Do you think this is sorta inconsiderate of them?

Question

I am a very private person and last week i told my supervisor/co workers I wouldn't be in this week because they were taking my mom off life support. I hated telling them the reason but I felt since I was taking off suddenly it would be better to explain my situation. Well, since then my supervisor and secretary has called wishing me well and pretty much requesting an "update". I have no problems with the wishing my family well BUT I feel I it borders on rude to call someone at home requesting follow up info on a personal situation. I feel like it is up to the person to decide if they want to provide further info. I know that you can't just drop news like that and not expect others to want to know what happened yet i feel they could use some digression.

Do you think my mentality about this is wrong?

Answer 1

I THINK THEY WERE DOING AS A GOOD THING AND I'M SURE THEY DID NOT MEAN TO OFFEND YOU AT ALL.. THEY ARE JUST MAKING SURE EVERYTHING IS OK....

Answer 2

I think your mentality is very wrong, you revealed a MAJOR issue, and these people are trying to show that they care for you, but you're calling that rude.  Isn't that part of what's wrong with the world today, that people don't care about what's going on with other people anymore?  Be glad you work somewhere where they care about you and not just their bottom line!

Answer 3

Not wrong at all, it is good manners to wait for an update, not to request one. On the other side of the coin though it is nice to have coworkers that care.

Answer 4

I am very sorry about your mom.

No, you are right.  They were, at the very least, inconsiderate and inappropriate.

Answer 5

The next time someone mentions it, tell them that this is something that this is a difficult situation and that it may take time to come to terms with it.  Eventually people will get bored of asking.

Answer 6

I think they are just in a quandary as to how they should approach such a sensitive moment in your life. I guarantee you their intents are probably good, but they just haven't dealt with a similar situation before. Instead, they should offer their condolences and pray for you (if you're religious).

I'm sorry for your situation & hope you will hold up well! You seem very well-mannered and composed by the way you wrote this. Peace<3

Answer 7

i agree with you that is sorta rude... but i wudnt argue with them...

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Answer 8

I think they are trying to be considerate but just judging it wrong, just explain to them that at the moment you would prefer not to talk about it and stick to the basic information that they would need to know, like when you are expecting to go back.  They probably don't know what the best thing is to do and are trying to help.  Alternatively they might be being nosy, but even that might be better than if they all ignored you and pretended nothing had happened like some people do (usually because they don't know how to deal with intensely personal things).

Answer 9

Very inconsiderate...they should have just sent food or flowers and not contacted you at all.

I'm sorry about your mother.