Do you think this is a warning sign he might hit me?

Question

sometimes when we fight my boyfriend likes to "scare" me by hitting the table really hard, yelling in my face, or throwing things at me when i'm not looking

he has a "look" that he knows intimidates me and when he looks at me that way i know it's time to shut up

do you think i am overreacting - that's what he says - or do you think he could actually hit me?

Answer 1

Yes he will hit you it is just a matter of time.  Be brave and leave him before it is to late.  You do not deserve this treatment, no one does.  Go to counseling yourself to help you move away and move on.  

Answer 2

no, not an overreaction.

doesn't sound like he's a lot of fun to be around.

leaving the relationship will offer relief to you.

Answer 3

He is getting some reward for treating you this way. If there is no payoff, he will stop. If he doesn't stop and it escalates, sounds like you are in a one way relationship, with you being on the wrong side of a one way street!

People treat people the way they can. If you accept this treatment he will keep on doing it. If you say to him, "Stop it. That is enough, I am not taking this SH*T."

If it doesn't stop..

Get out now while you can.

Answer 4

Sounds like you want to wait around ans see, that's the REAL issue....

Bananas

Answer 5

yes I do, he is acting in a violent way and he could actually hit you one day. I don't not think your over reacting at all.

Answer 6

YES! It sounds like the textbook example of pre-abusive behavior.

Run Hun Run!

Now if you insist on staying then I suggest that you insist he stops that behavior!

AND... tell a few people you know and trust about this behavior he is exhibiting! That way your parents and friends can be there to support you!

Please DO NOT play around with this!

Answer 7

cut his balls off while he sleeps.

Answer 8

I would have to say yes. If he is already physically intimidating you, hitting you might be a matter of time.

Answer 9

He'll be sure to start when your legally his own.  No one can help you if your dumb enough to hook your wagon to this guy.  He's headed for anger management @ 125$ a pop.

Answer 10

Girl, get the h**l OUTTA THERE FAST.

He's ALREADY being abusive by intimidating you in the first place!

Pounding on the table is almost the same as pounding on your face..it is basically sending you the same message, "This is what I'd like to do to YOU".

Throwing things is NOT good either, babies throw things when they have a temper tantrum, not grown men.

Screaming in your face, yelling at you, giving you threatening looks are his way of "controlling" you..and I can GUARANTEE you that he will only get worse, and you'll end up hurt, physically, emotionally, AND mentally.

Get out NOW, and don't waste another day with that immature, controlling abusive ***!!!

Answer 11

doesn't sound like a good situation for sure

why would you even want to be around that, let alone risk him hitting you?

"because you love him"

that's BS

it's because you're more scared to get out and be alone (or some other psychology babble) than you are of getting hit

if he loved you......truly loved you......he would NEVER even hint at hitting you

honestly, I wish the best to you

hopefully that's getting away from somebody who clearly has some anger issues

but if you stay with him, I hope you're happy....and healthy

if he ever lays a hand on you....get out

Answer 12

It doesnt matter that he hasnt hit you yet. A relationship can be just as abusive mentally as physically. It takes a mental toll on the victim and usually does lead to full on physical abuse. You are already in the abusive relationship youre hoping to avoid and the longer you stay the deeper the hole gets. Please make the right decision for yourself and get out

Answer 13

NO...YOU'RE NOT OVER REACTING! He clearly has anger issues, and the fact that he intimidates you is enough that you should be saying bye bye.  He's throwing things at you, and you think you may be overreacting?  There is no reason he should be intimidating you, yelling in your face, throwing things, etc.  That is unacceptable and shows that he has problems he needs to work out.  for your own safety and long term happiness, you need to get out now.  

Answer 14

Basically, you can take it for granted that problems (and arguments) don't get easier with marriage, so if you want this relationship to last, you can expect things to get worse.  Yes, it's a warning sign.  I recommend you get out of this relationship.