Do you think this is rude?

Question

I am having a small wedding in my backyard, September 30th. I am only inviting 20-some people, all who are close friends, and family, that live within 30 miles of where the wedding is to be held. It is not a formal ceremony, really just a ceremony, eat cake, and chill kinda thing.

Is it rude that I am sending out invites a month before the wedding?

I think that gives adequate time for close friends and family to come to a small wedding. But I have heard different from members of my family, and it is causing some tension, I just need some outside views.

Thanks

Answer 1

What's the reason that they think it is rude?  They obviously know the date, so they can plan ahead...

I'm not really sure what would be rude about it.  

Maybe if you just didn't send them an invite!!  That would show them!!

Answer 2

There's always certain guild lines to follow when planning a wedding, but it's really up to what you want to do. 1 month is plenty of time to plan, especially if everyone is fairly local. When you are trying to plan a wedding, sometimes things get forgotten or pushed back. If any of your family has ill feelings over when the invitations get mailed out, they need to get over that. Your wedding is supposed to be a celebration, not a headache!  

Answer 3

I wouldn't say it rude, but it is short notice.  You really need to give at least 6 weeks notice, especially to an event like a wedding (even an informal one)

People might have said, "Yes" to another event and now they can't get out of it.  They are upset because they really want to attend your wedding, but have already committed to something else.  However, if they had been given more time, this might not have been an issue.

It's not rude, but it does look like poor planning on your part.

Answer 4

I agree with bubbles

Answer 5

No its fine, if they are all living close by and its not a formal wedding then there shouldnt be any issues

Answer 6

Tension?  With a "formal" wedding the invite is sent 4-6 weeks in advance.  Ignore everyone who has a prob--the people whom mean the most will be there--most important you and your fiance will be there--your day.

Answer 7

If it is just a small informal wedding then a month is plenty of time. If it were a destination wedding or a larger wedding then you might need to give some advance notice. Maybe the family that is saying different really has some other issue with the wedding that they don't want to mention.  

Answer 8

Hi Martha and congratulations!

That is fine!  One month is plenty when you are having a small wedding.

I went to a family-only wedding a few years ago that was planned in two weeks...so they just called all of us!  Thankfully, we were able to go.  

Yours is close enough to everyone (within 30 miles).  Also, I am assuming that those 20 some people may already know about the wedding, so the invites are just a formality.

Go ahead and send them as soon as you have them ready.  Don't let family stress you out.

Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful day!

Answer 9

One month should be enough time. Six weeks or two months is usually recommended for those who are flying. If they're flying from out of country, six months is often recommended to ensure they get all the paperwork and international flights in order.

Answer 10

thats perfect, youll be fine!!

Answer 11

Maybe they wanted more warning so that they can save enough for your gifts without it interfering with the paying of bills.

Answer 12

Not at all.

its a small wedding with your closest people its not like your asking them to find flights to hawaii and spend a bunch of money in months notice. dont worry about that you should have other things on your mind!

besides its to late right

well i hope i helped!

Congratulations and good luck :)

Answer 13

If it is just close family I think a month is plenty of time.