Do you think this is fair/unfair or am I just being a little selfish?

Question

My husband suggested that we trade in my vehicle that I had for a year. It has a few work that needs to be done not to mention my windshield is cracked and running down now. His vehicle is a not so new vehicle but he used that for his commute to work, and to drop off our daughter at the sitters. He works about 40 mins from where we live. I on the other hand work about 10 mins from work. He thinks it would save us money to trade my car in for a newer one. He says then he can drive it because he drives longer distances. I on the other hand think whats the point of trading my car in just for him to use it and I'll be stuck with his crappy car. Do you think that's fair or unfair?? When I think about it I sorta start feeling guilty and start thinking I'm being selfish. I mean after all he is driving my daughter to and from a longer distance. I just don't want to be driving his car period...what do you think? Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

The bigger problem is that he is an illegal alien. The fact that you said he is driving "your" daughter and not "our" daughter means that he is not the father and you married him so he could stay in the country. That being said, he wants a better car to drive so he is willing to sacrifice your junk car and give you his junk car so he can have a nice car. The selfish person in this relationship is him. Not you. My wife and I have two cars, an almost brand new Honda and a 10 year old Dodge. I drive the Dodge because she deserves to drive the newer car and the odds of the Dodge breaking down are greater. That's how women should be treated.

Answer 2

Would he consider trading his car in and using that one for the commute to work?  My hubby works 40 minutes away and I work 10 minutes away too.  He has been taking mine a lot b/c it gets much better gas mileage and it drives me crazy b/c I have to drop our son off and pick him up in my hubby's little sports car, grrrrr (not fun being pregnant, lol).  If my hubby were to suggest this, I would be furious.  I don't think you're being selfish at all.  He should trade his car in for a decent car w/ good gas mileage and use that one if he thinks he needs to drive a different/ newer one.

Answer 3

Can't answer without knowing the year, make, and model of both cars.

A NEW car may save on gas, but consider the higher cost of ins., payments, license renewal, service, etc, and maybe you WONT be money ahead.

A new car sure is a nice thing though.

Answer 4

have him buy his own car and you can keep yours or something

Answer 5

buy your own car

Answer 6

Why not just trade his in and get him a new vehicle?  Regardless of the shape of the vehicle, they s***w you on the trade in and you always end up with just about the same anyway (I worked at a car dealership for 3 years).

You are fine with your car and you only drive 10 minutes.  Let him get the new one.

Answer 7

first i see that there is no intimacy in ur relation and no long commitment is seen in ur relationship.

there shud not be ur or mine in a married relation but it shud be ours.

then u will no problem in settling this issue.

Answer 8

It seems like you should look at the whole issue.  Which car is cheaper to run now?  That seems like the car to keep.  If his car is cheaper to run but it looks like a piece of garbage, maybe you could get his car fixed.  When it comes down to it though, you have to be happy.  Don't give up a car you like for a piece of junk just to save a little money.  The resentment will affect your work and your home life.

Try to look at things objectively but accept that you are a human being and you have feelings.

Answer 9

whats the point of trading my car in just for him to use it and I'll be stuck with his crappy car.

^ tell him that! he'll love it...