Do you think this is this fair?

Question

my mom has a new boyfriend, and she has been doing everything with him, and spending her entire weekend at his house. i understand her doing that when my sister and i are at our dads but shouldnt she at least be doing something with us when its her weekend. i mean whenever i go to my dads he's always excited to see us and plans stuff fun stuff to do. and then with my mom shes always doing somehting on her own. like they sometimes go out for dinner or to the beach and not once have they ever invited my sister and i to come along. my mom says she wants us to get to know him but shes not really making any kind of effort for that to happen. like today she left the house at 12pm and wont be home til 12am. its not like i don't have a life, but my sister is a little younger. and also the only times my mom has ever gone through the effort and her wanting to make a nice dinner is when he comes over. and then i remember once when we were almost finished eating and her boyfriend was there my mom kinda looked at my sister and i like ``you can go now, so we can be alone``

i am selfish or is this just normal

Answer 1

Well you know.

If I were you,

I'd feel that way too.

But likeee.

ur mother just wants to spend time with him and stuff you know.

she really should be paying more attention to you guys tho.

you should tell her ur feelings.

n maybe.

just maybe she'll do something about it.

talking it out is always the best solution.

Answer 2

Your mom is getting to know him it's normal. You should talk to your mom and say mom can you spend sometime with me and my sister. Asking people is not going to help. Get going

from someone who cares

Answer 3

It is normal, especially if she is in a new relationship. However, she should still make time for you. You should talk to her and just say you miss her and would like to spend some time with her. Invite the boyfriend along. It would make your mom feel better.

Answer 4

Your mom is courting... and as the kids, you have been effectively left behind. Expect it. You cannot compete with her BF.

Talk to your dad and explain that you are being neglected. See if he would like to have you and your sister come move in with him permanently. He will probably be delighted to keep the child support money, and will probably take you down to the family court.

At age 12, a judge will hear you, and at 14 you have the ability to determine for yourself who you will live with. Use that to your advantage.

Answer 5

You should probably learn to cook. Then you could cook your mom, sister and mom's boyfriend a nice dinner and get to know him.

Your mom is a person who deserves to have a life, too.

I think you sound a little self-absorbed.

Answer 6

You aren't being selfish, maybe you should tell your mom that you'd like to do a family thing with your mom, her boyfriend and your sister.

You could arrange to go somewhere, and then tell your mom about it, if she doesnt like the idea, tell her that you want to get to know him better and think you should spend some time together.

Answer 7

No, you are not being selfish.  It's normal for you to feel like that.  As you have been used that your mom's attention is focused on you.  Just try to understand your mom too, i guess they are in the "getting to know each other" stage.  She deserves to be happy too.

Answer 8

that is not fair at all you should tell her theat you dont like feeling like a nobody at least theats wai i would do

Answer 9

well just from your story it seems that your isn't being fair and she does seem a little selfish. You should never ever put a man before your own children. Shes not really setting a good example for sister and your sister could probably become angry with your mom! maybe the two of you need to sit down with her and just tell her how ya'll feel, because she could be oblivious to what shes doing.