Do you think this is fair?Is this a good reason to be mad?

Question

My mom and me had a fight JUST because I "sighed" when she asked me to take the 6 month old puppy out,I didn't want to because if I remember correctly I already had him out earlier and I always take him out but my mom never realizes or says thank you.Instead she screams,takes her anger out on me when I don't do anything and says "You never take the d**n dog out!!" When I do.(Yes my mother cusses a lot when around us and I'm 14,lots of anger issues but refuses to get help),and I asked her nicely to leave me a lone,because I also told her awhile back that maybe if I don't respond to her yelling,it won't cause more stress,anger,and argument.So I ignored her.And we were planning on going to the beach/boardwalk Thursday,so she goes saying "You can just forget about going to the beach Thursday!" Which really pisses me off,she did all this JUST BECAUSE I sighed.

What should I do and is this a reason for me to be upset?

Answer 1

you might think they have anger problems...but if you knew my parents then you would change your mind.My parents ahve anger problems and they can be so abusive sometimes.What I would do is ignore them.

Answer 2

There's no reason for you to be mad. It's you started that situation. Why have to sighed if your mom ask you to take the dog out.  You don't like to be bother right? lol Anyway, she is still your mother that needs respect no matter how many  times she asked you to do any household chores.  Maybe she is just a bit tired and upset sometimes. Being the mother and wife is a big role for your mom, so she needs support and understanding as well.  That beach schedule well I can see that she was giving you a lesson or like you are "grounded" or just trying to take out that feeling you dishonor her.  

Answer 3

Honestly if you did nothing wrong then yes I would say that you have the rite to be upset. Sounds to me that your mother may need to get rid of the puppy that she evidently don't want to help take care of and anger management classes.

Answer 4

google: coping with an angry parent

Answer 5

Your mom sounds a lot like my mom. She just sounds like she has a lot of anger issues and she is just looking for an excuse to go off. Don't let her see this question because that could make her really angry (if she's like my mom). It's a normal response for you to be upset if someone gets that angry with you. I wish I could have some better advice, but unfortunately I am still dealing with those issues with my mom, and haven't found any solutions. Just remember, it isn't your fault, especially if you did what she said (taking the dog out already). She may just have a lot of stress or unhappiness in her life, and it's not your fault. Sorry you have to put up with this, you deserve better. My mom curses a lot too, sometimes it is directed at me: calling me ***** or worthless piece of ****, so you're not alone on that one. I guess maybe try talking to her, let her know it upsets you when she gets mad at you, and if she doesn't change or just gets angrier at you, you know for sure that she's got the problem, try not to let if affect your self-esteem or self-worth, it's her problem.

Answer 6

I don't like sighing either.  If you took the dog out every time and it hadn't been long since you took her out, that is why you  signed then tell your mother that.

Apologize to her for not telling her that she had already taken out the dog. instead of sighing.

Answer 7

OOO LORD. i think that every kid goes through that at this age lol sorry to giggle looking back i did the EXACT same stuff with my mom!!  i know people tell you all the time that its just puberty and blah blah blah blah, but you have some reason to be upset but so does your mom, you dont realize the stress that they are went through just birthing and raising you, let alone the daily stresses of life and worrying about bills and car notes, i would say just take the dog out, and get over it theres not much you can do lol. now for her anger issues try counseling, or if she doesnt want that then im sure its just her being stressed and frustrated. i know you dont believe this but, you mom isnt saying no to doing things just because she can, she does things for a reason and later on in life you will understand , especially when you have your own kids.

BUT ON ANOTHER NOTE I WOULD SIT YOUR MOM DOWN ON A GOOD DAY AND COME UP WITH WAYS THAT YOU CAN TAK TO EACH OTHER WITHOUT HAVING AS MANY ARGUEMENTS. ITS A PAIN IN THE *** FOR BOTH OF YOU BUT IF YOU DONT WANT TO BE YELLING AT EACH OTHER THAN JUST DO IT.

ASLO YOUR MOM PROBLY TAKES SIGHING AS A SIGN OF DISRESPECT.....ITS A GIVEN.

SORRY FOR MY SPELLING IM IN A HURRY!