Do you think this way?

Question

When ever I am at college I see people sitting alone. I really have an urge to go up and meet these people, the only problem is these people all look 100 times better than I do. So for that reason I never go up to them and talk to them because I know they will immediately reject me.

Does anyone else think this way?

Answer 1

yeah I do sometimes...but just think..you'er afraid they are going to reject you bc of how you look or whatever..but aren't you doing the same thing? Judging how they will be based on their looks?

Answer 2

no but if you want 2 approach sum1 do it coz you only live once okay!

Answer 3

If you're only talking to them in hopes of a romantic or sexual relationship, then you need to rethink your methods.  But if you're just trying to meet new people and make new friends, then I'm sure most people wouldn't mind if you went up and talked to them (assuming they're not preoccupied), even if you're less than attractive.  But I do know what you mean about being intimidated by the physical attractiveness of people; I'm in college too and often get nervous around beautiful people.

Answer 4

nothing wrong with that

it's nice to make new friends and it's also nice to make people feel welcome if they look alone

Answer 5

I don't choose my friends based on what they look like.

If you came up to me and said hi I think we would be buddies for sure :D

Answer 6

Don't be afraid. Everybody likes to make friends with new people.

Answer 7

Do I worry about looking too bad to talk to someone? No. I'm overweight and maybe someone thinks that of me, but I'm seldom down on myself. It's just not something I have the capacity to feel, although I understand those who do. Do I immediately reject people who I think look worse than me? I don't particularly enjoy uninvited company, but I do try to approach people with an attitude of respect and "What can I learn from this person"? If they are truly and unrepentently bothersome, I try to kindly let them go and get more blunt from then on. Do I have an urge to walk up to people and talk with them? No. Never. If I need something I make a brief request and go on.  

Answer 8

You'll get mixed reactions, but they'll all add to you.

Answer 9

be SMART

all of a sudden you'll be popular believe me

that's what I did ♥

Answer 10

For anything the beginning looks scary. Not only for your but also for the other people too. So Don’t worry!! Once you give the start they will definitely continue.

Answer 11

your different. your deeper then other people. most people, don't think that way. alot of them are shallow and don't thinkk really.. lol. it's really an advantage to be like tht though. on yer part. there are so many things you will discover as you get older, that they'll miss out on.

Answer 12

When I was in college and if I saw a girl that was cute I would go up to her if she was by herself and talk to her. Most of them were really awesome and had great personalities and not your average bar chick. Go ahead if you get rejected just get back up on you feet. Confidence is key my friend.  

Answer 13

I get that feeling a lot too. but I always go for it. You never know what will happen. fear can only hold you back. courage will bring new exciting ppl to ur life.  

Answer 14

I do. I love quiet people who are by themselves. Life is too short just talk to them. You may be surprised one day.

Answer 15

Never hesitate to do good cause, specially If you are trying selflessly to help someone.may be he/she is in a serious problem.

everyone is not like that always, something molds them to be that way.

but its not so easy to help quiet people as they don't trust anyone so easily.

Try to win their confidence and make them believe that you are not their friend for selfish reasons.

Good luck and keep doing good work.

Regards,

Hardik

Answer 16

Well are you planning to ask them out on a date? If NO, don't worry about it. I am an exceptionally good looking guy and I always am open to conversing with ugly people. It makes me feel better about myself.

Answer 17

yeh man i used to think like that but i changed, for the better

   you just need courage man,  get some of that and youll love life i gaurentee it i got some and from that day my life got so much better, i got a after school job, a girlfriend,  great friends  and  man everythings goiong great =]

i hope you can find some man

hope all goes well for you man