Do you think this is unfair of me?

Question

I am 5 months pregnant and we found out we're having a girl, my moms friend had a baby last year and gave me all her clothes, but she had a boy, of course some of the stuff is unisex and I can use. I plan to have more then one kid and was just going to put up the clothes in case the next ones a boy. Anyways we found out my cousin is pregnant, I am due in December and shes due in February. Well she got pregnant by some guy she barely knows, you know a friend with benefits. Well I stopped talking to her last December after she screwed me over, I had asked her to be in my wedding and she said she would and then said she had no money I knew it was a hard time for her, and told her I would pay for her dress, it was like $120, and if she needed anything else to let me know, all she needed to do was give me her size and I would order her dress and have it sent to her, this went back and forth for months, finally I told her I was running short on time, she yelled at me and told me she didnt have the money...idk, so she ended up being let go of her duties, which caused us not to talk, and I had to get someone at the last minute. Well My mom was talking to her mom, and told her to let us know what shes going to have and we can send her the clothes I am not using (which I would never see again, of course I could buy more, and yes they were given to me) but after all the c**p she put me through I am not going to spend the money to ship her anything....is this unfair of me, should I just do it ?

Answer 1

I wouldn't.  It's half her fault she got pregnant and it's not your fault you got free stuff.  Sure you could give it all away and buy more later IF you have a boy, but why do something nice for someone when it's all you've ever done and just got trodden in the mud for it???  

Answer 2

I would suggest you help her.  Yes, she's been a jerk, but as you can see what goes around comes around; and you are in a waaaaaay better position than she is. In addition to an out-of-wedlock child, she has to contend with always being at other's mercy.

Bless her and you will be blessed.

Hope this helps and congratulations on your pregnancy, and mature outlook on the situation!

Answer 3

nope, I would not send the clothes to her.  I have been burnt over and over by people and to be honest with you, if this is the type of person she is, then she would probably not realize anyways that she has treated you bad.  I know this for a fact.  I gave and gave and gave to my in-laws, and they still treated me bad--- and now I refuse to do anything for them because I realized they don't care or even understand that they are rude and hurtful to me.

Answer 4

I think you should send her the clothes. My cousin gave all her baby's old clothes to my sister when she had a baby. My cousin has been trying to have another baby for years, so she could have kept all those clothes, but she gave them away. Of course, my sister and cousin aren't mad at each other, but it's still a nice thing to do.

Answer 5

I agree with the first girl.  Maybe it will make her feel bad about how she treated you.

Answer 6

Id do it. Its best to fix broken bridges. Maybe you can get a good friend out of this and she will end up feeling bad for how she had treated you.