineteen i really like him but i dunno if the age gap is to big . he is so nice to me and always gets me gifts and he is so kind to me and acts nicer to me than every one else...confused :(

help, advice.....

Answer 1

Its not great, just remember if you have s*x he will get in trouble by the law if anyone found out. Just watch yourself u gotta think what does a 19 year old guy want with a 14 year old girl.

You cnt choose who u love but if i were u id watch ure back and maybe talk about it to ure mum.

x

Answer 2

Just be careful. He's a guy, and we all know what's naturally programmed into the brain of every guy: M-A-T-E!!!!!!!!! But if he treats you that nicely he's worth a chance. I'd take self defense classes just in case though!! lol My parents are nine years apart and they get along better than any parent couple I've met, so it's possible. Go for it! And he prolly can't go to jail for being your boyfriend, but he can if you guys get, ya know, serious. So wait on that. lol!

Answer 3

well wen yooh guyz git older there isnt much ov an age difference. 4 ex. wen ur 20, he'll be 25. not that much huh? so its a good age difference. good luck!

Answer 4

realy hard to say. in my opinion it is bad but if you are not involved in any sexual activity then no... its just puppy love , shouldnt ge getting involved in relstionships yet anyway. be akid and havefun for anover 2 years :) good luck anyways

Answer 5

14 = child

19 = adult

adult+child=paedophile!!!

end it!!!

[edit - thumbs down??? are more people accepting of paedophilia???]

Answer 6

Yes there is a large age gap which is significant at the ages you are now.

If you were 19, him 24, then that wouldn't be so bad.

Answer 7

I think age gaps r ok between adults,

but u r 14 and he is 19 I know he is nice to u and all

but honestly I think...

THIS WILL NOT END WELL FOR U AT ALL

Do ur parents know about this?

even if they dont, I think u should kind of get rid of him and if u have to date at 14 maybe u sould try someone ur own age

Answer 8

No way is this age gap too big, I have friends who have 10 and 20 years age gaps.

Love does not count your ages, go for it girl and enjoy yourselves but just remember you are to young to legally be sexual

Hope this helps

Answer 9

5 yrs is not a big age gap, HOWEVER the fact you are 14 is not good. I am 23, I met my fella when I was 14 and he was 24!!!!!!!!!!! We were friends for a long while and just got on that well that we slipped into the roll of "boyfriend and girlfriend", now nearly 10 yrs on I have 2 children and I missed out on my teen years because I was too busy being wrapped up in him! We are very happy together and I love my family and my life but I do have regrets about missing out on things that teens do. I am  not in a position to say what you are doing is wrong, enjoy your time with him but form experience I would say, dont get too attached, get what you can out of him and move on. Besides that you need to be very aware that 19 yr old boys only have one thing on their mind and if you are not ready for that then there are plenty of 19 yr old girls who are. You should be prepared to stand your ground and not be pushed around by him. Good luck, be happy x*x :)

Answer 10

well,yes and no...

no because its only 5 years

yes beacause of your age a 14 old and a 19, he's an young adult and you are a young teen

but if he makes u happy do what you think is right

my aunt and uncle are 15 years apart but they met 33 and 48.

Answer 11

if he's your dream then go and get him you can do what ever you want don't let anybody tell you that you can't do something.

Answer 12

its not the fact that its a big age gap as in the number of years apart but its the age you both are now 14 is just a bit to young for a 19yr old! i know you probably wont belive me as its always different in your situation but please trust me! ask yourself why is a 19yr old guy not paying attention to people his own age? why doesnt he have a girlfriend if he's so nice? i know that it sounds awful and is probably what your expecting to hear but people say it so often because it so often is true! he is only after one thing... i know you probably really like him but at your age its easy to fall for someone, its nice to have attention paid to you! but you want to make sure its the right attention! think about it if you were nineteen, out of college possibly stating a new job or going on to start your life would you be thinking about someone who is in school, i really hope this doesnt offend you at all but im really trying to help you! im not saying this because your not old enough to have s*x, im saying this because its not fair to put you through becoming attached to someone and then finding out that they have only used you, because its a horrible thing to have to go through and its not fair for you to have to feel that! i know that your imagining the rest of your life together because i felt exactly the same when i was your age but your feelings change, his feelings will change even if his is genuine, he may want to move or settle down and at the moment it would be too complicated for you to get into, your suposed to be having fun, have a boyfriend at school your own age not getting into all that! i can assure you you will regret it! it may sound cool that your going out with a much older boyfriend but you could lose the respect of friends let alone how you could upset your family! please belive me! im not preaching im talking from experiance! tell him that your too busy for him right now, or that your mum doesnt want you to hang out anymore, that way he cant say anything against it! forget about him and just relax and have fun with your friends! you shouldnt have to have all this on your shoulders right now and if you get involved it will just be more! good luck!

Answer 13

Yeah that makes him a bit of a nonce  

Answer 14

5 yrs is not gap....but being 14 and having a bf of 19 is sth different....you are way young for things ....19 guy is almost into alot things that 14 girl doesnt know at all

Answer 15

Yes hes too old for you .Both you and he need to keep your interest to your own age groups so to avoid the confusion and trouble this may cause for you both.Good luck hun.

Answer 16

yes, you are in two different stages of development - why would a 19 year old want a 14 year old? bit creepy

Answer 17

The gap is rather wide.    (Looks like kiddy-snatching)

He will not get jailed for going out with you.

But could be prosecuted for s*x as you are way under age

Answer 18

To be honest there is a difference there..yes I think it's bad. x

Answer 19

Yes it is a bad age gap. Not only is it ILLEGAL (!!), but you will find yourselves either growing apart or fighting because you have nothing in common (different experiences, different timing of experiences, etc).

I think you should only date people within a few years of your age while you are a teenager.

If you decide not to listen to anyone here, this is what's gonna happen: the guy's just going to take advantage of you then break your heart.

By the way, the larger age gaps only work if you and your partner are already done with college. Then you both will have the work-world in common.

Answer 20

your not goin to like this because ALL girls like to think their mature and grown up. At the end of the day whether you like to admit it or not.... He is an ADULT and you are still a CHILD which makes the whole thing very wrong.